Awful thoughts Please help......

summerarmahni · Dec 5th, 2009, 08:46 AM

Ive been having these awful thoughts about bad things happening to my daughter, i have them when am sleeping or when i read things, or just sat there and they just hit me and i start crying

there really vivid, the thoughts are stuff like, her getting lost in a big crowd, or been hit by a car, or been kidnapped, or abused, or dieing etc you get what i mean ive been having them for ages now nearly two years and its making me real sad,

i just start crying and its making me paronoid about everything and everyone. i think i would actually just stop living if anything like these happen to her as shes my whole life i cant explain the love i have for her, i dont know how to stop them reduce them as there making me loony anyone else been like this ????

summerarmahni · Dec 5th, 2009, 11:34 AM

Jules · Dec 5th, 2009, 11:41 AM

Didn't want to read and leave without saying anything, dont really know what to suggest

Have you thought about seeing a doctor? if you have been like this for a couple of years maybe worth a visit, Maybe an anxiety problem or something

BabyHaines · Dec 5th, 2009, 12:13 PM

oh honey

I dread this, as I am bad enough worrying about my bump. Sometimes I cry myself to sleep just thinking 'what if' and it is horrible.
I can only suggest as (Jules said) that it might be worth a trip to the doctors, as they might recommend some counselling or something??
Whatever happens, you will get lots of support on here and you have your lovely new bundle of joy to look forward to!!xx

thompsonic · Dec 5th, 2009, 15:51 PM

I don't have kids but I get thoughts like this all the time, but mine are more complicated and more to do with me accidentally doing things... like I can't get the thought out of my head of dropping a baby down the stairs... However I have strong OCD tendencies which I think is the cause of it... I would recommend going to the doctor as well, it can help just to talk to someone..

pinkbow · Dec 5th, 2009, 16:01 PM

hey hun

i get the exact same, about everyone i love...and now my little man is here, i even HATE going to sleep, i wish i could watch him allll the time!...i constantly think the worst and people dying, it really is awful and want it to go...

i went to docs and have been told i have ocd which is causing all my anxiety(i also wash my hands constantly amongst other things lol) and have to go for more tests etc...def head to ur docs and see what they can do for you hunni

pm if u ever wanna chat

thompsonic · Dec 5th, 2009, 16:04 PM

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Originally Posted by rachydaz

hey hun

i get the exact same, about everyone i love...and now my little man is here, i even HATE going to sleep, i wish i could watch him allll the time!...i constantly think the worst and people dying, it really is awful and want it to go...

i went to docs and have been told i have ocd which is causing all my anxiety(i also wash my hands constantly amongst other things lol) and have to go for more tests etc...def head to ur docs and see what they can do for you hunni

pm if u ever wanna chat

If you don't mind me asking, what did they do to diagnose you? Whenever I'm stressed I get horrible OCD-type things, to the point where I get hysterical if I have to break my routines etc... It was worse last year and is better but I still have many things that aren't quite right... however I went to my doctor and she just said it was stress and it would get better... what kind of questions did they ask you etc?

summerarmahni · Dec 5th, 2009, 16:10 PM

thanks everyone for having a read n sayin bout docs, now u mention the ocd, my family have always joked i have oce cos am very fussy with a few things by no means am i clean freak but i have certain ways about things such as i cant have my mams dog in my house or i get all stressed and heart racing, and i have to make my bed every morning and i have to have my smelly air freshers on etc etc loads more lol so am going to take all ya advice and pop to docs in the next week or two thanks everyone

jazmine18 · Dec 5th, 2009, 16:13 PM

i get these thoughts too..so i know how you feel, sometimes i try to just push them out of my mind, but i end up crying alot over them, anything i do i imagine what could happen to her and that i could never cope without out her and end up crying myself to sleep...i had to take her her to hospital twice in the last 3 months cause her breathing got really bad, and after that the thoughts got even worse. when i was younger i used to have these thoughts about my mum, but now its kinda shifted to sophia. a few times, when she had lil accidents, or chocked when she was a newborn i would be physically sick thinking about what could have happened..i never really told anyone before, so dont have much advice, but your not alone.. xxx

pinkbow · Dec 5th, 2009, 16:14 PM

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Originally Posted by thompsonic

Quote:

