Aria yet again another post that makes you out to be a sour old moo

I think around 21 is a good age (but thats my personal oppinion) because you are young enough to have the energy needed and are still going to be young enough to enjoy your life when they kids are grown up and you have had some time in the adult world and have usualy got a job and some training. But maybe if i had round the right person years ago i may have said younger.

well said

i agree that nobody is ever really 'ready'. life isn't a rehearsal, nothing is ever going to be perfect, and i think that when you get pregnant, and have a child, you learn to be a parent. i think people become as mature as their life requires them to be, we learn from the situations we find ourselves in - age cannot measure that.

just as an example of that, i am 22, have a degree (and a good job, but i plan to be mummy in october, so it doesn't really matter), we own our house, my husband has a permanent well paid job, we have been married since 2005, sounds perfect, no? i have found it SO hard to be pregnant, it is a long story as to why, but i was not by any means ready for this experience, a few times i have even contemplated having an abortion when i just didn't feel i could cope anymore. yet a friend of mine is just one week behind me in her pregnancy, she is 20, her relationship is not that stable, her job may not last beyond the next 3 months, and so on - but she has coped beautifully and i am totally in awe of her and know she will be such a fantastic mother and will always make ends meet and pull things together for her child.

Age is just a number.... I am 19 and pregnant with my first and ive had problems with people at work sayin "oh shes ONLY 19" but i am a lot more mature than most of the 30 odds there....

I work full time.. I intend on going back to work... Im in a stable relationship.. Im not married but what difference does that make??? So many people get divorced!! It doesnt make you mature and automatically ready for a baby if you get married...

People wind me up with their comments about you should be married or a certain age... Yer i agree with ttc after 18 but only because then its easier to do things....
People are always putting us young mums down but everyone knows we are just as good as you older ones...

Sorry im having a bit of a moan but ive had problems with this before...x

To be honest, there are a few of your posts now Aria, that have offended me. I in no way encourage under 18's TTC but there are a hell of a lot of teens, me included, that make fantastic mothers, better than a lot of people in their 30's. Age is just a number. It's unfair of you to just assume because we're young we will be unfit, immature mothers who scrape every available penny from tax payers via social welfare. Yes, I AM on benefits, without them, I would be completely screwed, I have nobody to look after Grace so I can't really go out and find work at the minute, never mind get a full time job (which by the way I fully intend to get as soon as I can) her dad has not long abandoned us leaving me to pick up all the pieces yet again... they might be a pain sometimes but the system in this country is excellent. There a people who choose to abuse it but they shouldn't give the rest of us a bad name. As for your posts I think they could be worded a little nicer

I do agree that TTC should really be taking seriously - we spoke for about a year before we started. At 22 and 4 years down the line and now pregnant, the relationship has went mental. And I dont know why. But this could have happened at any age. i could land on my arse and sadly have to rely on benefits til I get back on my feet - I have worked since I left school at 16, non stop. i work now, but how the hell would I do that if I was alone??

Age is just a number. The relationship is the factor. So is money. i tell you, if we did not own the house outright I dont think TTC would have been an option, and we both earn plenty.

Chances are she wont come back to the thread and apologise or explain herself she didnt the last times she said horrible things.

Like i said shes a sour old moo and thats putting it politly

I'd noticed that I suppose she is entitled to her opinion but the way she words things aren't the best. This isn't the first post I've been offended by what she's said and I'm pretty sure it won't be the last

I dont know tbh.
Theres pros and cons to every age.
If your happy, and doing great job, it doesnt really matter.