Well it's our anniversary on Wednesday and Samuel just took overtime for that night, even though he knows I'm working the day and I can't get out of it, and I also REALLY need the money for rent, driving test, etc.

His argument is it's £200 a shift for overtime and it doesn't come around very often. Fair enough. But the money he earns he's putting towards a lads holiday in March, even though he just had one in January, and when I asked if we could have a holiday this year he told me we couldn't afford it, and while we're at it we can't afford to do anything for our anniversary either.

I was so angry I just got out of the car and walked off cos I thought I might actually punch him til he cried. So now I feel like poop He went out with some friends last night after work as well, so he was cream crackered for the whole of the one day I get to see him in nearly a week (because of work), and as he's working a night on Wednesday he's gonna sleep in til about 2 or 3 on Thursday, then be sleepy and grouchy the rest of the time he's up. Brilliant.

Am I beng a bit harsh? I guess I feel unappreciated, and maybe I'm just mad and need some time to calm down and see things clearly, but to me it seems completely unfair!

Sorry to rant girls, I'm just livid right now!! Needed to talk to someone as my mum thinks I'm being unreasonable, but she thinks Samuel's perfect lol. xx

May be worth while telling him why your pissed? I know men can be really dim sometimes when it comes to other peoples feelings so let him know you think he's being unfair and try and come to a compromise? Get him to make you a slap up meal next time he's off and just celebrate your anniversary a little later?

We talked about it at his house, and I'd accepted that he was working and everything, but in the car I asked if we could go on holiday sometime and he said no, and then I asked if we could do something for our anniversary and he said no we can't afford it. So he does know why I'm mad GRRRR.

I decided not to talk to him too much about it at the time in case I got too angry at him and made it worse. I'll try and compromise later when I've calmed down!

Seems a bit rubbish that he's saving for nights out and not holidays for the two of you > How about you save up on your own so you can go on a girlie holiday with friends? Maybe if you say you'll go without him if doesn't want to come he'll change his tune

I can understand why your upset, you're not getting to see him on your anniversary
But hun, (i hope this comes out right) you have the rest of your lives to tell eachother you love one another.

Maybe hes really hoping to put the money towards spoiling you and he wants it to be a surprise??

The best thing you can do is talk to him when you have calmed down, explain why your mad. Men (as deeper blue has said) can be a little dim

If he respects you he will put your feelings into concideration, but I think once men get a bee in their bonnet about doing something they will do it regardless

Maybe he is planning a surprise for you and that is why he is being so harsh? Or maybe you can discuss saving so you can go away together.

He does do that quite a lot, he did it for our holiday in December. He even had work lie to me and put fake shifts on the rotas so I wouldn't guess lol. But then I don't want to assume that's what's happening because I'll only end up uset again if I get my hopes up and it doesn't happen :P If you know what I mean?
However, at the same time I can't believe he'd do anything that would hurt me without explaining it and being more understanding. It's just not like him to be mean about anything :/ So I'm confused! I think he's just always so good to me that when he does do something even remotely mean it shocks me more than it should! lol
I've calmed down a bit now, but he's left his phone at home so I can't ring him lol xx

Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww that is so sweet

I wish my OH was that inventive, all his surprises I figure out!!!

Haha I'd already guessed at Frankfurt, but then I thought nooooooooooo way would he be able to get time off work for me, it's IMPOSSIBLE to get time off around Christmas! I couldn't believe he'd managed it lol
I'm really good at guessing surprises, and he's not usually very good at lying haha, which I really hate because it kinda takes the joy out of it if I know what's coming :P Ah well, the thought's there ^_^