Just a wondering?

mrschapman2b · Mar 4th, 2009, 05:09 AM

Hello,

I went to a chrsitening on Sunday and it got me thinking.

When you do have a baby are you going to get them christened?

You see my BIL2b and his wife christened their son but aren't actually religous at all, the only real time they've been in a church is when they got married 3 years ago.

We were thinking if we do get our precious

We would have a naming ceremony instead, with Life mentors instead of God parents

Di x

jen1604 · Mar 4th, 2009, 05:16 AM

Im getting my little girl christened in May.
Im having a real conscience struggle with it all at the moment.
Half my family are pagan,some are christians and my mum is an atheist.
Anyway my beliefs are kind of half christian,half pagan.In her room we do keep a little bag of herbs/precious stones and a little candle that my pagan aunty cast a spell over and blessed her with.
But we decided to get her christened aswell more because the church we're getting her christened in means a lot to me and I know it will mean a lot to the older relatives to have her christened.

bigbloomerz · Mar 4th, 2009, 05:28 AM

I used to be religious, I was brought up in a god fearing religion, but no longer believe in it. I struggle with a faith or belief in anything now. I wont have a christening for any of my children, for the same reasons that I didnt get married in a Church, that I dont know if i believe in God and dont want to force a belief on them. If they want to believe in God then they can choose to do so when they are old enough.
I would have a Naming Party instead and have sort of Godparents but they would be a special aunty and uncle!
Thats just my personal opinion, I am a godmother to my friends daughter, and I believe in the responsiblities of such a role, but not the taking them to church bit lol. x

Pixxie · Mar 4th, 2009, 05:36 AM

I wouldnt have a christening since me and my OH are both atheist and I strongly believe in letting someone choose weather or not they are part of a religion, no matter how small a part that may be. If they decide when they are old enough to understand what a christening means that they want one then I will be glad to, but I dont think someone else should make that choice for them? I would have a naming ceremony though, I like the idea of that.

x

**booflebump** · Mar 4th, 2009, 07:54 AM

We will be having a christening in the same church that me, my three brothers and my two cousins were, where my grandads funeral was held, and my aunties wedding - so it really is a family church and I want my child to be welcomed in to the world in the same way.

mrstapster · Mar 4th, 2009, 08:53 AM

Hi, i've had the same discussion with my dh, i'm a catholic although i can't remember the last time i went to church, other than for a christening or wedding! My dh is an athiest. Religion is very much an adult choice and everyone has their own views, however one aspect to consider is schools!

In the area where I live the best schools are catholic, so after much persuasion my dh has agreed to have a catholic christening, that way we'll have more choice with regard education.

I'm not at all religious, but must say that I found as a little girl I enjoyed going to catholic schools as it was nice to feel part of gods family so to speak! LOL

sleepinbeauty · Mar 4th, 2009, 10:49 AM

No. I don't believe in forcing a religion on someone before they even know how to make up their own mind. OH is an atheist, I'm a Unitarian Universalist/VERY (EXTREMELY) loosely Christian....like... I believe there *might* be a God....maybe. Screw that.

That said, I've tried the whole "super-Christian" thing....I hated it. I was actually scheduled to be baptized on the night before Easter this year, bu tI pulled out because I don't believe in what it means. I wear a cross 24/7....but I am starting to think it's more out of habit. I wanted so badly to just blindly follow like some people do....but I just can't bring myself to join a religion that hates gays (I'm bi) and condemns the Right to Choose.

That said, if it works for you, great. Knock yourself out.

(sorry if that came off kinda rough...in a mood today, thanks to my *fantastic* family)

Seity · Mar 4th, 2009, 10:49 AM

If we did, it would only be for my parents who are uber-strict nazi Catholics. My OH was also raised Catholic, but in a much more relaxed kind of way, so neither of us feels the need to christen our children.

Pops · Mar 4th, 2009, 12:24 PM

Yes, definately. Neither myself or OH are practising Catholics but we have both been Christened, made our First Holy Communion and our Confirmation and we like the fact that should we want to be, that our parents put the first parts in place for us. We were then left to choose which road we wanted to take.

We both agree that this is how we would like to be with our children, and we also think it is a beautiful way to welcome them into the world.

I would never say someone was right or wrong for doing or not doing though, everyone has their own beliefs, feelings and wants and what is right for one isn't for another.

xxx

binxyboo · Mar 4th, 2009, 12:29 PM

No we won't have any future children christened. Hubby and I didn't even get married in church - we had a nice civil ceremony in my local Town Hall.
I DO like the thought of 'god-parents' though. Hubby is an only child and I lost my only brother 3 years ago, so any children we have will have no aunts or uncles.
I think we would probably go down the Civil Naming Ceremony route and have Gaurdians instead of God-Parents.

