Hey everyone,

Hoping you can help me. I'm very nearly 19 and have wanted a baby more than anything since i was about 16. People keep telling me i have to wait until i'm older (including my boyfriend) but i've always said i don't want to wait until i'm older to have children.

It's got so bad that i feel thoroughly miserable and sometimes cry when i get my periods even though i know that i've been taking all my pills. The problem is i've started to wonder whether i should just stop taking them and not tell my boyfriend although i know this is wrong.

HELP!

xx

Hi Katy,

I really don't know what to say to you. Im sure that you already know how huge a responsibility having a baby is and how expensive they are. Have you had a really good chat with your BF. What does he think??? Maybe see if you can put a date on TTC in the future?? How old is your BF? How long have you been together??

I hope that you manage to sort everything out.

Let me know how you get on



Kerry

I really wouldn't recommend coming off the pill without discussing things with ur BF - This needs to be a joint decision.

Do u really think you are ready to have a baby? Financially, emotionally etc.
How is u and your BF relationship.
Me & my Fiance are both in good paying jobs, but with all the bills etc even we are going to cut back to cope with all the extra's.
I think u should think of all these things (if u havnt already) and talk to ur boyfriend. Do u live together?

Take care hun and always here to talk.

xx

Im not far off 21 and about to have my first baby
I wanted a baby from beeing about 18 when i was in a previous relationship and the same as your self thought about stoping my pill without my partner knowing, when i look back im sooo glad i didnt because not long before i turned 19 we split up
I got with my fiance about a year and 3 months ago we got engadged within 4 months (we have been friends from beeing 14) and i was pregnant in 6 months we did talk about it, we still knew we were very young to be parents and hadnt been together that long but my partner is in the armed forces and i have a very stabel job at a bank we knew it was the right time for us.
I couldnt be happyer i waited for the right time and the right person, having a baby is a really big thing its somthing that ties you to another person for the rest of your life i think you need to make sure its somthing your both ready for!
Good luck i know its hard to want somthing so much you wanna cry but when it happens for you it will be the right time and i hope your very happy

Katy,

You have to think whats right for you and your bf... I've always wanted a baby from 16, but now 10years later it is the time for me.. Don't come off the pill without talking to your bf otherwise he won't respect you, it is meant to be a joint decision and would you want to lose him?

What pill are you on? Contraceptive pills can make you unhappy I was on one which I changed and found the right one for me...

Nx

Definat;y do not come of th epill without him knowing as he will resent u for it if you become pregnant. At the mo im off the pill and my oh knows but we have still be bding so he knows the risks

I hope u get everything sorted

Pregnancy should be a joint decision...speak to your bf!

Whatever you do, please notify your bf beforehand if you stop taking the pills.


I'm sorry hun.

I'm not quite so young, but I really want a baby,too. I'm 21 and still get told I'm too young.

Don't just come off your pill without telling your bf, it's not to fair to 'trap' him like that as something so important needs to be a joint decision and will only cause problems if you fall pregnant without having a proper talk about it first. You are still young, I'm only 19 and didn't intend to fall pregnant. I wish I'd waited but now it's happening I don't regret it. You need to think about all aspects of having kids, not just the idea that it would be nice to have a baby to cuddle. The financial aspects, the time and commitment, the responsibility, all need to be thought about very carefully! Try not to pressure your bf into anything though. And if you decide to try then good luck, a 19 year old can have the ability to bring up a child as much as anyone else x

Thanks for all the responses
I'm on Microgynon and have been for years and years so i don't think it could be that. I think i should probably talk to him properly about it because i don't think he realises that i'm really serious about it. And although we don't live together we may as well. I spend every single night at his for months at a time. And he's about to start a well paying job so financially i know it's possible. I guess i just need to talk and see what he says. xx