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Amygdala · Dec 28th, 2009, 03:35 AM

Sounds like your mind's made up. But do yourself a favour and consider this: do you want your ex back for who he really is? Or do you idealise him bow because he's not your current OH? It seems that the gras is always greener on the other side. If your ex is the one then he won't mind waiting for you. I would tell him that you have feelings for him but that you need to sort yourself out first and find out what you want. Take 3 months off and just be with yourself and then reevaluate whether your ex is really the knight in shining armour that you see in him. Stumbling from one relationship can work but in most cases it'll just make you loose track of who you are and what you want from life. My advice would be to find yourself and then worry about men, let alone becoming a parent.
All the best for your decisions!

lola-rose · Dec 28th, 2009, 05:58 AM

I agree with amygdala but think you have done the right thing ending it with current OH. Much fairer on you and him. Good luck with everything.

**booflebump** · Dec 28th, 2009, 06:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Amygdala

Sounds like your mind's made up. But do yourself a favour and consider this: do you want your ex back for who he really is? Or do you idealise him bow because he's not your current OH? It seems that the gras is always greener on the other side. If your ex is the one then he won't mind waiting for you. I would tell him that you have feelings for him but that you need to sort yourself out first and find out what you want. Take 3 months off and just be with yourself and then reevaluate whether your ex is really the knight in shining armour that you see in him. Stumbling from one relationship can work but in most cases it'll just make you loose track of who you are and what you want from life. My advice would be to find yourself and then worry about men, let alone becoming a parent.
All the best for your decisions!

I agree. You need some time away from men to make sure you are in a relationship for the right reason. That is because you love them, not because they buy you stuff. That statement alone shows how immature you are emotionally, and you need to realise that rushing from one thing to the next isnt doing you any favours. You are so young - go out with your friends, get drunk, kiss boys....anything other than concerning yourself with starting a family

princess_bump · Dec 28th, 2009, 11:04 AM

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Originally Posted by booflebump

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Originally Posted by Amygdala

Sounds like your mind's made up. But do yourself a favour and consider this: do you want your ex back for who he really is? Or do you idealise him bow because he's not your current OH? It seems that the gras is always greener on the other side. If your ex is the one then he won't mind waiting for you. I would tell him that you have feelings for him but that you need to sort yourself out first and find out what you want. Take 3 months off and just be with yourself and then reevaluate whether your ex is really the knight in shining armour that you see in him. Stumbling from one relationship can work but in most cases it'll just make you loose track of who you are and what you want from life. My advice would be to find yourself and then worry about men, let alone becoming a parent.
All the best for your decisions!

I agree. You need some time away from men to make sure you are in a relationship for the right reason. That is because you love them, not because they buy you stuff. That statement alone shows how immature you are emotionally, and you need to realise that rushing from one thing to the next isnt doing you any favours. You are so young - go out with your friends, get drunk, kiss boys....anything other than concerning yourself with starting a family

i have to agree with the lovely boof here hon, i really think you need to think about things careful, and also, to have some time perhaps, just you. perhaps don't worry about 'settling down' yet, enjoy going out, enjoy spending time with others. a wonderful relationship, and 'the one' will all come with time, i think, and i've found, once i knew what i wanted as a person (without men) then i was ready for a relationship.

lots of luck to you

xxx

Dec 28th, 2009, 03:35 AM	#11
Amygdala Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 3,085	Sounds like your mind's made up. But do yourself a favour and consider this: do you want your ex back for who he really is? Or do you idealise him bow because he's not your current OH? It seems that the gras is always greener on the other side. If your ex is the one then he won't mind waiting for you. I would tell him that you have feelings for him but that you need to sort yourself out first and find out what you want. Take 3 months off and just be with yourself and then reevaluate whether your ex is really the knight in shining armour that you see in him. Stumbling from one relationship can work but in most cases it'll just make you loose track of who you are and what you want from life. My advice would be to find yourself and then worry about men, let alone becoming a parent. All the best for your decisions!

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Dec 28th, 2009, 05:58 AM	#12
lola-rose Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Posts: 125	I agree with amygdala but think you have done the right thing ending it with current OH. Much fairer on you and him. Good luck with everything.

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