im sure ive posted on here about this before but is anyone else in the same boat where their OH has already has a child with someone else? he's not with his ex anymore, theyve both moved on, and he doesnt see his daughter because she lives 400 miles away and they both agree the infrequency in his visits would be confusing for her. and theyve only messaged each other on friendly terms the past couple of weeks so arent in contact as such anyway.

or how would you feel if you were in this situation with your partner? i think its harder when you're young and have no kids yourself but are sooo broody..knocking around wtt forums and what not

my oh has a daughter but we see her on weekends and i love her to bits, i dont find it that hard tbh, we both what more kids but amy is our number 1 prioroty

My oh has two children already too but they are both grown up(and life very far away)

Hi im not from wtt but my oh has 3 kids to another woman and i find it really hard, pm me if you wanna chat xxx

I think I'd find it hard, but that's only cos I find it hard to imagine. Me and my hubby are each other's "first" we've been together over 8 years and not been with anyone else, so hard to imagine it.

I guess how it feels depends on a huge variety of things xx

id find that hard to imagine! in some ways id like that (to be firsts) and in some ways prefer the way it is, pros and cons to all situations i suppose

are you having your first baby together?

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My OH has a child from a previous relationship, but I don't feel any negative feeling about it. His ex planned the pregnancy within months of them getting together, but forgot to mention this to him! When he came to ending the relationship around the same time, she dropped the bombshell on him that she was pregnant. He stayed with her until the child turned 7, but from what he has told me, his poor son must have lived through a horrible time - constant arguments, mother even brought a man back to the house after a night out with her son upstairs in bed etc etc.

I actually feel contented knowing that he is with me because he wants to be and not because we have a child together. We are due to marry in August and will TTC soon after. He has admitted that he wasn't ready to have a child all those years ago (he was only 22) but now he is. He has a very 'formal' relationship with his son, but had a bit of a messed up time with his dad when he was a child too so guess it filters through to the next generation. I am just really excited at the thought of having babies with him, and hoping that when it happens he will gain something out of the experience which he was never able to the first time round.

Hope that makes some sense!

my current OH only has our Riley and bean 2, but my ex did have a baby.
i was 14 and he was 18 when we got together, he became a dad at 16, and i knew he had a child from knowing him from school. so when we got together, his son was 2. and i fell in love with him...he was so adorable! when i broke up with him, his son was 5, and i guess it was my fault for getting so attached, but it hurt knowing i wouldnt see him again! ex now doesnt see his son because of everything thats happened, and i've seen him once since and he was still so sweet, and his mum let me go to the beach with them.
i can imagine it must be hard wanting a baby when OH already has a child..