How old is too old to start trying?

wishandhope · Mar 30th, 2009, 00:03 AM

Hi guys,
At what age do YOU think is a good age to conceive a child?

Aria · Mar 30th, 2009, 02:29 AM

Not so old that the child will be changing your diapers at 20. I'm really bothered by these women having babies in their late 60's because they want to be parents (understandable), but who clearly aren't thinking that if they are alive by the time their children are 18, they'll be 85 and the child will be visiting in a nursing home or be a full-time caregiver. But chances are, that child will be burying a parent while a young teens and having to live with relatives, if there are any, or go into an orphanage or foster home. This is selfish. Part of the decision to be a parent needs to be considering what is best for the future-child.

Kids need their parents, even (or especially) when young adults. If there's a good chance you'll be dead simply due to age, that's when you're too old.

hapimami · Mar 30th, 2009, 03:00 AM

The early and late 20s for me is a good age as at this age, you should be mature enough to take care of your child. Also, at this age, you can enjoy growing with your child. Its not a matter of age actually when or how old is it to conceive but think of it that some are just lucky to have a child easily and some cant and even try in their late 40's. But as science say.. the younger the body of the woman, the healthier the environment at which the baby grows. But as it gets older, the less it cam give a baby good nurturing environment to grow in full maturity. I'm near 40 but still also want to have a baby girl aside from my full grown teenage boy.

coccyx · Mar 30th, 2009, 05:04 AM

Don't agree that just because you are older ' body is not as good ,nuturing environment'. I have had 2 babies around my 40's and as the midwife said I was a lot healthier, less problem free pregnancy than ladies half my age. Lot depends on life style choices. Do agree having babies in your 60's is crazy. Nature never intended women to have babies at that age.

Sarah88 · Mar 30th, 2009, 05:10 AM

I think we did it perfect by having Savannah at 20, when she's 18 i'll still be young and be able to go do my own thing. This is just my opinion though.

jillypoop · Mar 30th, 2009, 05:22 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by wishandhope

Hi guys,
At what age do YOU think is a good age to conceive a child?

When you and OH know that you are ready to be parents. There is no right age, as long as you and OH are ready to TTC then the rest is up to you.

xxx

broody21 · Mar 30th, 2009, 07:13 AM

Personally I think 45 is the limit. Any later than that, and it's selfish. I think mid-late 20's is good :-) you're mature enough, but young enough. With the risk of miscarriage and down syndrome increasing after 35, I want all mine by 35.

golcarlilly · Mar 30th, 2009, 07:16 AM

I had my DD at 24 and I am now pregnant again at age 39, this is my second marriage and will be my DH's first child. I think as long as you are happy with it anything up to mid forties is fine

**polo_princess** · Mar 30th, 2009, 07:23 AM

Personally i think anywhere between the ages of 20 and 30 are the ideal times to conceive .. but anything up to mid 40's really

heavenly · Mar 30th, 2009, 10:55 AM

Well I am 43 and we are TTC for our first. I haven't waited this long through choice, I was never with the right person before. So I hope we will be lucky but there is no point in having regrets, I wasn't with the right person before.

Mar 30th, 2009, 00:03 AM	#1
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Mar 30th, 2009, 02:29 AM	#2
Aria Pregnant (Expecting) Inactive Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Redwood City, California, USA Posts: 874	Not so old that the child will be changing your diapers at 20. I'm really bothered by these women having babies in their late 60's because they want to be parents (understandable), but who clearly aren't thinking that if they are alive by the time their children are 18, they'll be 85 and the child will be visiting in a nursing home or be a full-time caregiver. But chances are, that child will be burying a parent while a young teens and having to live with relatives, if there are any, or go into an orphanage or foster home. This is selfish. Part of the decision to be a parent needs to be considering what is best for the future-child. Kids need their parents, even (or especially) when young adults. If there's a good chance you'll be dead simply due to age, that's when you're too old.

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Mar 30th, 2009, 03:00 AM	#3
hapimami Mum (Mom) Active BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 18	The early and late 20s for me is a good age as at this age, you should be mature enough to take care of your child. Also, at this age, you can enjoy growing with your child. Its not a matter of age actually when or how old is it to conceive but think of it that some are just lucky to have a child easily and some cant and even try in their late 40's. But as science say.. the younger the body of the woman, the healthier the environment at which the baby grows. But as it gets older, the less it cam give a baby good nurturing environment to grow in full maturity. I'm near 40 but still also want to have a baby girl aside from my full grown teenage boy.

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Mar 30th, 2009, 05:04 AM	#4
coccyx Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: with the camels Posts: 2,578	Don't agree that just because you are older ' body is not as good ,nuturing environment'. I have had 2 babies around my 40's and as the midwife said I was a lot healthier, less problem free pregnancy than ladies half my age. Lot depends on life style choices. Do agree having babies in your 60's is crazy. Nature never intended women to have babies at that age.

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Mar 30th, 2009, 05:10 AM	#5
Sarah88 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Queensland, Australia Posts: 3,573	I think we did it perfect by having Savannah at 20, when she's 18 i'll still be young and be able to go do my own thing. This is just my opinion though.

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Mar 30th, 2009, 07:13 AM	#7
broody21 Waiting To Try (WTT) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: North Wales Posts: 1,886	Personally I think 45 is the limit. Any later than that, and it's selfish. I think mid-late 20's is good :-) you're mature enough, but young enough. With the risk of miscarriage and down syndrome increasing after 35, I want all mine by 35.

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Mar 30th, 2009, 07:16 AM	#8
golcarlilly Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Huddersfield, West Yorkshire Posts: 10,441	I had my DD at 24 and I am now pregnant again at age 39, this is my second marriage and will be my DH's first child. I think as long as you are happy with it anything up to mid forties is fine

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Mar 30th, 2009, 07:23 AM	#9
polo_princess Mum (Mom) BabyandBump Team Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Hertfordshire Posts: 45,510	Personally i think anywhere between the ages of 20 and 30 are the ideal times to conceive .. but anything up to mid 40's really

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Mar 30th, 2009, 10:55 AM	#10
heavenly Trying to conceive (TTC) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Sussex, UK Posts: 1,186	Well I am 43 and we are TTC for our first. I haven't waited this long through choice, I was never with the right person before. So I hope we will be lucky but there is no point in having regrets, I wasn't with the right person before.

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