I want another baby it's too soon though, for various reasons. I can't stop thinking about it though. I just look at Holly and I love her SO much I can't wait to do it all again and the waiting is becoming really hard! So this has to be done! A list of reasons why its too soon just for my own sanity! Feel free to add yours ladies

1. My body isn't ready. I have read you should wait 12 months between babies to reduce the chance of miscarriage, I want to lose a few lbs and my scarring is still making dtd painful so we couldnt ttc even if we really wanted to!

2. My OH isn't ready and it isn't fair to pressure him into having a baby he isn't ready for yet.

3. The age gap would be too small. I want a small age gap but really 2 years is the smallest we should consider. My baby needs me! Not a mum who's too busy throwing up to care for her properly in first tri then has a newborn to attend to while she is still v. dependent.

4. I have uni to do. Will be starting Open Uni in feb and need to get studying established before thinking about expanding our family

and finally, 5. Would like a 3 bedroom house by the time Holly is about 5 so they can have their own rooms. Need to save money and having another baby isn't a great way to save money

For me:

1) I am a mature student and the soon as I can TTC is October?November time so the due date would fall just after graduation but just before anything else I would have to start (hoping to get onto a PGCE). This said I would be heavily pregnant in my third year and with my son I had a high risk pregnancy so I would have to hope this time ran more smoothly, this may not be sensible thinking.

2) My son's things are overrunning out house and we need to move to a 3-4 bedroom house with more downstairs living space too. We rent and are planning to do this in the next few months.

3) My son has hit the terrible twos and I would not mind a bit more time dealing with that before getting pregnant.

All that said I am feeling impatient and know if we had thought about it sooner we probably could have fit TTC in 2-4 months back but not now.

I'm so broody right now but I know I have to wait until at least June
1) We live in a 2 bedroom apartment, with one car, and have no family around to help out
2) My German is awful and life can be hard enough with one, let alone 2 under 18 months
3) we are flying back to the US in November for my best friend's wedding and want to stay until Christmas
4) We have no idea when we are moving back to the US and I don't want to do it heavily pregnant or with a newborn
5) Though I want them close in age, I want to give my body some time to recover
and lose the last 10 pounds
6) There are places I still want to see and know I couldn't do it with 2 small kids, though I can manage with 1

I alternate between really broody and thinking I'm crazy for even considering it?!

We need to wait because:

1) I imagine the longer between pregnancies gives me more chance of achieving a VBAC

2) We need to wait till LO is at least 3 when new baby is born so we can afford childcare.

3) In the process of setting up a new business so can't just go swanning off on maternity leave

4) My horse is coming home from his loan home this year and I want some quality time with him again before another pregnancy.

5) I would ideally like LO out of nappies and buggy before we have another newborn.

thanks for replies its interesting to hear other peoples reasons for wtt and be in the same boat! just trying to remember what it was like before we had holly and when i kept putting it off for various reasons..need to get back in that mindset! its so much harder now we have a baby cos i know what it's like to be preg/give birth and have a lo and love it