This timing sucks!

fairygirl · Nov 7th, 2009, 09:02 AM

I am going out of my mind. I put into a calculator what would happen if we ttc next cycle, and my lo would have an edd of 24th Aug. I really want and tbh need a Sept baby, it's the whole reason we're waiting. So I googled the average first pregnancy...41 + 2ish. Which would put me exactly where I want to be.
My edd if we hold out is the 24th Sept. But really what are the chances of us conceiving first go? 25%...

Am I that impatient that I go for my 25% chance next month or lucky enough to get it when I am supposed to try??

Seriously, I am the one holding out, OH will go with whatever I decide.

I'm so confused and cursing myself for not having the perfect dates! HELP!!!

amylk87 · Nov 7th, 2009, 09:07 AM

Hey, im sorry your stressing out, but im afraid trying to plan your EDD is something very difficult. I think you'll have to be really lucky to fall pregnant at the exact time you want to so your EDD is the month you want.
I would maybe NTNP the month before you plan to TTC and then really try hard the month your properly trying... lol.
Good luck x

Sooz · Nov 7th, 2009, 09:10 AM

I may be missing something somewhere (nothing unusual there BTW) but if you conceive next cycle I am assuming from your post it would be fabulous news, and if not then you are only where you planned to be anyway so.....why not go for it......

fairygirl · Nov 7th, 2009, 09:16 AM

I know I'm being wierd about the Sept thing, but it's working it around my job. I was thinking about suggesting we ntnp, but if I did manage to concieve, I'd be 36 weeks in July when we break up for the school holidays. I've never been pregnant before and want to know is it silly to be working til 36 weeks???? I'm looking forward to the luxury of not working when I'm heavily pregnant.

Sooz · Nov 7th, 2009, 09:20 AM

Oh right, with you now! I actually don't know what week most women work until although I know that after a time you can be forced to start ML early if you have pregnancy related illness that means you need time off in the latter stages of pregnancy.

I will only be able to work until a certain period because of what my job involves (I can't see a whale managing behind my bar with 3 spritely teenagers dodging round it), when we do conceive I am probably going to have to tell my managers before 12 weeks as they will need to do a risk assesment and alter my duties.

amylk87 · Nov 7th, 2009, 09:21 AM

Its a difficult one, maybe ask some pregnant ladies or mums when they stopped working and how hard it was to work to 36 weeks if anyone did? x

fairygirl · Nov 7th, 2009, 09:24 AM

My friend recently had her little girl and she says 36 weeks is horrid. If I had any issues it would be financially tighter to give up work in July. Although OH does earn awesome tips, or I could refinance my loans if that was the case (I plan to pay the big one off in Sept).

amylk87 · Nov 7th, 2009, 09:28 AM

I'd TTC/NTNP so that id fall PG after July then if would cause unnecessary issues around finance etc. You dont want to add anymore stress to pregnancy

Sooz · Nov 7th, 2009, 09:30 AM

In which case I think I would hold out for that extra cycle, you've waited so long, a few more weeks will fly by and before you know it you'll be ready to go. I know how hard it is to not throw the towel in and say bugger it though.

lozzy21 · Nov 7th, 2009, 09:57 AM

Id say go for it, the chances are slim you will catch that egg the first time. The average time for some one trying is 6 months

Nov 7th, 2009, 09:02 AM	#1
fairygirl Other BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Essex Posts: 8,196	This timing sucks! I am going out of my mind. I put into a calculator what would happen if we ttc next cycle, and my lo would have an edd of 24th Aug. I really want and tbh need a Sept baby, it's the whole reason we're waiting. So I googled the average first pregnancy...41 + 2ish. Which would put me exactly where I want to be. My edd if we hold out is the 24th Sept. But really what are the chances of us conceiving first go? 25%... Am I that impatient that I go for my 25% chance next month or lucky enough to get it when I am supposed to try?? Seriously, I am the one holding out, OH will go with whatever I decide. I'm so confused and cursing myself for not having the perfect dates! HELP!!!

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Nov 7th, 2009, 09:07 AM	#2
amylk87 Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: North West, UK Posts: 890	Hey, im sorry your stressing out, but im afraid trying to plan your EDD is something very difficult. I think you'll have to be really lucky to fall pregnant at the exact time you want to so your EDD is the month you want. I would maybe NTNP the month before you plan to TTC and then really try hard the month your properly trying... lol. Good luck x

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Nov 7th, 2009, 09:10 AM	#3
Sooz Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Sheffield, UK Posts: 9,917	I may be missing something somewhere (nothing unusual there BTW) but if you conceive next cycle I am assuming from your post it would be fabulous news, and if not then you are only where you planned to be anyway so.....why not go for it......

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Nov 7th, 2009, 09:16 AM	#4
fairygirl Other BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Essex Posts: 8,196	I know I'm being wierd about the Sept thing, but it's working it around my job. I was thinking about suggesting we ntnp, but if I did manage to concieve, I'd be 36 weeks in July when we break up for the school holidays. I've never been pregnant before and want to know is it silly to be working til 36 weeks???? I'm looking forward to the luxury of not working when I'm heavily pregnant.

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Nov 7th, 2009, 09:20 AM	#5
Sooz Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Sheffield, UK Posts: 9,917	Oh right, with you now! I actually don't know what week most women work until although I know that after a time you can be forced to start ML early if you have pregnancy related illness that means you need time off in the latter stages of pregnancy. I will only be able to work until a certain period because of what my job involves (I can't see a whale managing behind my bar with 3 spritely teenagers dodging round it), when we do conceive I am probably going to have to tell my managers before 12 weeks as they will need to do a risk assesment and alter my duties.

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Nov 7th, 2009, 09:21 AM	#6
amylk87 Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: North West, UK Posts: 890	Its a difficult one, maybe ask some pregnant ladies or mums when they stopped working and how hard it was to work to 36 weeks if anyone did? x

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Nov 7th, 2009, 09:24 AM	#7
fairygirl Other BnB Addict Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Essex Posts: 8,196	My friend recently had her little girl and she says 36 weeks is horrid. If I had any issues it would be financially tighter to give up work in July. Although OH does earn awesome tips, or I could refinance my loans if that was the case (I plan to pay the big one off in Sept).

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Nov 7th, 2009, 09:28 AM	#8
amylk87 Waiting To Try (WTT) Active BnB Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: North West, UK Posts: 890	I'd TTC/NTNP so that id fall PG after July then if would cause unnecessary issues around finance etc. You dont want to add anymore stress to pregnancy

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Nov 7th, 2009, 09:30 AM	#9
Sooz Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Sheffield, UK Posts: 9,917	In which case I think I would hold out for that extra cycle, you've waited so long, a few more weeks will fly by and before you know it you'll be ready to go. I know how hard it is to not throw the towel in and say bugger it though.

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Nov 7th, 2009, 09:57 AM	#10
lozzy21 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Teesside, Posts: 19,426	Id say go for it, the chances are slim you will catch that egg the first time. The average time for some one trying is 6 months

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