Fears and Pregnancy???

thinknboutbby · Mar 8th, 2010, 21:58 PM

Im wondering if Im alone or not in that when I think about being pg, I have many fears.

1) actual fear of being pg and all of its side affects
2) having a healthy full term pg
3) not only delivering a healthy baby, but also me coming through it as well.

Do or did any of you experience these fears or other fears? Please share them with me!

Mummy2jayden · Mar 9th, 2010, 02:51 AM

Cant say I had many fears as ds wasnt planned although very m uch wanted I just took it within my stride. Since then ive heard so many horror stories where things have gone wrong after the 12wks and subsequently lost baby later on and thats what I worry about because I didnt really think it was common but itso bviously more common than I thought! I think we all worry about havinbg a healthy child its just natural x

Ammolite · Mar 9th, 2010, 03:34 AM

Totally understand.

Let's see...

1. Being a bad Mom, or one of those people who are not cut out to be a Mom.
2. Not being prepared financially AND emotionally.
3. Disappointing my family, if they feel it's not the right time.
4. Fear of what being pregnant will feel like -- never experienced it before.
5. Fear of pregnancy complications, and delivery emergencies.
6. Fear of having an unhealthy baby.
7. Fear of how having a baby will affect my life, my Husband's life, our relationship, and my relationship with my family.
8. Fear of having as many reproductive health complications as my Mother did - 6 miscarriages, 2 of which were ectopics, and a hysterectomy.

Kess · Mar 9th, 2010, 04:13 AM

I'm afraid of pregnancy itself, of having complications or not being able to cope with symptoms like morning sickness or lack of room to breathe when bubs is big under my ribs. I'm scared of labour too.

I'm not scared of motherhood, really, since I'm confident around babies and children - I've been around them all my life since my Mom was a childminder and now is a fostercarer.

kaz87 · Mar 9th, 2010, 09:29 AM

Mine would be:-

-Hopefully getting pregnat
- Feeling ill
- Birth
-Support- Money, Family and OH

morri · Mar 9th, 2010, 10:34 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Ammolite

Totally understand.

Let's see...

1. Being a bad Mom, or one of those people who are not cut out to be a Mom.
2. Not being prepared financially AND emotionally.
3. Disappointing my family, if they feel it's not the right time.
4. Fear of what being pregnant will feel like -- never experienced it before.
5. Fear of pregnancy complications, and delivery emergencies.
6. Fear of having an unhealthy baby.
7. Fear of how having a baby will affect my life, my Husband's life, our relationship, and my relationship with my family.
8. Fear of having as many reproductive health complications as my Mother did - 6 miscarriages, 2 of which were ectopics, and a hysterectomy.

I agree with 1 to 7 although majorly with 1 to 4.

nona81 · Mar 9th, 2010, 13:08 PM

Yep, all of the above. But I mainly fear discovering that I
have no maternal instincts and am a rubbish mum and my
child grows up to hate me!

sophxx · Mar 9th, 2010, 13:13 PM

i had all the same fears! doesnt help being anixous like i am! but you have to look at things in the bigger picture how many people do you read about not pulling through? alot of people have very healthy babys not many are people have ill babys! i guess its just looking at the bigger picture!x

SarahC82 · Mar 9th, 2010, 13:20 PM

My biggest fear is pregnancy complications, also the fear of having morning sickness again (after having it with the molar pregnancy) and worrying if i'm going through that again. That whole experience has really scared me and i'm scared that i won't be able to enjoy pregnancy like i should.

laural11 · Mar 9th, 2010, 22:28 PM

Yes, I think we all fear, good to talk about our fears

My fears are:

-Becoming financially unstable and not being able to provide for baby
-Not being able to conceive (took my mom two years each to conceive me and brother and she was never able to conceive again)
-Being looked down on as being too young (23) to be a good mom

Mar 8th, 2010, 21:58 PM	#1
thinknboutbby Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Posts: 161	Fears and Pregnancy??? Im wondering if Im alone or not in that when I think about being pg, I have many fears. 1) actual fear of being pg and all of its side affects 2) having a healthy full term pg 3) not only delivering a healthy baby, but also me coming through it as well. Do or did any of you experience these fears or other fears? Please share them with me!

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Mar 9th, 2010, 02:51 AM	#2
Mummy2jayden Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Essex Posts: 79	Cant say I had many fears as ds wasnt planned although very m uch wanted I just took it within my stride. Since then ive heard so many horror stories where things have gone wrong after the 12wks and subsequently lost baby later on and thats what I worry about because I didnt really think it was common but itso bviously more common than I thought! I think we all worry about havinbg a healthy child its just natural x

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Mar 9th, 2010, 03:34 AM	#3
Ammolite Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 25	Totally understand. Let's see... 1. Being a bad Mom, or one of those people who are not cut out to be a Mom. 2. Not being prepared financially AND emotionally. 3. Disappointing my family, if they feel it's not the right time. 4. Fear of what being pregnant will feel like -- never experienced it before. 5. Fear of pregnancy complications, and delivery emergencies. 6. Fear of having an unhealthy baby. 7. Fear of how having a baby will affect my life, my Husband's life, our relationship, and my relationship with my family. 8. Fear of having as many reproductive health complications as my Mother did - 6 miscarriages, 2 of which were ectopics, and a hysterectomy.

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Mar 9th, 2010, 04:13 AM	#4
Kess Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: England Posts: 1,239	I'm afraid of pregnancy itself, of having complications or not being able to cope with symptoms like morning sickness or lack of room to breathe when bubs is big under my ribs. I'm scared of labour too. I'm not scared of motherhood, really, since I'm confident around babies and children - I've been around them all my life since my Mom was a childminder and now is a fostercarer.

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Mar 9th, 2010, 09:29 AM	#5
kaz87 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Devon Posts: 998	Mine would be:- -Hopefully getting pregnat - Feeling ill - Birth -Support- Money, Family and OH

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Mar 9th, 2010, 13:08 PM	#7
nona81 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Leeds, UK Posts: 182	Yep, all of the above. But I mainly fear discovering that I have no maternal instincts and am a rubbish mum and my child grows up to hate me!

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Mar 9th, 2010, 13:13 PM	#8
sophxx Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2008 Posts: 6,501	i had all the same fears! doesnt help being anixous like i am! but you have to look at things in the bigger picture how many people do you read about not pulling through? alot of people have very healthy babys not many are people have ill babys! i guess its just looking at the bigger picture!x

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Mar 9th, 2010, 13:20 PM	#9
SarahC82 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Essex, UK Posts: 371	My biggest fear is pregnancy complications, also the fear of having morning sickness again (after having it with the molar pregnancy) and worrying if i'm going through that again. That whole experience has really scared me and i'm scared that i won't be able to enjoy pregnancy like i should.

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Mar 9th, 2010, 22:28 PM	#10
laural11 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Midwest, USA Posts: 100	Yes, I think we all fear, good to talk about our fears My fears are: -Becoming financially unstable and not being able to provide for baby -Not being able to conceive (took my mom two years each to conceive me and brother and she was never able to conceive again) -Being looked down on as being too young (23) to be a good mom

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