Anyone else only 'allowed' 2 babies! - Page 2

babyblog · Feb 21st, 2010, 14:34 PM

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Originally Posted by reversal

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Originally Posted by babyblog

Are you hoping for a girl this time reversal, or another boy?

I would like another boy but dont really mind, I had my last son at 28 weeks so just an easy pregnancy would do

Oh wow that is early, yes a healthy bubs is all that really matters

**polo_princess** · Feb 21st, 2010, 15:16 PM

Only 2 for me too

BOO

I'd like 3 but OH only wants 2, so i think its only fair that we have 2, i'd rather do without the extra 1 that i want than make OH have a child he doesnt want iykwim?

babyblog · Feb 21st, 2010, 15:29 PM

Oh yes def polo, he has his reasons and i do sensibly agree anyway!

**polo_princess** · Feb 21st, 2010, 15:40 PM

Ok i lied, id have about 10 if i could but 3 is a nice "round" number

chocolate · Feb 21st, 2010, 15:41 PM

This has got to be one of the trickiest things in a relationship when one wants 2 and the other wants more.
Im adamant Id like 3, but could easily go for 4, but no more than 4. Personally I think 3 would be ideal, but Id like a girl at some point so 4 it may be!

Id say its quite normal to feel broody already as the babies change so quickly, but I would say that I personally would wait a bit longer, enjoy your baby to yourself for a while, if you have another then you will spend less time with your first lo as you will be multi-tasking.
We were due to have our 2nd just after ds's 2nd birthday but sadly miscarried, but thinking about it now, at least I will have more time with ds, and then another baby as ds is getting older, so will fill that hole! I intend to spread the children out so I have at least one at home for as long as possible lol

babyblog · Feb 21st, 2010, 15:47 PM

Thanks Chocolate, sorry to hear of your loss. What you say does make sense, and i don't want to miss out on lo's first months by ttc another. Should be happy with what iv've got already-plus i had a c section so think i should be waiting a bit longer anyway!

calm · Feb 21st, 2010, 16:05 PM

I find it hard to see beyond having one as we are yet childless. I suppose two would be nice, and 3 sounds like more than I could chew! Then again, I think there isn't an objective opinion in my case, better see how I feel after number one.

I can understand what you say and what your OH says. I mean, personally I wouldn't mind about holidays and bedrooms, more if we were struggling, I would find that very stressful.

As for having one right away or not, that's so difficult, I am sure each situation has its pluses, I am sure that whatever you decide will seem the best choice you could have made. Take care X

silverbell · Feb 22nd, 2010, 04:17 AM

Got nothing to add, but just wanted to say that my younger brother and sister shared a room with me until I was 10 and then we moved house to a 3-bed house and I shared with my sister while my brother had his own room. A couple of years later my youngest brother arrived (unexpectedly) and so myself and my sister shared a room and the 2 boys had the other room in bunk beds (when littlest was older, of course).

It really wasn't that bad and taught us to share and respect each other.

Anyway, thought I'd add my 2 cents worth, though if your OH is adamant about 2 kids then it shouldn't matter anyway!

I hope you can come to an agreement and that you're feeling less broody soon.

sleepinbeauty · Feb 22nd, 2010, 12:07 PM

OH says he wants one, I want more than that! We decided that we'd have one and take it from there. (Both of us are waiting for the other to crack though!) I mean, if I really only DO have one, I'll be thankful for what I've got, sure....but I'd like more than that! I totally get where OP is coming from.

Eternal · Feb 23rd, 2010, 09:49 AM

Its hard isnt it ... I would love a massive family, we havent decided on how many we want so far and just taking it one at a time, we are planning on TTC in May for our second.

we discussed the more we have the less likely we can go to Florida etc, we alreday have a 4 bed house but actually want them to share :S crazy maybe.

Hubby was one of 4 so never has gone abroad (apart from france) and I was an only child, but both my parents owned business so i only went aboard twice as a child and once with them as an adult. neither of us felt we missed out.

we all still went on holidays, cottages, hotels etc.

