The lady (I can't remember her name) in the papers talking about starting a family at a young age.
She had children herself at 14, and thinks that we should all be having children much younger. How I read it, she was certainly not advocating teen pregnancy but rather suggesting starting families in your 20s.

I personally would love to have a family by the time I'm 25. I think that some people are leaving it too late due to careers etc, and they are then surprised they have trouble ttc!

What do the rest of you think on the matter?

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I dont know tbh. I would love to have had 2 children by the time i am 27 but sometimes its not as easy as that. My sister on the other hand doesnt want children untill shes gone 30 due to her career. She loves her job and the training is extensive. she is a clynical scientist (sp) and she loves it. I think its great that women arnt just looked at for making babies and how they can go and have an amazing career. I dont think people leave it too late - its a personal choice and those women are well aware that it may take them longer or they may have more trouble concieving.

I am lucky that i met my OH when we were younger but what if you dont meet the one until you are in your late 20's and then you want a few years to enjoy each other before you bring a family in to it.

Personally i think its the womens choice and we all feel ready at different times in our lives.

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I, personally, felt ready in my teens and had my son when I was 16. I honestly think it all depends on the person. I enjoy having my family younger and plan to be done with kids by the time I'm 21. But it really is all a personal decision. It's right for some people to start before their career is in place and right for others to start after their career is well established.

i think its good to have yoru family young but maybe im biased since im only 18 and my mum had me at 18..

I get when people say life your life go clubbing ect ect But id rather not been dealing with nappies in my 40's when in my 40's the way my life is going i could of had all of my children be working and still enjoy going out and have holidays ect

I guess id rather do my growing up young and then get to relax once ive done having babies and there all at school/ left school ect.

Another way though is my mum and dad are not even 40 yet and have there first grandchild, My oh's parents however are in there 50's, So the way i look at that bit is my parents **only by age** should be around longer to see my son grow up ect and more energy to run around with him and remember more what its like where as Oh's parents seem to have forgotten that babies have routines and just because there not happy with a 30min visit does not mean im going to break my babies routine. Also his parents when Kyle was very little very doubting things we did and also commenting on how we was holding him ect, where as yet again my parents would let us get on with it and only pass comment if we asked for help type of thing

I hope I havnt caused any offence with my comment. I know it's a sensitive issue and obviousley there's sometimes reasons that are out of anyones control. I respect women that choose to wait, whether it's for a right partner or for their career. The only thing that baffles me is when women wait until their 40s and then get a bit of a shock when they have to try other routes.
I was very tired when I created the thread lol, it was meant to be more of a 'what age will you be trying and why?' than an attack
again, I'm sorry if I've caused any offence.
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Also, iPhone will only let me thank lovehearts! So thank you for all your replies. Damn technology.
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Id rather have my children in my early 20's yet every one tells me to go out and enjoy my self but surely im going to have more money in my 40's to enjoy myself IYKWIM?


saddly OH has other ideas

Personally I want two by the time I am 28, at least before 30, I'll be 25 when our first one comes along and I think that is young enough for me as I wouldn't of been as ready as I am now when I was 20. It all depends on the person

No offence caused for me, chick

I'm 30 now and got together witih DH when I was 25, almost 26. We got married when we were 28. It's only really in the last six months or so that we've been financially and emotionally stable enough to consider having a baby (not that we were rocky in our relationship, more that we'd had long enough to know each other properly, just time to be 'us' before jumping into having kids).

I've got friends who are single now, aged 29/30/31 and they're not after much - someone who is financially stable, and willing to commit to some sort of relationship, but they just can't seem to find anyone (and they're not being all that fussy either!) We all live in London and it seems to be particularly difficult to meet people here for some reason

I think if you've (generally, not you specifically) met your OH/DH in your early 20s then you're very lucky. For a lot of women it's not a case of leaving it late, they just don't meet anyone they want to settle down with. There are some women who put their careers first, but I don't think they're as prevalent as health professionals/the media makes out...

Its obviously all down to pewrsonal preference and the persons life. Some women are much more career driven will obviously decide to have children later on. I had my son when I was 20, was 19 when fell pg. I didnt feel I had missed out on much as I had done a fair bit and had a pretty good well paid job. Im now 22 and we are planning baby no.2 which (if all goes to plan) would be born a few months before im 24. I dont think we can say whewther its right or wrong to have kids at whatever age, its all done to the person