Apologies if I'm in the wrong forum and it's a faux pas.

This sounds simplistic but it's not really: stop over-analysing, go with the "get those sticks" even if it's not as good as "Oh yeah honey, I can't wait to get a baby, which brand of OPKs are you using, are they the best?" and then see how the tune changes once you're in the full swing of BDing. Good luck.

hey babe, men get like tht they all get a lil scared! i wudnt worry about it at all just hava sit down and tlk about it. its completely natural for them to panic xxx

I think its the good old 'man as provider' that often swings into things.. they worry about the practical side of things even if they never put it that way.. its a guy thing.. plus they see things from a 'problem-solution' point of view.

My OH was very worried to about all those things until it became obvious that no amount of preparation is ever enough, and then his sister had kids and he was like ' i want one of them'...

Sadly i mc last month but he is now more determined than ever to become a dad and has totally forgotten about the worrying aspects of having a baby..

i know he'll worry again, as will I, but only when i get pg in which case it'll be much more appropriate!!

Good luck everyone!

With my DH I've always been ahead! I told I'm loved him after only a few weeks and he nearly ran a mile. The following few months till he told me he felt the same were tough but I respected him for not 'just saying it' because it was easier. I was ready to get married before he was and I was ready to have kids a few years ago. We had a discussion about 3 years ago about what would happen if I fell pregnant even though I was on the pill. He was surprised when I said, if he forced me to make a decision I'd chose our unborn baby over him. Don't get me wrong there wasn't a suggestion that he would have forced that decision, but he obviously thought at that stage it might have been up for discussion at least.

When I brought up stopping the pill last year I expected the same 'what if's' but he agreed the time was right and he is as into ttc as me. He gets upset when I try to protect him from the 'eeky' bits like CM and cervix position and god knows what else cos he wants to know. Crikey, he even holds my legs up for me post sex to help the spermies reach the egg! He is fantastic. And I feel good knowing that we both want this baby 100%. I don't know how I would have felt if I had ever thought I had coerced him into it......

Sorry for the long rambling post, but you'll know your OH better than any of us and I'm sure you'll do what's right for you both

having an image of him holding your legs up....thats sooo cute ha ha

My fiance and I were not planning on getting pregnant. And when it happened, he completely freaked. In fact, we were completely shocked because I was told 7 years ago I would never have children.

He was worried about money, etc. We never argue, but in the first three months we had three arguments all over the baby. However, he always said he wanted the baby, but did not know how to deal with it. And now he cannot stop touching my bump. He goes to sleep holding it! He also insisted on a doppler that we call BabyFM. And he is now talking of trying for a second baby!

thats soooo cool. nice to hear happy endings. :-)

Well with me I got "baby fever" last August after finding out two good friends were pg. I told my dh how I felt and at the time we lived far from our families. So in October we moved closer but he wanted to get financially settled and now I finlally started a job 2 wks ago. He wants me working 6 mos and wants the ducks in a row. I guess I can't blame him though

So, now that his friends have babies I think he is more up to the idea. He even mentioned he does want to but wants to wait b/c I had been nagging him and once I stop nagging him we will set a date. I don't know why he is like that. maybe they get nervous being pressured. We are due to talk about ttc this coming Jan. So I think we are moving forward and I am happy. I want to ttc anywhere from Feb-August '09. I am not set on a certain date. I am just wanting it in '09 and Ithink he is Ok too.

I am 32 and will be 33 in Sept and dh is 30 and will be 31 in June.

But we have come a long way since last August. Back then he didn't think he was ready to be a daddy and now I think he is. Now I hope to give up bcp's sometime in 2009.

I have just popped over from the TTC threads!

Although we have only been ttc for 2 months, one thing I learnt quickly is to not be too vocal with hubby, ie use your OPK's, HPT's etc but dont necessarily tell them when your testing, the results every day etc otherwise I think it all can become a bit too full on for most men! I dont even tell my hubby when Im ordering OPK, or HPT's I just get on and do it!

My hubby and I maybe talk about it all once a week, but apart from that I get on with my OPK's by myself without giving him a daily run down - he does normally ask when we have to "go like rabbits" as he calls it :-) but the rest of the stuff I generally keep to myself - I dont think men like to obsess about it as much as us ladies :-)

Just a thought!

well i have a 2 yr old that wanst planned but we planned r last one(i had a mc tho). My oh is treally nervous about it all. I feel pregnant 1st time both times so last time he didnt have much time to change his mind. Now dot get me wrong im not forcing him, its just he does want more kids but hospitals etc freak him out and he panicks. So we are trying in a few months as that was the earliest i could get him to agree to
I wont be talking about tests etc at all as it really freaks him out. When i did that last time he starting saying of u arent pregnant this month mybe we should leave it soon(i tested and was preggnant), he was happy but freaking out.