Well, I'm feeling rubbish this morning...

Yet again I saw a midwife who didn't have a clue what was going on or what she was meant to be doing. I feel like I know more than most of the midwives I see.

Also, the CRP levels in my blood are elevated. (I know as I asked the midwife about my blood results and she looked them up for me) However, she had no idea what it meant, and then looked up 'CRP' on Wikipedia in front of me!!!! FFS!!! Then she just said it could indicate an infection (which could obviously be life threatening for my babies) but not to worry and I'd be fine to wait until my consultant's appointment tomorrow.

I obviously got upset and started crying, and the midwife then became very patronising and basically said that although my babies mean the world to me, it is all pretty routine for them and I would probably miscarry as the prognosis isn't good in these situations.

I feel really angry and upset and like they are just managing me until I miscarry, not being proactive in my care at all. I'm not stupid and I know that statistically the odds are aganst me, but I also know that there is a chance and have spoken to women who were told there was no chance for them when they were in my situation and yet their babies survived.

Hopefully I'll feel better when I speak to the consultant later.

:O as if she was like that with you!!! wtf nasty cow!!!!

& babe do try not to worry... they told me friday 2 and half weeks ago i would miscarry in the next 2 days & get pains!!! but fingers crossed nothing has happened yet & the water is back ... i no its very worryin and it doesnt help when people are like that with you... x hope your ok... x

Oh Midori - I have so been there darlin'

Some of the midwives/docs are unbelievable. We sat there on the night of our daughters impending premature birth at 23wks, whilst a registrar proceeded to tell us (with a grin on his face) that there was nothing they could do, our daughter would be born and she would die

I absolutely would not accept it - and asked them to fight anyway. THank God I did - otherwise she wouldn't be here today.

I am not saying they are always wrong, but hun don't give up or believe everything they tell you. This is your pregnancy, your babies and it's not over yet. The ignorance of some midwives is unbelievable to me, not to mention their complete insensitivity amd callousness.

We have been told numerous times that things look bad, there is no hope and there is no point in bothering. I look back now with such anger - I was so desperate and vulnerable. They were wrong on so many occasions - I just had to trust my instincts and fight on regardless.

Even if things don't work out, all you can do as a Mum is the very best in that moment for your pregnancy - being negative certainly will get you nowhere. Medical statistics are only part of the story hun, faith and the power of positive thought also play a huge part.

Much love my sweet, and PM me if you need some extra strength to get thru this

All I can say is a friend's waters broke at 12 weeks, but despite declining fluid in the sac she held on until 24 weeks - was hospitalised and gave birth at 28 weeks. Baby was very small and still has some problems with his lungs but he's a great little 6 year old now, at school and he's as bright as a button....

She was told on multiple occasions to abort and that there was no point and she was adamant that whilst there was a heartbeat she would fight and so would her baby! and he is a wee cracker!

Good luck x

thinking of you hun x

im sorry to hear the such insensitvity of the midwive,

Thankyou all.

I have just got back frommy consultant appointment, although saw a registrar as my consultant is away at the moment. Had to endure the usual negativity about my condition, do wish they would be more positive. I'm fully aware of what the outcome is likely to be, so why harp on about it...

Both twins are fine for now, although twin 1 doesn't have much room and is very constricted. He/she is moving a little though, and does have a heartbeat, although for some reason the registrar only wrote 'FM (foetal movement) for twin 1, but wrote FM ++ (very wriggly tiddler) and FH (heart) for twin 2.

She said the blood results were nothing to worry about, and the levels had actually come down a little on yesterdays blood results, so that's good.

Hello hun, i'm so sorry to hear what you are going thru and furious on your behalf about being spoken to like that by the midwife!! How dare she! If she cannot show some sensitivity and sympathy for you then she is in the wrong job! I would complain about her if i were you. Keep your spirits and and try not to let them get to you. Wishing you and the babies well. xxx

That's great news

The docs aren't always right....a slightly different situation but my friend was told at 29 weeks that one of her twin girls had suffered a bleed on the brain and would die or be born severely handicapped. She endured a week of tests and doctors telling her to abort before one doctor finally told her that there was a good chance that her daughter would be fine and that they should be delivered immediately as not to would put both twins in danger. They were delivered at 30 weeks and spent 9 weeks in SCBU but are now both 9 months old and to date there is no sign of any developmental problems with either of them

Hang on in there!

dont listen to the doctors hun!!! one says something the other one says something different!!! jus think every day that passes is a day closer to 24weeks xx