Really?! You are 3 years younger than me?!

NennaKay · Jan 18th, 2012, 23:22 PM

I was doing so well waiting to try for my own babies, but today has been beyond batty! In the last 6 months at least 3 of my facebook friends have given birth and 6 have announced pregnacies.

Today a girl I graduated with gave birth to her 3rd child.... She is only 24! Even worse, my neighbor who is three years younger than me announced her 3rd pregnancy-- she is only 21!

To make matters worse, I'm taking classes this semester and one of my classmates has a 6 month old baby and is due again in May.

When I saw my neighbor's announcement I started to tear up... So depressing... I'm so ready to start my family, but finances, school, and my husband say "NOT YET"!

goddess25 · Jan 19th, 2012, 00:28 AM

I am so sorry, I know it can be frustrating but it will be your time soon.

NennaKay · Jan 19th, 2012, 01:02 AM

I know it... And I don't want to be the nagging wife who always talks about kids... It's just frustrating when people younger than me are having 1st, 2nd, and 3rd babies.

I'm terrified that my husband's low testosterone is going to affect how long until, or even if, we can have our own children.

I don't want to wait forever to try and then have it take a long time to concieve.

Thanks for the encouraging words though.

calliebaby · Jan 19th, 2012, 02:27 AM

I know this is not what you want to hear, but it is worth waiting for. I had my first at 28 and it was the best time for me and my husband. When you are both ready, it makes it that much more special. 7 months will go by before you can even blink and before you know it, you will be ttc #2 and #3 and so on.

HazzaB · Jan 19th, 2012, 03:46 AM

But you are being sensible. Your children will grow up hopefully stable as you will have prepared for them. And you wont have regrets! You wont wish that you had saved more money, or finished school. Your time will come soon hun. Just try and enjoy the time you have to still be free and not have the responsibility of a baby.

MarineWAG · Jan 19th, 2012, 08:20 AM

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Originally Posted by calliebaby

I know this is not what you want to hear, but it is worth waiting for. I had my first at 28 and it was the best time for me and my husband. When you are both ready, it makes it that much more special. 7 months will go by before you can even blink and before you know it, you will be ttc #2 and #3 and so on.

Second this.......as someone who had a child at 22 not quite as set up as I would have liked to have been, I am sooo excited about doing it again because next time we will be so much more prepared mentally and financially, having DS was incredible but I feel like we missed out on things in the first year because we were having to worry about other things like money if you get me. It'll be here before you know it, it's crazy how fast time goes in adulthood!! Boo!

I Love Lucy · Jan 19th, 2012, 11:46 AM

Like the other posters have said, waiting means you'll be more prepared for a baby. I know it's frustrating seeing people around you getting pregnant, especially if you think they shouldn't be having babies right now. But at least you know when you and your husband have kids, you will be able to provide for your child financially and have a stable relationship.

Vicky_3 · Jan 19th, 2012, 12:17 PM

Yeah I agree with the other posters. You are doing the right thing by waiting and trying to make your life better for you and your baby. I am constantly seeing women who are in the early 20s getting pregnant and their other half has like 3 jobs just to get food on the table. I'm closer to 30 and feel so mad/jealous that these girls are getting pregnant when I should be, but I know that I willl be better off than they are in the long run. My husband and I will have so much debt paid off and will be fully prepared mentally and financially....that's what I keep telling myself. And while they will have mutiple jobs just to get by....I will be a SAHM because I will be that much more financially stable.

NennaKay · Jan 19th, 2012, 14:24 PM

Thanks for all the encouraging words ladies! Up unitl yesterday I was doing great just thinking I would have my own

someday soon. Yesterday all the announcements and congratulations and pictures just hit me like a brick wall...

I want those things too! I know we'll be better in the long run if we wait though. Thanks for all the support you offer through B&B!

MarineWAG · Jan 19th, 2012, 14:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Vicky_3

Yeah I agree with the other posters. You are doing the right thing by waiting and trying to make your life better for you and your baby. I am constantly seeing women who are in the early 20s getting pregnant and their other half has like 3 jobs just to get food on the table. I'm closer to 30 and feel so mad/jealous that these girls are getting pregnant when I should be, but I know that I willl be better off than they are in the long run. My husband and I will have so much debt paid off and will be fully prepared mentally and financially....that's what I keep telling myself. And while they will have mutiple jobs just to get by....I will be a SAHM because I will be that much more financially stable.

