Returning to work after babies?

Staceysparkle · Nov 9th, 2009, 07:47 AM

I was wondering how everyone feels about the thought of having to return to work after maternity leave as it is one of my main concerns and reasons I'm WTT. The thought of having to go back to work and leave my baby with a stranger terrifies me and I really don't know how I would deal with this. My OH is on £14,500 and it would be impossible for us to live of this alone but if I went back to work nearly all of my wages would go on childcare and this seems pointless having to work to pay all my wages to a childminder. We are both trying to save as much as possible to enable me to stay off work as long as we can afford but I only earn £16,000 myself so after rent, bills etc there is little left to save. I just wondered if anyone else had the same concerns?

lozzy21 · Nov 9th, 2009, 08:01 AM

Im not to botherd, We earn less than you but could afford it if i go back 3 days a week with my mam looking after lo.

fuffyburra · Nov 9th, 2009, 08:14 AM

Same as Lozzy, or I've been thinking about being a childminder for about 5 years anyway so when wem ove out that's something to think about

Things always work out in the end, no point fretting. Hope you feel better soon

xx

plutosblue · Nov 9th, 2009, 09:39 AM

I'm worried about that too hun, I think if I scrimp and save and we watch our money carefully I may be able to return part time to work instead of full time but its still scary to try and have to live off one wage and tid bits. I am just going to bug the family and try and get one of them to play babysitter

They all know we are trying this April and it will be the first granchild on both sides so hopefully they know what they are in for!

Strawberries · Nov 9th, 2009, 10:43 AM

I plan to take as long as possible for maternity leave, and then just go back part-time until all of my children are in school 9-3. I think, with being careful we should manage fine on OH's wage and my half wage.

Blob · Nov 9th, 2009, 10:54 AM

Hmmm Im not going back to work until they are older we just kinda use money wisley and then i will go back to uni so that we can afford the school fees

LadyofRohan · Nov 9th, 2009, 11:00 AM

I'm not returning to work until the babies are in school. We plan on having at least two so I'll be out of work for a bit! We can live off of DH's salary, especially if he gets the promotion he's applying for (cross your fingers!). It just means keeping a budget and no holidays for a while

Blob · Nov 9th, 2009, 11:02 AM

Fingers crossed for you!!

goddess25 · Nov 9th, 2009, 14:14 PM

I wish I could stay at home but i pay the mortgage and we cant afford it, unfortunately with my job you cant just go part time there has to be a part time job advertised and then you apply with everyone else, so i will be going back to work full time 12 hour days and nights which i am stressed about as we can fine NO ONE to do childcare. There are no nurseries that do the hours i need so husband is thinking about staying home we will see... he earns less than me! I just dont know what to do!

Lexx · Nov 9th, 2009, 14:30 PM

I am worried about this to. Is there any social workers out there that work flexi time or are just about to go back to work after met leave?

Nov 9th, 2009, 07:47 AM	#1
Staceysparkle Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Scotland Posts: 572	Returning to work after babies? I was wondering how everyone feels about the thought of having to return to work after maternity leave as it is one of my main concerns and reasons I'm WTT. The thought of having to go back to work and leave my baby with a stranger terrifies me and I really don't know how I would deal with this. My OH is on £14,500 and it would be impossible for us to live of this alone but if I went back to work nearly all of my wages would go on childcare and this seems pointless having to work to pay all my wages to a childminder. We are both trying to save as much as possible to enable me to stay off work as long as we can afford but I only earn £16,000 myself so after rent, bills etc there is little left to save. I just wondered if anyone else had the same concerns?

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Nov 9th, 2009, 08:01 AM	#2
lozzy21 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Teesside, Posts: 19,413	Im not to botherd, We earn less than you but could afford it if i go back 3 days a week with my mam looking after lo.

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Nov 9th, 2009, 08:14 AM	#3
fuffyburra Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: West Sussex, England Posts: 2,125	Same as Lozzy, or I've been thinking about being a childminder for about 5 years anyway so when wem ove out that's something to think about Things always work out in the end, no point fretting. Hope you feel better soon xx

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Nov 9th, 2009, 09:39 AM	#4
plutosblue Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Cambrigeshire. Posts: 5,860	I'm worried about that too hun, I think if I scrimp and save and we watch our money carefully I may be able to return part time to work instead of full time but its still scary to try and have to live off one wage and tid bits. I am just going to bug the family and try and get one of them to play babysitter They all know we are trying this April and it will be the first granchild on both sides so hopefully they know what they are in for!

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Nov 9th, 2009, 10:43 AM	#5
Strawberries Other BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 4,534	I plan to take as long as possible for maternity leave, and then just go back part-time until all of my children are in school 9-3. I think, with being careful we should manage fine on OH's wage and my half wage.

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Nov 9th, 2009, 10:54 AM	#6
Blob Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Scotland Posts: 12,722	Hmmm Im not going back to work until they are older we just kinda use money wisley and then i will go back to uni so that we can afford the school fees

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Nov 9th, 2009, 11:00 AM	#7
LadyofRohan Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: VA Posts: 1,317	I'm not returning to work until the babies are in school. We plan on having at least two so I'll be out of work for a bit! We can live off of DH's salary, especially if he gets the promotion he's applying for (cross your fingers!). It just means keeping a budget and no holidays for a while

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Nov 9th, 2009, 11:02 AM	#8
Blob Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Scotland Posts: 12,722	Fingers crossed for you!!

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Nov 9th, 2009, 14:14 PM	#9
goddess25 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: vancouver Posts: 5,592	I wish I could stay at home but i pay the mortgage and we cant afford it, unfortunately with my job you cant just go part time there has to be a part time job advertised and then you apply with everyone else, so i will be going back to work full time 12 hour days and nights which i am stressed about as we can fine NO ONE to do childcare. There are no nurseries that do the hours i need so husband is thinking about staying home we will see... he earns less than me! I just dont know what to do!

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Nov 9th, 2009, 14:30 PM	#10
Lexx Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 62	I am worried about this to. Is there any social workers out there that work flexi time or are just about to go back to work after met leave?

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