Second lot of MAP in 6 weeks..bit annoying now

londonbird · Mar 12th, 2010, 17:19 PM

Fed up with having to go get MAP after oh freaking out at me...

I keep telling him I am not on the pill anymore, yet somehow he forgets this..then the next morning freaks and demands I go get the morning after. Havent taken a pill since last Saturday, which I thought he knew..ugh..this and mothers day..really could do without

Been through all the contraception stuff with doc, nothing viable except sterilisation which they wont even refer me for right now.

So fed up.. it makes me so ill, makes my migraines even worse, have now had one for 4 days, know having another MAP will mean its worse in morning...so frustrated, glad have got the weekend to myself.. apparently me crying is upsetting/irritating to him

Pointless rant I know, just sick of taking it!!

Auerbach059 · Mar 12th, 2010, 18:40 PM

Aw hun

MAP is horrid, I'm so sorry you get such bad side effects. Have you talked to the doctor about Natural family planning? When it's done properly it can be 98% effective, which is about the same as condoms? Would it suit your situation?

Hope you feel better soon

xxxxxx

pumpkim · Mar 13th, 2010, 04:27 AM

Are condoms not an option for you

beccad · Mar 13th, 2010, 05:20 AM

Honey, you need to take control of the situation. Takes two people to have sex, and you can't merrily lie there letting him continue knowing he's going to ask you to take the MAP the following morning. If he's not ready to TTC yet (and doesn't sound like he is) then stop putting yourself through all this anguish and get some condoms. Alternatively don't take the MAP and he'll just have to deal with it if you do fall pregnant.

londonbird · Mar 13th, 2010, 05:43 AM

I dont want to use any protection, I have made this clear, if he dosent want a baby then he should put a condom on. simple as that, I dont stop him from doing so. I always put out condoms, various types, so he has options

Guess I will keep trying to take the pill. Just a vicious cycle atm. I take the pill, then I am unhappy, I take 1 in 4, 1 in 10 etc..then we end up in this situation.

Thanks for the replies guys x

Mummy2jayden · Mar 13th, 2010, 05:53 AM

Im sorry your having such a hard time of it all hun. Keep taking the MAP isnt good for you at all and its obviously having a bad effect on you

Hope you manage to sort out your problems and your partner sorts himself out because its not fair on you at all x

Kess · Mar 13th, 2010, 06:01 AM

Sweetie, he's not forgetting you're not taking the pill, he's not wanting to wear a condom for some reason (more sensation, stubborness, whatever) and by you giving in and taking the MAP he's getting what he wants - condom-free sex and no baby.

If he's not ready for a baby, then maybe YOU should put the condom on, or say no condom, no sex. Otherwise, if you're sure you want to, then just refuse to take the MAP. As long as he knows the risks beforehand (i.e. remind him you're not on the pill), then you're not trapping him or anything.

But really, do you want to get pregnant by someone who cares so little for your health and wellbeing that he forces you into something that makes you feel this poorly?

beccad · Mar 13th, 2010, 09:44 AM

Just tell him you won't be taking the MAP then

If it's making you ill then don't take it - don't put yourself in a position where you have to take it. He's not using it because he's got no reason to if he knows you'll take the MAP if he asks you.

Amygdala · Mar 13th, 2010, 10:02 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Kess

But really, do you want to get pregnant by someone who cares so little for your health and wellbeing that he forces you into something that makes you feel this poorly?

I completely agree with this. He's not showing any respect for you or concern for your health. And no child should have to have someone this thoughtless and uncaring as a father. I know it's not my place to say but I'd seriously rethink my relationship if I was you.

londonbird · Mar 13th, 2010, 10:29 AM

Thanks guys, been asleep most of the day, gonna eat and go back to bed.

Know the side effects will pass in a couple of weeks, in the meantime just try and speak to him without it causing a huge argument. Hes got kids till Monday now so I can just sleep and rest... distract myself a bit

I know really he is right, I need to wait until I can afford it etc etc. Its just it dosent make waiting any easier. Just have to give myself a good talking to and take my pill.