Just want to say there's nothing wrong with having a baby in your early 20s, it's how it's done in my family, we were sorted 12 months down the line it just came a tad too soon, my husband has just one job lol it was just that I was in between employment and masters that we struggled. And I choose to be a working mum because I enjoy my job not because I am 24 and need to. My point is age doesn't matter (to a degree... not advocating teenage pregnancy) it's how prepared you are. I would tell a 30 year old to wait if she was not financially stable or whatever.

Jan 18th, 2012, 23:22 PM	#1
NennaKay Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Midwest, USA Posts: 50	Really?! You are 3 years younger than me?! I was doing so well waiting to try for my own babies, but today has been beyond batty! In the last 6 months at least 3 of my facebook friends have given birth and 6 have announced pregnacies. Today a girl I graduated with gave birth to her 3rd child.... She is only 24! Even worse, my neighbor who is three years younger than me announced her 3rd pregnancy-- she is only 21! To make matters worse, I'm taking classes this semester and one of my classmates has a 6 month old baby and is due again in May. When I saw my neighbor's announcement I started to tear up... So depressing... I'm so ready to start my family, but finances, school, and my husband say "NOT YET"!

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Jan 19th, 2012, 02:27 AM	#4
calliebaby Waiting To Try (WTT) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2009 Location: USA Posts: 2,849	I know this is not what you want to hear, but it is worth waiting for. I had my first at 28 and it was the best time for me and my husband. When you are both ready, it makes it that much more special. 7 months will go by before you can even blink and before you know it, you will be ttc #2 and #3 and so on.

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Jan 19th, 2012, 03:46 AM	#5
HazzaB Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Swindon, UK Posts: 170	But you are being sensible. Your children will grow up hopefully stable as you will have prepared for them. And you wont have regrets! You wont wish that you had saved more money, or finished school. Your time will come soon hun. Just try and enjoy the time you have to still be free and not have the responsibility of a baby.

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Jan 19th, 2012, 11:46 AM	#7
I Love Lucy Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Illinois, USA Posts: 940	Like the other posters have said, waiting means you'll be more prepared for a baby. I know it's frustrating seeing people around you getting pregnant, especially if you think they shouldn't be having babies right now. But at least you know when you and your husband have kids, you will be able to provide for your child financially and have a stable relationship.

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Jan 19th, 2012, 12:17 PM	#8
Vicky_3 Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Posts: 27	Yeah I agree with the other posters. You are doing the right thing by waiting and trying to make your life better for you and your baby. I am constantly seeing women who are in the early 20s getting pregnant and their other half has like 3 jobs just to get food on the table. I'm closer to 30 and feel so mad/jealous that these girls are getting pregnant when I should be, but I know that I willl be better off than they are in the long run. My husband and I will have so much debt paid off and will be fully prepared mentally and financially....that's what I keep telling myself. And while they will have mutiple jobs just to get by....I will be a SAHM because I will be that much more financially stable.

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Jan 19th, 2012, 00:28 AM	#2
goddess25 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: vancouver Posts: 5,767	I am so sorry, I know it can be frustrating but it will be your time soon.

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Jan 19th, 2012, 01:02 AM	#3
NennaKay Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Midwest, USA Posts: 50	I know it... And I don't want to be the nagging wife who always talks about kids... It's just frustrating when people younger than me are having 1st, 2nd, and 3rd babies. I'm terrified that my husband's low testosterone is going to affect how long until, or even if, we can have our own children. I don't want to wait forever to try and then have it take a long time to concieve. Thanks for the encouraging words though.

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Jan 19th, 2012, 14:24 PM	#9
NennaKay Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Midwest, USA Posts: 50	Thanks for all the encouraging words ladies! Up unitl yesterday I was doing great just thinking I would have my own someday soon. Yesterday all the announcements and congratulations and pictures just hit me like a brick wall... I want those things too! I know we'll be better in the long run if we wait though. Thanks for all the support you offer through B&B!

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