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Old Feb 21st, 2010, 14:03 PM   #1
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A friend of mine found out she was pregnant with her second a couple weeks ago and since then I can't think of anything but wanting another baby. I'm trying to be supportive and everything, but I feel like I'm slowly dying. Anyone else going through the same thing and could maybe offer me some advice?


 
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Old Feb 21st, 2010, 14:22 PM   #2
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I know when I was TTC my first I became so desperate to be pregnant I'd just get tearful whenever any body mentioned babies or pregnancy. I felt I was becoming a really horrible person because of how jealous I was of my pregnant friends, and I found it so hard to be happy for them. The only way I could get round it was to throw myself into something else to take my mind off it until I got my BFP, so I channeled the energy in sorting out our finances, clearing out the house, painting and decorating and getting some educational stuff done for work too.

Fortunately I don't have the same desperate feeling for number 2 as I did for number one (probably because I at least know I can have babies!), but if I did I'd probably do the same again, making the most of my hobbies before #2 comes along and making sure me and Isla have a great time together. Maybe try focusing on and enjoying your two little ones since they are only young once and it would be a shame if you missed your time with them because you are focusing on number 3.

Sorry... you probably thought of all this already!
Hope you feel better soon.
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Old Feb 21st, 2010, 19:54 PM   #3
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I know the feeling! My friend just announced she was pregnant--and she got pregnant after trying for one month! I thought I would be the first to be pregnant since OH and I have been married for 4 years but we are waiting until the fall. So jealous. Don't worry, our time will come.


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Old Feb 21st, 2010, 23:45 PM   #4
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Totally know how you feel. I've literally just had a chemical, and my sister is coming round on Tuesday with my 6 week old Niece...


 
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Old Feb 22nd, 2010, 03:52 AM   #5
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I know how you feel too, me and my OH are hoping to try later in the year but I have PCOS and came off the pill at the end of Dec - only had a small pill induced period at the beg of Jan and then nothing so not sure if everything is Ok yet but somebody I work with very closely with has announced she is pregnant after 1 month of trying - really pleased for her but felt like a knife through my heart.

Like you say our time will come (fingers crossed) xx


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Old Feb 22nd, 2010, 13:14 PM   #6
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I know exactly how you are feeling hun, My friend and i both fell pregnant around the same time last year, I however had a mc which ended up being a molar. I then had to watch as my friend went through the pregnancy, birth etc.

I try to be supportive but still now i get a bit jealous from time to time. Of course i am really happy for her, just sometimes it hits home etc - i even have a little cry now and then!.

I think its only natural to have these feelings - our turn will hopefully be soon

Sarahx


 
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Old Feb 22nd, 2010, 14:27 PM   #7
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When my friend announced that she was pg with her second it literally felt like I had been hit the face or something - I was physically shocked. It is a horrible to feel all eaten up the jealousy - but also you only want to be happy for your friend/family member


 
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Old Feb 23rd, 2010, 11:30 AM   #8
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me too. i really try to forget how desperate i am for another baby but everywhere i turn there are pregnant women and tiny babies in prams just a reminder.

i personally know of 7 poeple who are pregnant at the moment and although it's very exciting and i'm pleased for them it really hurts inside when i see how happy they are.

lets hope that the next 18mths go really quickly and then i can try for one!


 
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Old Feb 23rd, 2010, 15:36 PM   #9
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absolutely, I've been patient for so long to achieve my goals but the wait is killing me...doesn't help that 4 close people are currently pregnant...oh well Our time WILL come!!!


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Old Feb 23rd, 2010, 19:38 PM   #10
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I was like this for years. People came and went in my life who got pregnant and I couldn't handle it so I kinda separated myself from them. I deeply regret it now. I used to get myself in a terrible state over it. I know for you it's different; it's not infertility preventing you from having a baby but I don't think that makes the pain any easier to handle. That need/desire for a baby is there and you can't just ignore or deny it. Hope you feel better soon hun xx


 
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