I haven't had any children yet, but sometimes I really want to TTC because I'm scared that I'm not going to be able to have children. That something is wrong with me or that something is going to be wrong with OH. I know right now it shouldn't be a big concern but sometimes the fact that I don't know makes me want to TTC and I know right now isn't the right time. Does anybody else ever feel like this? How do you deal with it?

A few years ago, before my friends started having babies, we would talk about this quite a bit. I did wonder the same, did ttc successfully but then lost the baby to a fatal development issue (which they said was bad luck, not either of our doing).

So, short form, yes, I have felt that way. I think it's a lot of the unexpected and just plain not knowing. We can hope that everything is ok, and we can want everything to be ok, but the only true way to tell is if we do actually go through with it and try and successfully have that baby. How do I deal with it? (Now I wonder what loosing the baby has done to my system, etc, it never ends!). I just put faith in the system. The world functions because women have babies. The real clincher for me was when my partner told me if we did have a problem naturally, that he would do anything to have a family with me, including all options, surrogate, ivf, adoption. So, I know that we'll get there, it's just a matter of when is all.

I was so sure that it was going to take us forever to conceive because I was convinced that we would have issues that we started earlier than we would have other wise. We fell pregnant on our second cycle. I'm at the start again, wondering if that was my chance, if it will happen again, blah, blah, blah. But really, it did happen once, I'm grateful for that, I pray it'll happen again and everything will work out.

This is a very common thought, so don't worry, I am sure everything will be fine xxx

I felt like this as someone i thought was my friend told me as i had a termination years ago that it would be hard to have any more. I was so convinced for years that this would be the truth but it wasn't.

I think its natrual to worry about getting pregnant as it's something that most people really want. I bet it will all be great for you.

Like calm said i think its a common thought.
I just think its me going through all my emotions lol x

Totally know what you mean. I'm 26 so still youngish I guess, but as both me and OH have never had children it's like, how do we know everything is working? We're assuming it could take up to 6 months, but what if a year goes and we're still not pg.. etc etc...

I guess you won't know till you start trying, so no point worrying - but I totally sympathise. More than likely you won't have any issues, and even if you do there is lots of help you can get these days. (:

Yeah have had these thoughts myself, with the problems other members in my family have had it worries me slightly, but then i can't just use that as a reason to get pregnant

I think about it all the time, I'm sure everything will be fine but I guess its the not knowing that freaks us out.

I've had this thoughts, sometimes it is pretty overpowering because you start thinking "We could start TTC right NOW, just to make sure..." I've learnt just to push those sorts of thoughts to the back of my head, look after myself (as much as possible) so I reduce any risk of spoiling my system now and have confidence in the fact that there's no big reason for either of us to have any issues. If we do when we start, we deal with it there and then, not worry about it now.

I have a baby and we are WTT but it still pops into my head but a bit differert