Hi everybody! I have been extremely broody the past couple of months and have decided to come off the pill to get myself physically ready for a baby. I have some worries though! I'm sure they are normal worries but the main ones are what the parents would think. I know it's my choice and everything, but I personally think 20 is about the youngest age for me to have children (I realise it is different for everybody though so I'm not saying younger isn't acceptable). I think that my mum wouldn't be over the moon about it, but I know she would be more understanding as my older sister was pregnant at 17 and wasn't ready. My dad is the biggest worry! I remember him telling me not to get pregnant! I was 18 at the time though and wasn't interested anyway so agreed that 25 was OK. (not a deadly serious conversation if you know what i mean though :s) in my mum n dads eyes I have been the career minded girl, and though I haven't gone to university and they were fine about that, I think they wouldn't be too happy with me. I know they would come round but arghhh I'm going on sorry hehe! Basically, I want to know what you think to wanting to start a family at 20? I have been with my OH for nearly 3 and a half years, been living with him almost 1, things are great between us and we both feel ready. Thanks for reading

hey I'm in a similar situation to you really. Few months younger though Check out my journal (its boring but you'll know my story then!). I don't think there is anything wrong with wanting to/starting a family at 20 as long as you know what you're getting yourself into if that makes sense!!!

My mum and dad said dont have kids for a few years but when I talked to my dad about it he smiled and looked a bit excited about the thought of being a grandad.

good luck. Try starting a journal, they really help and I promise to read!!
xxx

Heya,

Well, I guess I'm in the same situation more or less to. I am 20, and me and OH are on a break from trying at the minute, but we are trying for our first baby. Me and OH have decided that we will both be very happy, and it will make us complete. We are looking for our own place at the minute, and we are excited about it all. We lost a baby last month, which was planned, and we are still completely devastated.

My parent's are both older parents and want to have grandchildren soon so they can enjoy the time with them when they are still young enough to be active with them. I have only just found this out, which shocked me, but pleased me so much.

If you ever need to chat to anyone, then this is the place to come. Wishing you all the luck in the world..xx

Hey, if you feel you and you OH are ready and you are emotionally and financially stable then I see no reason why not to. Have you discussed with with your partner? At the end of the day it has to be a decision between you two and nothing we can say nor anything your parents might thing will matter.

Have you any real reason (not including what others might think) for your to wait? If not then... What are you waiting for?

I was 19 when I got pregnant, (yes planned) OH was 20, and I was 20 when we had Alexa... we had been together for quite a few years, and living together for 2 years when she was born. I think as long as you are supporting yourself, and you have a healthy relationship, and you both make your own money, then it is okay. Yeah, your parents might now be happy at first, but as long as you are not under their roof, I am sure they will be fine with it..

It really does depend on what your boyfriend/husband thinks of the situation, really. You might be ready at 20, but is he? Wouldn't be fair, really, to come off the pill and get pregnant when it's something he's not emotionally ready for.

I agree with Tasha, any younger and i would say not to but 20 is a decent age, you should really be independant by then and have made some kind of life for yourself.

I started TTC at the age of 20 and it took me almost 2 years before i conceived Brooke.

Good luck with whatever you decide

I got married at 20 and got pregnant a month later. We werent trying but we werent preventing. I am 22 in may and still TTC. I think if you feel ready then go for it! Good luck!! xx

I kinda was in the same situation, Im 20 and getting married in March wit a little one on the way, about 7months ago was made to choose my mums side of the family or my OH, and choose to stay with my OH (long story so wont go into it) but we had already started trying for a baby, a month later i found out i was pregnant and was over the moon. You parents will come round hun, but dont forget it will take a good 3 months for the pill to come out of your system, but some girls are different it only took me 2 months and i had been on the implant at the same time. You can still have a career and look after baby. Im in the forces, and im going back to work after baby is born,there is alot to think about but im sure you will make the right choice. Good luck hun!!!! xxx

Hi, yea he is ready, I couldn't do that to him if he wasn't ready. Infact, he is the one that made it more of a reality than something we just thought about! I would feel silly if he didn't want one. Thanks for your post though! x