I hope he comes around. It could very well be a hard time for him too!

It's probably just because he is very upset about it and doesn't want to go through those emotions again (or want you to go through it again). My advice would be to agree with him for now, and see how you both feel in a couple of months - you never know what his opinion will be after he has had some time to cope with things.

I hope it works out for you both.

You don't sound like a horrible person at all. You are both going through a hard time im sure and just need a little time.

You didn't sound horrible at all.

That sucks but we women tend to get very emotional and the man tends to get logical. There is a middle ground and it does take maturity to get there from both sides. I know from my experience we started defending our own needs so much we forgot we were on the same side.

At ttimes like this its also good to get lateral. for example you could say, i hear your views so maybe we should not actively 'try' as in charting and all the stuff but see what happens.

Unfortunately my DH has been dilligent about preventing until we were in a better state in our relationship so there was no likely oopsies :-) but I do see his views more clearly now that we are heading towards trying. I cant imagine trying with him so against it. That sounds awful and not being on the same team at all. I have given him the time he needs but I also said that deciding on a date was not negotiable and he has to stick to it. I am 32 so this isnt about finances or anything. you can get to a win win situation but it takes talking and a bit of negotiation

good luck

Aww your not horrible hun, just men deal with things in diff ways to us women!!

Im sure if he had a forum where he could come and have a little rant to his male friends, he wouldd hun

I also agree with the girls.... You do not sound like a bad person at all. We are emotional as women and when a miscarriage happens some of us... just want to get on with trying again.... cos we dont want to be thinking about what we lost, we want to have a little baby.

So when someone says no it turns the hormones that are already in overdrive,further into overddrive.

If you and your oh are on the same level i m sure that you'll come to some agreement and have a new goal to work forward to.

Like you sai in a post before, hes been there for you and been sweet. But he may also need a little time.

Good Luck

Someone once told me if you wait until you can afford kids to have them, then you never will. It sounds like there is a deeper issue with him. Maybe he doesnt like seeing the loss hurt you so much? I hope he comes around.