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Old 18-03-2008, 13:24 PM   #1
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My OH is so loving and caring and has been so amazing through the miscarriage and has been there for me and helped and supported me through it. He came over last night to check i was ok after the check up.
I told him that everything was fine, and we could start trying again in three months.
He went out got food and brought me some flowers, and cooked a lovely dinner. It was really sweet of him, and really romantic.
Then later, we were lying in bed watching a film and he turned to me and said that he thinks we should wait before we have kids. Because he thinks i should finish uni and get my degree so we have more money. I completely understand about money, but we were ready to cope before.
He has been different lately, and i put it all down to the miscarriage.
When i first told him i was pregnant again, he wanted me to get rid of it. Then i managed to 'talk him round' apparantly. I know he wanted the baby, and i know that he was just scared. I was scared too!.
But this has just really upset me!!. When i lost the baby, he said that once i've recovered, we'll try again.And now he's changed his mind.
Its not that hes a horrible person, because he's really not!! He's amazing. And i know he'll be a fantastic dad.
Hopefully he just needs time to get his head around it...
Im just so confused and upset!!

Sorry to rant YET AGAIN!!
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Old 18-03-2008, 13:28 PM   #2
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Know its tough but at least he is being honest with you.Hard when they don't agree with us, best he says so now.
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Old 18-03-2008, 13:51 PM   #3
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Thanks hun!
I know but its just hard. He was so happy and enthusiastic about us trying again, but now he's just changed his mind. its just so annoying and confusing...
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Old 18-03-2008, 14:28 PM   #4
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maybe he's scared of going through it all again?
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Old 18-03-2008, 14:47 PM   #5
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aww hun as above maybe he is just scared of it all again and seeing u in that much heart ache~?? xxxx
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Old 18-03-2008, 14:54 PM   #6
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Oh dear

At least whatever he is thinking is out in the open instead of him bottling it up. It would of only caused a rift between the two of you.

He doesnt sound like an A## at all hun, infact he sounds lovely.

If i were you id let it drop for a little while, let him get his head around things too then maybe bring it up again and see what he says

Hope it all works out ok for you though!!
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Old 18-03-2008, 16:13 PM   #7
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Thanks guys!.
Yeah, i'm so happy he told me, because it would be so much worse if he told me in three months, or even worse, when i foud out i was pregnant...
It just hurts...

He's not an ass at all!! He really is the most amazing man i've ever met..thats what makes it worse!...
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aww hun by looking at the above tickers its not too long but i know how it will seem like a life time, u sound very strong and very inlove whcih will make it better xxx
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Old 18-03-2008, 18:09 PM   #9
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Try not to worry, he could be hurting as much as you and you both need time to get over your loss. it could just be his way of dealing with things.
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Old 18-03-2008, 21:15 PM   #10
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aaawww huni maybe hes scared for u and he has seen u go through the pain and heartache of the m/c xxx
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