Is anyone elses OH really vague?

nona81 · Mar 7th, 2010, 09:08 AM

My hubby is really blah about it all! We (although since I can't get a firm response from him, I suppose I should say I) are going to ttc from May/June. He says he wants kids, he let me buy folic acid supplements and knows that I am getting my implant out, but whenever I ask what he thinks about babies or get serious about it he pulls an odd face, like he's confused. Is this normal?I don't know if he is just scared, like me or trying to be funny. But he is annoying me now, I don't like feeling like I am forcing him to have a baby!

Grrrrr! Rant over

fuffyburra · Mar 7th, 2010, 09:19 AM

Seriously, are all men like this? They don't wanna give a definite answer and look all freaked out when you ask them questions, but if you get your implant out, stop taking your pill, etc. or they don't bother using anything and you point it out to them, they don't seem worried at all! I think they're probably scared of the pressure or something lol, so it's sort of like a defence mechanism

You're not forcing him cos he's knows what's about to happen and he's not doing anything to stop it, so it sounds as if he wants it too, he's just being bloke-ish :P
Best of luck with it all

You must be so excited! xx

nona81 · Mar 7th, 2010, 11:57 AM

You're right. The more I think about it, I realise that he has never wanted to make any decisions outright. I don't think he wants me to feel pressured - although I don't think he realises that this needs to be a joint decision, it will affect us both.

But thats men right!

mbara · Mar 7th, 2010, 12:23 PM

I can relate to you for sure....When i tell my hubby that I'm getting off my pills in May and ask him things related to TTC, I don't get too much of an answer. He told me once that he does that because he just wants it to happen naturally without too much planning and that he would be excited when I actually had a baby in my belly. He thinks that by talking about it too much, it'll jinx things.

celine · Mar 7th, 2010, 14:37 PM

My man is extremely vague too, its my biggest rant, after we had our son in june he did seem to want another close in age..and says that alot but when it comes to me trying to get a date out of him...nnothing!

fuffyburra · Mar 7th, 2010, 14:42 PM

Celine you should just say to him "I was thinking of getting my implant out/stopping my pill, then just going with the flow. What d'you think?" Then you'd get a 'man' answer quick about how soon he wants it lol. Unless you use condoms, then that might be more difficult to word :P xx

babesx3 · Mar 7th, 2010, 15:22 PM

this soun ds so like my dh too!!! he'll say he's happy with our 3 children... as am i. but i'd like to have a 4th next year. he'll agree with me that it would be nice to have another boy, and we both like to have a big family. but then he makes comments about 3's enough. mixed messages all time!! ... MEN!!!

Marlarky · Mar 7th, 2010, 15:25 PM

I think I am pregnant, and my husband's very vague about THAT.

He doesn't want to "get his hopes up"

babesx3 · Mar 7th, 2010, 15:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Marlarky

I think I am pregnant, and my husband's very vague about THAT.

He doesn't want to "get his hopes up"

thats so like my dh!!! good job we love em!!

congrats on pregnancy!!! and no 5!! well done !!

nona81 · Mar 7th, 2010, 15:55 PM

I just mentioned Mothers Day to my OH, I suggested that next year he might have to get me a card! He made a bizarre squealing noise and suddenly became very interested in chopping up a pineapple!

Weird!

Mar 7th, 2010, 09:08 AM	#1
nona81 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Leeds, UK Posts: 182	Is anyone elses OH really vague? My hubby is really blah about it all! We (although since I can't get a firm response from him, I suppose I should say I) are going to ttc from May/June. He says he wants kids, he let me buy folic acid supplements and knows that I am getting my implant out, but whenever I ask what he thinks about babies or get serious about it he pulls an odd face, like he's confused. Is this normal?I don't know if he is just scared, like me or trying to be funny. But he is annoying me now, I don't like feeling like I am forcing him to have a baby! Grrrrr! Rant over

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Mar 7th, 2010, 09:19 AM	#2
fuffyburra Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: West Sussex, England Posts: 2,148	Seriously, are all men like this? They don't wanna give a definite answer and look all freaked out when you ask them questions, but if you get your implant out, stop taking your pill, etc. or they don't bother using anything and you point it out to them, they don't seem worried at all! I think they're probably scared of the pressure or something lol, so it's sort of like a defence mechanism You're not forcing him cos he's knows what's about to happen and he's not doing anything to stop it, so it sounds as if he wants it too, he's just being bloke-ish :P Best of luck with it all You must be so excited! xx

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Mar 7th, 2010, 11:57 AM	#3
nona81 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Leeds, UK Posts: 182	You're right. The more I think about it, I realise that he has never wanted to make any decisions outright. I don't think he wants me to feel pressured - although I don't think he realises that this needs to be a joint decision, it will affect us both. But thats men right!

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Mar 7th, 2010, 12:23 PM	#4
mbara Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: PA Posts: 486	I can relate to you for sure....When i tell my hubby that I'm getting off my pills in May and ask him things related to TTC, I don't get too much of an answer. He told me once that he does that because he just wants it to happen naturally without too much planning and that he would be excited when I actually had a baby in my belly. He thinks that by talking about it too much, it'll jinx things.

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Mar 7th, 2010, 14:37 PM	#5
celine Other BnB Elite Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Netherlands Posts: 11,978	My man is extremely vague too, its my biggest rant, after we had our son in june he did seem to want another close in age..and says that alot but when it comes to me trying to get a date out of him...nnothing!

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Mar 7th, 2010, 14:42 PM	#6
fuffyburra Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: West Sussex, England Posts: 2,148	Celine you should just say to him "I was thinking of getting my implant out/stopping my pill, then just going with the flow. What d'you think?" Then you'd get a 'man' answer quick about how soon he wants it lol. Unless you use condoms, then that might be more difficult to word :P xx

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Mar 7th, 2010, 15:22 PM	#7
babesx3 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 9,109	this soun ds so like my dh too!!! he'll say he's happy with our 3 children... as am i. but i'd like to have a 4th next year. he'll agree with me that it would be nice to have another boy, and we both like to have a big family. but then he makes comments about 3's enough. mixed messages all time!! ... MEN!!!

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Mar 7th, 2010, 15:25 PM	#8
Marlarky Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Chicago, Illinois, USA Posts: 2,042	I think I am pregnant, and my husband's very vague about THAT. He doesn't want to "get his hopes up"

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Mar 7th, 2010, 15:55 PM	#10
nona81 Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Leeds, UK Posts: 182	I just mentioned Mothers Day to my OH, I suggested that next year he might have to get me a card! He made a bizarre squealing noise and suddenly became very interested in chopping up a pineapple! Weird!

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