i want ttc but my partner doesnt

allanaMummy.. · Mar 10th, 2010, 06:10 AM

hey ladys,
i need some advice, i already have a 8month old baby girl called emily, im thinking of having another one as i want 2 kids quite close together. i wanted to ttc after emilys birthday so there would be like 2years between them.
but emilys dad doent want anymore.. what should i do just forget about having another one? or ask him again in a few months?
xxxx

babesx3 · Mar 10th, 2010, 06:28 AM

Has he said why?

Damita · Mar 10th, 2010, 13:28 PM

^ second has he explained why he doesn't?

Duffy · Mar 10th, 2010, 13:43 PM

Maybe he not ready at the moment, not sure I would recommend finging out why first then go from there. Maybe there are goals he wants to work on first or life plans...? I'd recommend a sit down and meet in the middle....type of deal. Lots of luck sweetie.

Deeper Blue · Mar 10th, 2010, 13:48 PM

My OH was exactly the same. Because he was an only child he said he just didn't 'get' why people wanted more than one child. For the past 6 months or so I have been slowly wearing him down and I think when we have big family get togethers with may side of the family and all Isla's cousins he starts to see where I'm coming from. We had a good couple of talks about it and discussed some of his other issues such as if we could afford two and how we cope with two so young. I wanted to have another closer than we are doing but we've come to a compromise to start ttc in May.

It was difficult talking to him about it because on one side I didn't want to end up nagging him to death about it and p***ing him off, but equally I wanted him to understand why it was so important too me.

I hope you two can have a good chat and work things out.

x

lozzy21 · Mar 10th, 2010, 14:40 PM

Enjoy your daughter for a year or so and then bring it up again

luckyme225 · Mar 10th, 2010, 20:55 PM

I'm sure if you were to ask my husband if he wanted another when my son was 8 months he would have said no. Once our little guy was a little over a year he warmed up to the idea of another and we planned our TTC date. Just give it a bit of time and see how he feels in a couple months.

allanaMummy.. · Mar 11th, 2010, 10:43 AM

thanks guys.
he just says that he has only ever wanted one and that he doesnt what to go through the sleepness nights again or the labour, my labour was only 3 and a half hours long though...
i dont want to start ttc yet.. in like a year i would though.xx

Mar 10th, 2010, 06:10 AM	#1
allanaMummy.. Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Posts: 13	i want ttc but my partner doesnt hey ladys, i need some advice, i already have a 8month old baby girl called emily, im thinking of having another one as i want 2 kids quite close together. i wanted to ttc after emilys birthday so there would be like 2years between them. but emilys dad doent want anymore.. what should i do just forget about having another one? or ask him again in a few months? xxxx

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babesx3 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 9,108	Has he said why?

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Damita Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: England, UK Posts: 9,506	^ second has he explained why he doesn't?

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Duffy Trying to conceive (TTC) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 1,964	Maybe he not ready at the moment, not sure I would recommend finging out why first then go from there. Maybe there are goals he wants to work on first or life plans...? I'd recommend a sit down and meet in the middle....type of deal. Lots of luck sweetie.

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Mar 10th, 2010, 13:48 PM	#5
Deeper Blue Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Near Derby Posts: 754	My OH was exactly the same. Because he was an only child he said he just didn't 'get' why people wanted more than one child. For the past 6 months or so I have been slowly wearing him down and I think when we have big family get togethers with may side of the family and all Isla's cousins he starts to see where I'm coming from. We had a good couple of talks about it and discussed some of his other issues such as if we could afford two and how we cope with two so young. I wanted to have another closer than we are doing but we've come to a compromise to start ttc in May. It was difficult talking to him about it because on one side I didn't want to end up nagging him to death about it and p***ing him off, but equally I wanted him to understand why it was so important too me. I hope you two can have a good chat and work things out. x

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lozzy21 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Teesside, Posts: 19,432	Enjoy your daughter for a year or so and then bring it up again

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Mar 10th, 2010, 20:55 PM	#7
luckyme225 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Washington Posts: 6,111	I'm sure if you were to ask my husband if he wanted another when my son was 8 months he would have said no. Once our little guy was a little over a year he warmed up to the idea of another and we planned our TTC date. Just give it a bit of time and see how he feels in a couple months.

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Mar 11th, 2010, 10:43 AM	#8
allanaMummy.. Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Posts: 13	thanks guys. he just says that he has only ever wanted one and that he doesnt what to go through the sleepness nights again or the labour, my labour was only 3 and a half hours long though... i dont want to start ttc yet.. in like a year i would though.xx

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