Thanks for all the sweet replies guys xxx

Mar 12th, 2010, 17:19 PM	#1
londonbird Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 286	Second lot of MAP in 6 weeks..bit annoying now Fed up with having to go get MAP after oh freaking out at me... I keep telling him I am not on the pill anymore, yet somehow he forgets this..then the next morning freaks and demands I go get the morning after. Havent taken a pill since last Saturday, which I thought he knew..ugh..this and mothers day..really could do without Been through all the contraception stuff with doc, nothing viable except sterilisation which they wont even refer me for right now. So fed up.. it makes me so ill, makes my migraines even worse, have now had one for 4 days, know having another MAP will mean its worse in morning...so frustrated, glad have got the weekend to myself.. apparently me crying is upsetting/irritating to him Pointless rant I know, just sick of taking it!!

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Mar 12th, 2010, 18:40 PM	#2
Auerbach059 Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: London Posts: 143	Aw hun MAP is horrid, I'm so sorry you get such bad side effects. Have you talked to the doctor about Natural family planning? When it's done properly it can be 98% effective, which is about the same as condoms? Would it suit your situation? Hope you feel better soon xxxxxx

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Mar 13th, 2010, 04:27 AM	#3
pumpkim Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Yorkshire UK Posts: 601	Are condoms not an option for you

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Mar 13th, 2010, 05:20 AM	#4
beccad Trying to conceive (TTC) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Surrey, UK Posts: 2,427	Honey, you need to take control of the situation. Takes two people to have sex, and you can't merrily lie there letting him continue knowing he's going to ask you to take the MAP the following morning. If he's not ready to TTC yet (and doesn't sound like he is) then stop putting yourself through all this anguish and get some condoms. Alternatively don't take the MAP and he'll just have to deal with it if you do fall pregnant.

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Mar 13th, 2010, 05:43 AM	#5
londonbird Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 286	I dont want to use any protection, I have made this clear, if he dosent want a baby then he should put a condom on. simple as that, I dont stop him from doing so. I always put out condoms, various types, so he has options Guess I will keep trying to take the pill. Just a vicious cycle atm. I take the pill, then I am unhappy, I take 1 in 4, 1 in 10 etc..then we end up in this situation. Thanks for the replies guys x

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Mar 13th, 2010, 05:53 AM	#6
Mummy2jayden Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Essex Posts: 79	Im sorry your having such a hard time of it all hun. Keep taking the MAP isnt good for you at all and its obviously having a bad effect on you Hope you manage to sort out your problems and your partner sorts himself out because its not fair on you at all x

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Mar 13th, 2010, 06:01 AM	#7
Kess Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: England Posts: 1,245	Sweetie, he's not forgetting you're not taking the pill, he's not wanting to wear a condom for some reason (more sensation, stubborness, whatever) and by you giving in and taking the MAP he's getting what he wants - condom-free sex and no baby. If he's not ready for a baby, then maybe YOU should put the condom on, or say no condom, no sex. Otherwise, if you're sure you want to, then just refuse to take the MAP. As long as he knows the risks beforehand (i.e. remind him you're not on the pill), then you're not trapping him or anything. But really, do you want to get pregnant by someone who cares so little for your health and wellbeing that he forces you into something that makes you feel this poorly?

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Mar 13th, 2010, 09:44 AM	#8
beccad Trying to conceive (TTC) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Surrey, UK Posts: 2,427	Just tell him you won't be taking the MAP then If it's making you ill then don't take it - don't put yourself in a position where you have to take it. He's not using it because he's got no reason to if he knows you'll take the MAP if he asks you.

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Mar 13th, 2010, 10:29 AM	#10
londonbird Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 286	Thanks guys, been asleep most of the day, gonna eat and go back to bed. Know the side effects will pass in a couple of weeks, in the meantime just try and speak to him without it causing a huge argument. Hes got kids till Monday now so I can just sleep and rest... distract myself a bit I know really he is right, I need to wait until I can afford it etc etc. Its just it dosent make waiting any easier. Just have to give myself a good talking to and take my pill. Thanks for all the sweet replies guys xxx

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