Delaying the pregnancy announcement at work

vespersonicca · Dec 14th, 2009, 13:18 PM

Hi! I'm interested in hearing about your experiences of revealing your pregnancy to your workplace. I work in daycare and will eventually need to say something but am more concerned about covering up the doctor appts (which are all during our business hours) until I'm ready to say...

What about morning sickness? Mine hasn't started (and hopefully never will!!) but how can you hide nausea and vomiting in such a close environment as a kindergarten???

mrsraggle · Dec 14th, 2009, 14:12 PM

How far gone are you?

I only had one doc appointment before 12 weeks so I just took an hour out of work for that. And I had annual leave for the day of the scan.

I told my boss at 8 weeks that I was pg because I was very sick with MS and had a few days off work/couldn't handle morning meetings. She didn't say anything to anyone until I was ready to announce at 13 weeks.

I didn't hide my nausea very well as it was so bad - but just sipped water/drinks all day and had ginger biscuits to hand!

vespersonicca · Dec 14th, 2009, 15:49 PM

I just got the positive test and this is the beginning of week 5 so I should have at least a few days of feeling reasonably well. I guess my boss will be the first to know, especially if I have bad MS.

I just don't really want all the imagining the next year without me to start so soon. All those "oh yeah, but you won't be here" comments will undoubtedly hurt a little. I'll have one appt. in January and then the first ultrasound. Shouldn't be too many appts but considering I rarely ever have them it might seem suspicious. At the moment I'm thinking to say after I reach the 2 trimester.

aliss · Dec 15th, 2009, 19:02 PM

I told my boss at 4 weeks (when I found out) and the rest of the girls knew at 6 weeks. I know that is very soon but it also depends on what line of work you are in. I am a 911 operator/police dispatcher and sometimes had to throw up at my desk as I simply can't get up and walk out during a robbery! LOL! Really, it is what you feel comfortable with.

belladonna · Dec 16th, 2009, 03:14 AM

I told my boss pretty much straight away so I didn't have any problems getting time off for appointments etc and I told her that I didn't want anyone to know yet, but she still told everyone

But yesterday a couple of collegues were chatting and they said 'when the new person starts' and I said 'What new person?' and they told me that they were to replace me when I left! WTF! I said I am coming back you know! And later in the afternoon they were interviewing bloody school leavers! I don't 'officially' on ML until two weeks before my EDD so to do interviews now seems a little premature. I'm starting to think about finding a new job after ML

as my job could easily be covered by others in the office and they way they have done this hurts a bit.

kaylynn040485 · Dec 16th, 2009, 03:58 AM

I think u will actually find telling your boss sooner works better for u, u wont need to worry about appointments and it shouldnt come out of your annual leave and if u request that no one else is told then he/she has to follow your wishes until your ready for everyone to know. I told my boss fairly early just because he is a bit of a pain and i worried he would realise i was preg and try get rid of me and once u inform them then cannot do this. Hope it all goes well for u Kx

vespersonicca · Dec 16th, 2009, 13:04 PM

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Originally Posted by belladonna

I told my boss pretty much straight away so I didn't have any problems getting time off for appointments etc and I told her that I didn't want anyone to know yet, but she still told everyone

But yesterday a couple of collegues were chatting and they said 'when the new person starts' and I said 'What new person?' and they told me that they were to replace me when I left! WTF! I said I am coming back you know! And later in the afternoon they were interviewing bloody school leavers! I don't 'officially' on ML until two weeks before my EDD so to do interviews now seems a little premature. I'm starting to think about finding a new job after ML

as my job could easily be covered by others in the office and they way they have done this hurts a bit.

Yeah! Exactly what I fear. Working in a kindergarten is like having a home away from home. I don't wanna hear about my "replacement" before I have to. Really sucks that your boss didn't respect your wishes. I'd be PISSED off! I don't think that would happen at my work thankfully.

vespersonicca · Dec 16th, 2009, 13:14 PM

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Originally Posted by kaylynn040485

I told my boss fairly early just because he is a bit of a pain and i worried he would realise i was preg and try get rid of me and once u inform them then cannot do this. Hope it all goes well for u Kx

I should check out what the laws say here in Finland about that. I don't have a permanent work contract. It just gets renewed every year at the moment. My maternity leave will start about half way through my month vacation in July. I will get the last half of the vacation as extra salary since I've already earned the vacation days but the second half is legally maternity leave. My contract will officially end in June. I wonder if my employer is even obligated to pay the maternity leave... it probably wouldn't make sense for her to renew my contract but then can she do that just because I'm pregnant and the timing for the school year is bad?

vespersonicca · Dec 31st, 2009, 12:00 PM

I can definitely say that I'm VERY worried about hiding anything now. My MS has started and with a vengence. I walk around and start gagging for no reason...sometime until I vomit. Anything or nothing at all can set it off! I'm pretty worried about throwing up all over the floor at the supermarket or, worse yet, while I'm serving the kindergarten lunch!