Originally Posted by rachydaz

hey hun

i get the exact same, about everyone i love...and now my little man is here, i even HATE going to sleep, i wish i could watch him allll the time!...i constantly think the worst and people dying, it really is awful and want it to go...

i went to docs and have been told i have ocd which is causing all my anxiety(i also wash my hands constantly amongst other things lol) and have to go for more tests etc...def head to ur docs and see what they can do for you hunni

pm if u ever wanna chat

If you don't mind me asking, what did they do to diagnose you? Whenever I'm stressed I get horrible OCD-type things, to the point where I get hysterical if I have to break my routines etc... It was worse last year and is better but I still have many things that aren't quite right... however I went to my doctor and she just said it was stress and it would get better... what kind of questions did they ask you etc?

I dont mind at all

Ive been to the docs soooo many times, all id get was, oh ur just stressd try taking a hobby...

its not stress!!!!

...

so basically i went to docs(a diff one lol) and was like im so embarassd but im not leaving till u help me, i have these thoughts, routines, my hands are raw from scrubbing them etc etc and kinda broke down as i felt like an idiot..and he talked through alot of things with me, what makes me feel i HAVE to do certain things, any stress triggers ive had, when and why i think it started...just a load of questions and said i think u have OCD but we'll need to look into this further on how we can help...so ive to go to a specialist in it...that was basically it...ive been like this since i was young, drives me mad, but since having LO its just got a billion times worse that its not healthy, hope that helps

if u dont mind what kinda "quirks" do u have?

Dec 5th, 2009, 08:46 AM	#1
summerarmahni Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Hull Posts: 900	Awful thoughts Please help...... Ive been having these awful thoughts about bad things happening to my daughter, i have them when am sleeping or when i read things, or just sat there and they just hit me and i start crying there really vivid, the thoughts are stuff like, her getting lost in a big crowd, or been hit by a car, or been kidnapped, or abused, or dieing etc you get what i mean ive been having them for ages now nearly two years and its making me real sad, i just start crying and its making me paronoid about everything and everyone. i think i would actually just stop living if anything like these happen to her as shes my whole life i cant explain the love i have for her, i dont know how to stop them reduce them as there making me loony anyone else been like this ????

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Jules Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Yorkshire Posts: 1,812	Didn't want to read and leave without saying anything, dont really know what to suggest Have you thought about seeing a doctor? if you have been like this for a couple of years maybe worth a visit, Maybe an anxiety problem or something

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BabyHaines Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Suffolk, UK Posts: 2,297	oh honey I dread this, as I am bad enough worrying about my bump. Sometimes I cry myself to sleep just thinking 'what if' and it is horrible. I can only suggest as (Jules said) that it might be worth a trip to the doctors, as they might recommend some counselling or something?? Whatever happens, you will get lots of support on here and you have your lovely new bundle of joy to look forward to!!xx

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pinkbow Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 4,748	hey hun i get the exact same, about everyone i love...and now my little man is here, i even HATE going to sleep, i wish i could watch him allll the time!...i constantly think the worst and people dying, it really is awful and want it to go... i went to docs and have been told i have ocd which is causing all my anxiety(i also wash my hands constantly amongst other things lol) and have to go for more tests etc...def head to ur docs and see what they can do for you hunni pm if u ever wanna chat

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summerarmahni Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Hull Posts: 900	thanks everyone for having a read n sayin bout docs, now u mention the ocd, my family have always joked i have oce cos am very fussy with a few things by no means am i clean freak but i have certain ways about things such as i cant have my mams dog in my house or i get all stressed and heart racing, and i have to make my bed every morning and i have to have my smelly air freshers on etc etc loads more lol so am going to take all ya advice and pop to docs in the next week or two thanks everyone

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jazmine18 Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: London Posts: 919	i get these thoughts too..so i know how you feel, sometimes i try to just push them out of my mind, but i end up crying alot over them, anything i do i imagine what could happen to her and that i could never cope without out her and end up crying myself to sleep...i had to take her her to hospital twice in the last 3 months cause her breathing got really bad, and after that the thoughts got even worse. when i was younger i used to have these thoughts about my mum, but now its kinda shifted to sophia. a few times, when she had lil accidents, or chocked when she was a newborn i would be physically sick thinking about what could have happened..i never really told anyone before, so dont have much advice, but your not alone.. xxx

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