I'm currently on Depo mind you my first shot was in Jan.
I'm kinda seeing someone but I don't see it going long term.
Ever since I was 15 I've wanted a baby. Now that I have a steady job my own place, I'm thinking about TTC. On my own.
I have a couple of friends who are willing to donate and I am looking at my options and I'm looking at my finances long term.
Does anyone have any advice?

Only to get off depo, whether u going to go ahead with ttc r not, i've read a lot about depo(having bn on it myself) and there seems to be issues with fertility afterwards it. I would try something else.
Also, I don't have any kids yet so can't really give u any advice other to have a long hard think about it. I would certainly seriously consider doing it alone if time was not on my side but at 20, u've got loads of time left. Jus bide ur time n maybe u wont have to do it alone one day.

Thanks
I know that in reality time is on my side but unfortunately I also know my biological clock isn't. The best time to actually conceive a child with no complications is in your early 20s and I have a high risk of complications because of genetic history already. So I'm afraid that if I wait until I'm in my late 20s early 30s before I even try I either won't be able to or my pregnancy will have serious complications.

I would seriously reconsider. Having a baby is such hard work (and so is having a child and having a teenager). Sure, people can do it on their own. But why put yourself in that situation voluntarily? Plus wouldn't you think it much nicer for your child if they had a mum and a dad that loves them? You're 20 now. Your dream man might be just around the corner! And if he isn't then you can still reconsider going it alone when your 25. Your fertility won't decrease by then and at least you've given it a shot.

I'm sorry to hear that. It must be hard to know what the right thing is to do.

Do u have a good support system? I.e friends, family, would the potential doner stick around afterwards? I totally understand ur feelings but a part of me would feel its selfish to bring a child into the world jus cuz u want one??? Sorry if thats a bit harsh but it happens all the time, people having kids they can't look after.

I know it seems really selfish. But isn't it also selfish to wait until its I knw there will be complications with the pregnancy and bring a child into the world who doesn't have a chance of a normal life?
Its not really a fertility problem more of a problem when women in my family have children later on in their lives we tend to get pregnant to full term but the baby has a higher chance of having physical or mental disorders.
I think that if I honestly look at all of my options carefully and my finances I should be able to bring my child into this world and still be able to give it all the love and care that it needs/deserves.
I've thought about this alot for the past few years but I wanted to wait until I was at least 20 to start trying. I have a stable job, I have support from alot of my friends (they think I'm crazy but they are starting to understand where I'm coming from). My family is really supportive of anything I do, they think I should wait a few years. But also I'm told that if this is really what I want to do they will help me.
I agree that a child should have both a Mom and a Dad, but i also believe depending on the stability of a home a single mother can raise her children just as well.

I know it seems really selfish. But isn't it also selfish to wait until its I knw there will be complications with the pregnancy and bring a child into the world who doesn't have a chance of a normal life?
Its not really a fertility problem more of a problem when women in my family have children later on in their lives we tend to get pregnant to full term but the baby has a higher chance of having physical or mental disorders.
I think that if I honestly look at all of my options carefully and my finances I should be able to bring my child into this world and still be able to give it all the love and care that it needs/deserves.
I've thought about this alot for the past few years but I wanted to wait until I was at least 20 to start trying. I have a stable job, I have support from alot of my friends (they think I'm crazy but they are starting to understand where I'm coming from). My family is really supportive of anything I do, they think I should wait a few years. But also I'm told that if this is really what I want to do they will help me.
I agree that a child should have both a Mom and a Dad, but i also believe depending on the stability of a home a single mother can raise her children just as well.

I think as long as you have a good support circle around, and would the sperm donor want to be involved too? I would wait till you are older but at the end of the day it's your choice and if you can cope mentally and financially then it is totally up to you Good luck and welcome.

I think that sounds like a great idea, i'd love to know how you get on with it, im 19 single and wtt aswell! You have more going for you than a lot of others who fall pregnant and although legally there would be a lot to sort out with donors and that i think it would be a very rewarding albeit long journey, best of luck

Thanks.

Unfortunately the sperm donor is one of my good friends, he would be around be he doesn't want any resposibility which I understand he and I need to talk through the legalitys some more. Because I want the right to tell my child who their father is once they are old enough.