Mar 4th, 2009, 05:09 AM	#1
mrschapman2b Pregnant (Expecting) New BnB member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Northants Posts: 3	Just a wondering? Hello, I went to a chrsitening on Sunday and it got me thinking. When you do have a baby are you going to get them christened? You see my BIL2b and his wife christened their son but aren't actually religous at all, the only real time they've been in a church is when they got married 3 years ago. We were thinking if we do get our precious We would have a naming ceremony instead, with Life mentors instead of God parents Di x

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Mar 4th, 2009, 05:16 AM	#2
jen1604 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Devon Posts: 7,497	Im getting my little girl christened in May. Im having a real conscience struggle with it all at the moment. Half my family are pagan,some are christians and my mum is an atheist. Anyway my beliefs are kind of half christian,half pagan.In her room we do keep a little bag of herbs/precious stones and a little candle that my pagan aunty cast a spell over and blessed her with. But we decided to get her christened aswell more because the church we're getting her christened in means a lot to me and I know it will mean a lot to the older relatives to have her christened.

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Mar 4th, 2009, 05:28 AM	#3
bigbloomerz Pregnant (Expecting) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: The Garden of England, UK Posts: 3,699	I used to be religious, I was brought up in a god fearing religion, but no longer believe in it. I struggle with a faith or belief in anything now. I wont have a christening for any of my children, for the same reasons that I didnt get married in a Church, that I dont know if i believe in God and dont want to force a belief on them. If they want to believe in God then they can choose to do so when they are old enough. I would have a Naming Party instead and have sort of Godparents but they would be a special aunty and uncle! Thats just my personal opinion, I am a godmother to my friends daughter, and I believe in the responsiblities of such a role, but not the taking them to church bit lol. x

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Mar 4th, 2009, 05:36 AM	#4
Pixxie Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Salford, UK Posts: 6,685	I wouldnt have a christening since me and my OH are both atheist and I strongly believe in letting someone choose weather or not they are part of a religion, no matter how small a part that may be. If they decide when they are old enough to understand what a christening means that they want one then I will be glad to, but I dont think someone else should make that choice for them? I would have a naming ceremony though, I like the idea of that. x

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Mar 4th, 2009, 07:54 AM	#5
booflebump Other BabyandBump Team Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 19,615	We will be having a christening in the same church that me, my three brothers and my two cousins were, where my grandads funeral was held, and my aunties wedding - so it really is a family church and I want my child to be welcomed in to the world in the same way.

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Mar 4th, 2009, 08:53 AM	#6
mrstapster Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Lancashire Posts: 139	Hi, i've had the same discussion with my dh, i'm a catholic although i can't remember the last time i went to church, other than for a christening or wedding! My dh is an athiest. Religion is very much an adult choice and everyone has their own views, however one aspect to consider is schools! In the area where I live the best schools are catholic, so after much persuasion my dh has agreed to have a catholic christening, that way we'll have more choice with regard education. I'm not at all religious, but must say that I found as a little girl I enjoyed going to catholic schools as it was nice to feel part of gods family so to speak! LOL

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Mar 4th, 2009, 10:49 AM	#7
sleepinbeauty Waiting To Try (WTT) BnB Addict Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: NY, USA Posts: 3,298	No. I don't believe in forcing a religion on someone before they even know how to make up their own mind. OH is an atheist, I'm a Unitarian Universalist/VERY (EXTREMELY) loosely Christian....like... I believe there might be a God....maybe. Screw that. That said, I've tried the whole "super-Christian" thing....I hated it. I was actually scheduled to be baptized on the night before Easter this year, bu tI pulled out because I don't believe in what it means. I wear a cross 24/7....but I am starting to think it's more out of habit. I wanted so badly to just blindly follow like some people do....but I just can't bring myself to join a religion that hates gays (I'm bi) and condemns the Right to Choose. That said, if it works for you, great. Knock yourself out. (sorry if that came off kinda rough...in a mood today, thanks to my fantastic family)

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Mar 4th, 2009, 10:49 AM	#8
Seity Other BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Ithaca, NY Posts: 12,807	If we did, it would only be for my parents who are uber-strict nazi Catholics. My OH was also raised Catholic, but in a much more relaxed kind of way, so neither of us feels the need to christen our children.

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Mar 4th, 2009, 12:24 PM	#9
Pops Other BnB Addict Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Surrey Posts: 9,350	Yes, definately. Neither myself or OH are practising Catholics but we have both been Christened, made our First Holy Communion and our Confirmation and we like the fact that should we want to be, that our parents put the first parts in place for us. We were then left to choose which road we wanted to take. We both agree that this is how we would like to be with our children, and we also think it is a beautiful way to welcome them into the world. I would never say someone was right or wrong for doing or not doing though, everyone has their own beliefs, feelings and wants and what is right for one isn't for another. xxx
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Mar 4th, 2009, 12:29 PM	#10
binxyboo Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Hampshire. UK Posts: 3,771	No we won't have any future children christened. Hubby and I didn't even get married in church - we had a nice civil ceremony in my local Town Hall. I DO like the thought of 'god-parents' though. Hubby is an only child and I lost my only brother 3 years ago, so any children we have will have no aunts or uncles. I think we would probably go down the Civil Naming Ceremony route and have Gaurdians instead of God-Parents.

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