WTT after a loss support thread

Hey girlies,

I am just posing this idea really, I know it's not just me in this position (sadly, I wish it wasn't so many of us) and I was wondering if other people would find it helpful to have a wtt after a loss support thread.

I know I could do with some help, and sharing emotions with girls who have either been there, or empathise could be helpful?

If it's just me i'll ask for this to be closed and leave it, I don't want to upset anyone.

Love and healing to everyone

I think this is a really great idea; I know that sometimes I just feel like talking about it; and although mostly I don't talk about it, it would be nice to know that there is a place with support

This is a brill thread. I have had two MC since July. I find it hard to talk about it but it gets better it really does. xx

Thanks for the feedback girls,

Strawberries sweetheart. I am sorry for your loss. I love the quote in your siggy. Made me cry, so beautiful. ]

Becci_boo, I am so sorry to hear you have lost two angels. My heart goes out to you.

Can I ask how you are both coping? How long you are considering wtt for?

Well having my hubby here with me helps and he will just sit there and listen. Also my religion gives me a hope 4 the future of seeing my babies again all well again!
We are going to wait for over a year cos we are in a 1 bedroom house and want to move and get everything ready for when we try again. I also have PCOS which i want to have tests done etc... so i know i will have the help there when we want it so all good

how are you hun? xx

Hi Drazic,

I am really pleased you did this thread, my mind has just started to turn to this. I am waiting at the moment and a bit wary etc. Its still all new, but I am still positive we will have a healthy pregnancy next time.

The nurse at the EPAU told me to wait 2 cycles this time and my OH is keen to do that, but at the moment I just think WTH lets do it and see what happens. I'm just torn because I do want to do whats best, but part of me wants to wait, but its still no guarantee.

I think its because I am due to ov anytime now and even though we have had sex, we are going to start taking precautions and I just don't want to if that makes sense. Just having a thinking day today cos I am in a good mood and feeling frisky I guess, I should do more work lol x x x

Drazic, I think that's a fantastic idea! I miss BnB, but I've been feeling like I don't really belong. I can't bear to even look at first tri, I feel kind of jealous of the TTC girls because I have to wait, but feel like my mindset is too negative for WTT.

I've been advised to wait 2 cycles after my D&C, but I'm not sure how I feel about it. I completely agree that I need to take a cycle off, but from what I've been reading, there doesn't seem to be a really concrete reason to wait longer except for emotional well-being. If anyone has any actual statistics on incidence of complications or repeat miscarriage if pregnancy occurs before 3 months, I'd love to have that information. I don't really want to wait because I know that pregnancy sure didn't happen right away the first time and I don't want to delay trying IF we feel ready.

I'm really excited about this thread. Thanks so much girls.

Huge all round. I SO wish I could do something to make this better for us all, but I guess all we can do is NEVER lose the hope that this WILL happen for us all.

I am okay thank you, my real hold is waiting for my scan next Wednesday to confirm wether it is over or not. I am so hoping I don't have to go in for the D&C as we have done so much to avoid it and I just feel I can't move on until that is over. We had unprotected on Monday which has also made my head all weird. The bleeding had stopped, but I don't think I was really ready, I think it was more comforting each other gone wrong but as I am still getting bfps I don't think in a million years anything will happen. I am just counting down the seconds until Wednesday, alongside wishing it away!

Lori - I can't find ANYTHING which suggests the risk increases. After a full pregnancy, there is a risk in getting pregnant quickly. But after miscarriage, there doesn't seem to be any difference other than being asked to wait for dating purposes. I have to be honest, the idea of ttc is such an issue for me right now. One second I am saying I never want to be pregnant again as I am too scared, the next I want to ttc now, which probably ultimatly means I am not ready.

Ugh! Hugs!

I was like you aswell. When i lost my first it was a MMC i thought i was 11 weeks but baby daisy was only 8+4weeks. I had my D+C 2 weeks after finding out daisy had gone.
I wanted to start right away trying we said yes lets go for it. But emotionally i new i wasnt ready. When my AF came it wasnt nice at all! so heavy and painful. I was so glad that i hadnt fallen pregnant right after my mc. cos all that stuff that came out didnt look nice at all. i know tmi! i feel better since then but then i did fall pregnant and had a natural MC after a week of finding out so was more like a period but was so heavy.
i hope this helps! i'm glad i'm WTT cos i know i need time to heal and so does my body ready for another bean to stick

xx

I wish i didnt fit in here but i do,i was 35 weeks when my angel was born