I want my children to go abroad but figure it will just be over 5 years or so and cheaper holidays at home.

its a very individual thing though, its what works best for you. good luck x

Feb 21st, 2010, 15:16 PM	#12
polo_princess Mum (Mom) BabyandBump Team Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Hertfordshire Posts: 45,510	Only 2 for me too BOO I'd like 3 but OH only wants 2, so i think its only fair that we have 2, i'd rather do without the extra 1 that i want than make OH have a child he doesnt want iykwim?

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Feb 21st, 2010, 15:29 PM	#13
babyblog Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 2,183	Oh yes def polo, he has his reasons and i do sensibly agree anyway!

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Feb 21st, 2010, 15:40 PM	#14
polo_princess Mum (Mom) BabyandBump Team Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Hertfordshire Posts: 45,510	Ok i lied, id have about 10 if i could but 3 is a nice "round" number

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Feb 21st, 2010, 15:41 PM	#15
chocolate Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: South East of England Posts: 1,984	This has got to be one of the trickiest things in a relationship when one wants 2 and the other wants more. Im adamant Id like 3, but could easily go for 4, but no more than 4. Personally I think 3 would be ideal, but Id like a girl at some point so 4 it may be! Id say its quite normal to feel broody already as the babies change so quickly, but I would say that I personally would wait a bit longer, enjoy your baby to yourself for a while, if you have another then you will spend less time with your first lo as you will be multi-tasking. We were due to have our 2nd just after ds's 2nd birthday but sadly miscarried, but thinking about it now, at least I will have more time with ds, and then another baby as ds is getting older, so will fill that hole! I intend to spread the children out so I have at least one at home for as long as possible lol

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Feb 21st, 2010, 15:47 PM	#16
babyblog Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 2,183	Thanks Chocolate, sorry to hear of your loss. What you say does make sense, and i don't want to miss out on lo's first months by ttc another. Should be happy with what iv've got already-plus i had a c section so think i should be waiting a bit longer anyway!

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Feb 21st, 2010, 16:05 PM	#17
calm Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2009 Posts: 3,972	I find it hard to see beyond having one as we are yet childless. I suppose two would be nice, and 3 sounds like more than I could chew! Then again, I think there isn't an objective opinion in my case, better see how I feel after number one. I can understand what you say and what your OH says. I mean, personally I wouldn't mind about holidays and bedrooms, more if we were struggling, I would find that very stressful. As for having one right away or not, that's so difficult, I am sure each situation has its pluses, I am sure that whatever you decide will seem the best choice you could have made. Take care X

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Feb 22nd, 2010, 04:17 AM	#18
silverbell Trying to conceive (TTC) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: England Posts: 5,984	Got nothing to add, but just wanted to say that my younger brother and sister shared a room with me until I was 10 and then we moved house to a 3-bed house and I shared with my sister while my brother had his own room. A couple of years later my youngest brother arrived (unexpectedly) and so myself and my sister shared a room and the 2 boys had the other room in bunk beds (when littlest was older, of course). It really wasn't that bad and taught us to share and respect each other. Anyway, thought I'd add my 2 cents worth, though if your OH is adamant about 2 kids then it shouldn't matter anyway! I hope you can come to an agreement and that you're feeling less broody soon.

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Feb 22nd, 2010, 12:07 PM	#19
sleepinbeauty Waiting To Try (WTT) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: NY, USA Posts: 3,298	OH says he wants one, I want more than that! We decided that we'd have one and take it from there. (Both of us are waiting for the other to crack though!) I mean, if I really only DO have one, I'll be thankful for what I've got, sure....but I'd like more than that! I totally get where OP is coming from.

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Feb 23rd, 2010, 09:49 AM	#20
Eternal Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Swansea, Wales Posts: 6,624	Its hard isnt it ... I would love a massive family, we havent decided on how many we want so far and just taking it one at a time, we are planning on TTC in May for our second. we discussed the more we have the less likely we can go to Florida etc, we alreday have a 4 bed house but actually want them to share :S crazy maybe. Hubby was one of 4 so never has gone abroad (apart from france) and I was an only child, but both my parents owned business so i only went aboard twice as a child and once with them as an adult. neither of us felt we missed out. we all still went on holidays, cottages, hotels etc. I want my children to go abroad but figure it will just be over 5 years or so and cheaper holidays at home. its a very individual thing though, its what works best for you. good luck x

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