Lyrah

Thanks so much Means a lot to me.
I'm glad I got the chance to get everything off my chest and also to explain myself.. as I didn't want people to think 'Oh dear, a young couple trying for a baby' when I am actually mature enough to deal with it all and to plan ahead. I've also done research these past few months and now know what pregnancy involves etc.. so I know what I'll be getting myself into

Thank you for the advice and support.

I will let all of you know what my fiance says

Lyrah

Omg..

This past week I've been having waves of feeling really sick.. thought nothing of it.. but have just thrown up!

And I'm not ill. I hope this is a good sign!!

x

Happyabi

Tracy
I cant beleive that what you said about you and your ex, this is getting so spooky! - I was with mine when I was 15 and then broke up at 30 as we had grown apart...

But like you my boys are my world and it was best for them that me and my ex lived apart...I was 21 when I had my first one...

You do sound like you have a wise head on your shoulders Lyrah - just talk things through sensibly with him - know its hard but with your head not your heart as as i said previously, men are so different!!

Good luck

Abi xx

golcarlilly

How weird, our lives are just so freakishly similar!!!

Happyabi

Lyrah good luck hunny - make sure if you do a test you do it with him and get him involved from the start...I am sure its best this way!

Tracy - You know I am adopted, I wonder if Im your long lost sister!!! lol

Abi xx

Jewels

Hi Lyrah!

I know how you feel. I've had major baby fever for about the past 3-4 years and just earlier this year was able to get my DH to agree to a timeframe. It's so nice to have that to look forward to. I do think most men are afraid, but most of them do come around.

My thought would be if you feel you two are truly ready maybe you could sit down with your OH and have a heart to heart and let him know how much it means to you to have a little one, and that having a set date on when you'll start to TTC means a lot to you. You may not need to do this however - as you mentioned he has taken a bit of a "if it happens, it happens" attitude. That's great! You could just try going with that and see what happens.

It will all work out in the end. Good luck!

Coral

I honestly think that not putting too much pressure on your OH, and not obsessing over it with him is the best way forward (come and moan to us girls anytime).

Men seem a little daunted and frightened by the thought of becoming a father, and I certainly dot think its comes as naturally to them as it does to us.

I have many friends with partners who are just the same as yours, and there is never a good time to try for a child as far as they are concerned, in fact if you ask most couples there is never really a good time to start trying, you just have to go for it.

Like others have said I would tell him you are coming off the pill, and leave it up to him whether or not he "chooses" to wear protection.

I told my hubby that I wanted to try for a child and was convinced it would take 18 months plus to conceive - as I have been on the pill for 18 years non stop, and am now 34 (DH is 40), as it happens I got pregnant 6 weeks after coming off the pill, but it sounded good at the time!!

Good luck hun, and try and stay relaxed with your partner, he will come around!!

Lyrah

Hi girlies!

Well I spoke to DF last night all about it and apparently that was his plan to not use condoms and just see how it goes! We've decided to do this to see if I can get pregnant naturally rather than try on set dates each month which will stress me out if I keep getting BFN. You girls were right about it!

I'm so relieved.

BUT.. I am worried about the whole thing to do with my mum. If she knows I've got pregnant because I haven't used condoms and haven't gone and got the morning after pill.. she will hit the roof and think I'm stupid and irresponsible.

That's the thing that's reallyreally worrying me. Do any of you know what I could do with that situation? I want to prove to my mum that I am capable of this and mature enough to have a family. I know that she knows how mature I am and she's very proud of me with how I've coped the last couple of years (have been through a lot of stuff) and she's proud of the way I moved far away from home when I was 16 to be with my fiance and how I'm taking control of everything in my life and being independant. But I know for a fact that she will not agree with this one bit.
What can I do?

Thank you so much for all the advice yesterday.. really helped!!

Lyrah

Anyone around?

Sorry to be a bother

leedsforever

im around!!!