Windmills · Jan 1st, 2010, 16:13 PM

I only just told work this week

I'm not on a permanant contract either- infact, I'm 5 weeks into a 12 month fixed contract x

Dec 14th, 2009, 13:18 PM	#1
vespersonicca Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Espoo, Finland Posts: 648	Delaying the pregnancy announcement at work Hi! I'm interested in hearing about your experiences of revealing your pregnancy to your workplace. I work in daycare and will eventually need to say something but am more concerned about covering up the doctor appts (which are all during our business hours) until I'm ready to say... What about morning sickness? Mine hasn't started (and hopefully never will!!) but how can you hide nausea and vomiting in such a close environment as a kindergarten???

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Dec 14th, 2009, 14:12 PM	#2
mrsraggle Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: North Birmingham/South Staffs Posts: 9,092	How far gone are you? I only had one doc appointment before 12 weeks so I just took an hour out of work for that. And I had annual leave for the day of the scan. I told my boss at 8 weeks that I was pg because I was very sick with MS and had a few days off work/couldn't handle morning meetings. She didn't say anything to anyone until I was ready to announce at 13 weeks. I didn't hide my nausea very well as it was so bad - but just sipped water/drinks all day and had ginger biscuits to hand!

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Dec 14th, 2009, 15:49 PM	#3
vespersonicca Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Espoo, Finland Posts: 648	I just got the positive test and this is the beginning of week 5 so I should have at least a few days of feeling reasonably well. I guess my boss will be the first to know, especially if I have bad MS. I just don't really want all the imagining the next year without me to start so soon. All those "oh yeah, but you won't be here" comments will undoubtedly hurt a little. I'll have one appt. in January and then the first ultrasound. Shouldn't be too many appts but considering I rarely ever have them it might seem suspicious. At the moment I'm thinking to say after I reach the 2 trimester.

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Dec 15th, 2009, 19:02 PM	#4
aliss AutoSignup (SAAB) BnB Elite Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Québec Posts: 14,783	I told my boss at 4 weeks (when I found out) and the rest of the girls knew at 6 weeks. I know that is very soon but it also depends on what line of work you are in. I am a 911 operator/police dispatcher and sometimes had to throw up at my desk as I simply can't get up and walk out during a robbery! LOL! Really, it is what you feel comfortable with.

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Dec 16th, 2009, 03:14 AM	#5
belladonna Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Hertfordshire, UK Posts: 962	I told my boss pretty much straight away so I didn't have any problems getting time off for appointments etc and I told her that I didn't want anyone to know yet, but she still told everyone But yesterday a couple of collegues were chatting and they said 'when the new person starts' and I said 'What new person?' and they told me that they were to replace me when I left! WTF! I said I am coming back you know! And later in the afternoon they were interviewing bloody school leavers! I don't 'officially' on ML until two weeks before my EDD so to do interviews now seems a little premature. I'm starting to think about finding a new job after ML as my job could easily be covered by others in the office and they way they have done this hurts a bit.

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Dec 16th, 2009, 03:58 AM	#6
kaylynn040485 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Glasgow Posts: 4,875	I think u will actually find telling your boss sooner works better for u, u wont need to worry about appointments and it shouldnt come out of your annual leave and if u request that no one else is told then he/she has to follow your wishes until your ready for everyone to know. I told my boss fairly early just because he is a bit of a pain and i worried he would realise i was preg and try get rid of me and once u inform them then cannot do this. Hope it all goes well for u Kx

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Dec 31st, 2009, 12:00 PM	#9
vespersonicca Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Espoo, Finland Posts: 648	I can definitely say that I'm VERY worried about hiding anything now. My MS has started and with a vengence. I walk around and start gagging for no reason...sometime until I vomit. Anything or nothing at all can set it off! I'm pretty worried about throwing up all over the floor at the supermarket or, worse yet, while I'm serving the kindergarten lunch!

Status: Offline

Jan 1st, 2010, 16:13 PM	#10
Windmills Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 8,419	I only just told work this week I'm not on a permanant contract either- infact, I'm 5 weeks into a 12 month fixed contract x

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