Being nosey, are you married? planning to/not get married before TTC?

Pinkgirl · Dec 4th, 2008, 12:57 PM

Hey guess i am being nosey really,
Well in my eyes theres nothing more wonderful in the whole wide word than having children and i would love to have a baby. To me a wedding, yes is a lovely day with the attention on the happy couple, but its a lot of money for one day- and i kinda want a baby NOWWWWWWWWWWWWW!! A lot of people say oh you should get married before you have children- didnt realise there was a rule!! lol

Guess i wondered which ladies WTC are married? or maybe you plan to have children before you get married? Please share your story...

Kota · Dec 4th, 2008, 13:01 PM

I'm married, not for that long though - just over 7 months. OH and I are going to start TTC in Jan/Feb next year. While I'm very excited about it all and can't wait to be a mum and for us to be parents, it's not something I've been dreaming about for years and years like it is with some women. I always assumed I'd have kids sooner or later but it wasn't that strong a 'need'. Since the day I met OH though, I knew he'd be 'the one' and since getting married the wanting kids has gotten stronger and stronger... Now I can't wait!!!

LeaArr · Dec 4th, 2008, 13:15 PM

I am married. I have been for about a year and a half. When I got married, I wasn't thinking about babies at all. I laughed at anyone who asked me when we were expanding our family. Then in about May, I cracked. It was like a switch in my head just turned on and I wanted a baby NOWNOWNOW.

I am still waiting for Husband to make his mind up on it

LeaArr · Dec 4th, 2008, 13:15 PM

I don't think you need to be married to have a baby. I think some people are just really traditional about it.

Mrs Doddy · Dec 4th, 2008, 13:38 PM

H wanted to do in this order - I guess money wise it was a good idea, yes we are married have been for a year and a half

Mynx · Dec 4th, 2008, 13:39 PM

I agree, you dont need to get married to have a baby but as you say, there are more traditional people that would prefer it.
I'm not married and never was to my 16 year old's father.. we split up when she was 2.
My OH is more traditional tho and says that if we ever decide to have a baby then he'd like us to be married first. I want to get married anyway so we'll probably tie the knot in the next few years wether we have a baby or not

gnomette · Dec 4th, 2008, 14:58 PM

we knew we wanted to get married but after we had our ep we decided that we wanted it more than we thought we did so we are going it on a budget no more than £1000 and we have just bout done it just the photographer and the food to do and we are rite on budget! we are now able to start ttc so we will as there is only 1 cycle between now and then that we can conceive (i only have one tube) but i also have a son from a prevouse relationship so i dont think it matters what way round you do it as long as you are both happy!! i get married in febuary! so i hope there is no rule or i ahve broken it oops he he

babycraze19 · Dec 4th, 2008, 15:10 PM

hey i'm not married but i agree with the ladies on here, i dont think its a big deal if you're not married some people are just traditional. I believe that if you and your partner plan on staying together and its both what you want and you realize what it entales then go for it! no one has the right to judge you cause of that...anyway good luck girlie

Pinkgirl · Dec 4th, 2008, 16:45 PM

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Originally Posted by LeaArr

I don't think you need to be married to have a baby. I think some people are just really traditional about it.

Thankyou this is what i thought! i am not totally dead against it, i would love a wedding but at the moment it just seems a lot of money on one day. and if you had children before hand it would be nice and special if they were involved in the wedding too!

Pinkgirl · Dec 4th, 2008, 16:46 PM

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Originally Posted by gnomette

we knew we wanted to get married but after we had our ep we decided that we wanted it more than we thought we did so we are going it on a budget no more than £1000 and we have just bout done it just the photographer and the food to do and we are rite on budget! we are now able to start ttc so we will as there is only 1 cycle between now and then that we can conceive (i only have one tube) but i also have a son from a prevouse relationship so i dont think it matters what way round you do it as long as you are both happy!! i get married in febuary! so i hope there is no rule or i ahve broken it oops he he

Aww not long till your wedding hun! you will have to post pics when the time comes! x

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Pinkgirl Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2008 Posts: 6,179	Being nosey, are you married? planning to/not get married before TTC? Hey guess i am being nosey really, Well in my eyes theres nothing more wonderful in the whole wide word than having children and i would love to have a baby. To me a wedding, yes is a lovely day with the attention on the happy couple, but its a lot of money for one day- and i kinda want a baby NOWWWWWWWWWWWWW!! A lot of people say oh you should get married before you have children- didnt realise there was a rule!! lol Guess i wondered which ladies WTC are married? or maybe you plan to have children before you get married? Please share your story...

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Dec 4th, 2008, 13:01 PM	#2
Kota Other BnB Elite Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: In a land down under.. Posts: 10,360	I'm married, not for that long though - just over 7 months. OH and I are going to start TTC in Jan/Feb next year. While I'm very excited about it all and can't wait to be a mum and for us to be parents, it's not something I've been dreaming about for years and years like it is with some women. I always assumed I'd have kids sooner or later but it wasn't that strong a 'need'. Since the day I met OH though, I knew he'd be 'the one' and since getting married the wanting kids has gotten stronger and stronger... Now I can't wait!!!

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Dec 4th, 2008, 13:15 PM	#3
LeaArr Other BnB Addict Join Date: May 2008 Location: Calgary, Alberta, Canada Posts: 8,669	I am married. I have been for about a year and a half. When I got married, I wasn't thinking about babies at all. I laughed at anyone who asked me when we were expanding our family. Then in about May, I cracked. It was like a switch in my head just turned on and I wanted a baby NOWNOWNOW. I am still waiting for Husband to make his mind up on it

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Dec 4th, 2008, 13:15 PM	#4
LeaArr Other BnB Addict Join Date: May 2008 Location: Calgary, Alberta, Canada Posts: 8,669	I don't think you need to be married to have a baby. I think some people are just really traditional about it.

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Dec 4th, 2008, 13:38 PM	#5
Mrs Doddy Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Uk Posts: 10,055	H wanted to do in this order - I guess money wise it was a good idea, yes we are married have been for a year and a half

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Dec 4th, 2008, 13:39 PM	#6
Mynx Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: NW London, UK Posts: 8,298	I agree, you dont need to get married to have a baby but as you say, there are more traditional people that would prefer it. I'm not married and never was to my 16 year old's father.. we split up when she was 2. My OH is more traditional tho and says that if we ever decide to have a baby then he'd like us to be married first. I want to get married anyway so we'll probably tie the knot in the next few years wether we have a baby or not

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Dec 4th, 2008, 14:58 PM	#7
gnomette Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: kent Posts: 764	we knew we wanted to get married but after we had our ep we decided that we wanted it more than we thought we did so we are going it on a budget no more than £1000 and we have just bout done it just the photographer and the food to do and we are rite on budget! we are now able to start ttc so we will as there is only 1 cycle between now and then that we can conceive (i only have one tube) but i also have a son from a prevouse relationship so i dont think it matters what way round you do it as long as you are both happy!! i get married in febuary! so i hope there is no rule or i ahve broken it oops he he

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Dec 4th, 2008, 15:10 PM	#8
babycraze19 Waiting To Try (WTT) Inactive Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Edmonton, AB Posts: 37	hey i'm not married but i agree with the ladies on here, i dont think its a big deal if you're not married some people are just traditional. I believe that if you and your partner plan on staying together and its both what you want and you realize what it entales then go for it! no one has the right to judge you cause of that...anyway good luck girlie

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