When i first met my husband he was all up for having children (and still is he says). But in the last week as i am preparing for us to start trying i.e getting my period out the way, counting my cycle days and buying some ovulation and pregnancy strips he has started coming out with things like well maybe we should get some more money together, or worrying about loosing his job etc.
To me they seem to sound like excuses cause its 'getting real'
My DH was extremely nervous when we first started TTC. It actually took me about 6 months to convince him that we were ready to try, and than after we started he worried more than ever. I think it's quite a normal feeling for guys to have. The best thing you can do is to talk it over with him. Good luck
My OH was nervous about ttc no 1. He was ;ike your OH. He wanted to, but was like can we afford it. In the end I just finished my supply of BCP then told him if he didn't want me to get pg he'd have to sort out the birth control. He never did lol & 8 months later DS arrived.
Similar haappened ttc no 2. He said he did want another but was worried about me being pg. I did the same as b4 and 8.5 months later DD arrived.
DD3 just happened.
I think men are nervous about ttc. Maybe worthwhile finding out exactly what his concerns are & try & reassure him.
Oh yeah, I was thinking my hubby and I were never going to have a baby due to him never being ready. He kept saying "we'll have a baby" - at some point... (I never got a firm time frame out of him) After two years and much baby fever on my part, I only recently got him to agree to start trying late this summer.
He still seems a bit worried about the money issue too as we recently finished an addition onto our house, so we're trying to get things paid down. However, he can't really use the money issue as an excuse anymore because he knows that by the time we actually start trying, we will have already paid down a lot. He kinda knows it's time.
I don't care what anyone says. No matter how much you try to be ready for a baby, nobody is ever FULLY ready, moneywise or other.
It does sound like he wants to have a baby. He'll come around. Just hang in there. Trust me, I know exactly how you feel.
thats so positive. I am embarrassed to say that every time I go to the pharmacy I buy a box....they all over the place . DH is starting to get cross cos i already have a gazillion hair products everywhere....ha ha....
My husband is more sensible and practical than me. He's 34 this year and I am 25 this year, we have financial security, the house, the careers (well I will have after training ends in June), the emotional stability but still have things to do... I want to get back to preillness weight for one as I think it is only fair to the baby that I am at my fittest and also will make it easier for me; plus I enjoy riding my horses so I suppose waiting til my horse is a bit older and can't be ridden so much would make sense. Anyway, my husband is sure but he wants to wait a bit until things are settled and particularly until I have lost some more weight, so we are going to try early next year/end of this.
Loads of guys get like this. My OH was one of them - constantly going on about not affording a baby or being too young (he's 33). It's like suddenly it gets too real and they get scared and always want to put it off till a 'better time' but really when is there going to be a better time. You never know whats just around the corner.
My OH was always the opposite. At first, the idea of kids scared him, which is understandable, seeing as we're only 21/22 now. We were far too young at first. Now though, he is as broody as me, and can't stop going on about how beautiful our baby would be, and he can't wait to be a daddy
We'll see if his attitude changes once we start TTC though!
My OH was completely against the idea 2 years ago he was petrified just said a straight no.
Now though he is coming round to the idea, he hasn't said no. Just "don't know" which in chris's language is you make the decision and i'll do as i'm told. I think he knows how desperate i am.
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