Do you feel sorry

Laura2919 · Feb 9th, 2010, 05:30 AM

Do you feel sorry for your babies sometimes??

I do because as a singleton you get mummy to yourself, all her attention, all her love and all her time but as a twin you have to share..

I have a really good baby in Chloe and a highly strung baby in Jaycee lol!

Chloe will be very happy to sit down and eat whilst Jaycee has mummy cuddles. I share my time out as much as I can between them but she is such a good girl Chloe that sometimes I cant help but feel a bit sorry for her.

Jaycee is so funny though and she does do most of the entertaining, Chloe will laugh at her all day long!! x

Lindyloo · Feb 9th, 2010, 06:01 AM

The girls sounds so lovely

I cant really answer your question because I have 2 singletons and now preg with twins so did it the other way round but I have 3 years between my oldest and 2nd and whilst I loved every minute with him as a singleton baby and toddler he is such a better and more rounded child for having a sibling because of sharing toys and time etc. Neither of them can wait until their brother(s)/sister(s) are here.

vineyard · Feb 9th, 2010, 13:23 PM

I often feel guilty for giving one more attention that the other. But, it doesn't matter who I'm spending time with, I always feel bad for the other.

_Vicky_ · Feb 9th, 2010, 14:19 PM

well I am just finding the mothers guilt thing out. Fynn has been in special care and Sam has been home and it was hell on earth trying to spread my attention out. Poor little Sam has been dragged to the hospital every day and not had regular routines or feeds - he even got nappy rash as we must have not changed his nappy regularly due to being at hospital/ on route and he was sitting in a dirth nappy which I feel awful for.

Fynn is by far the easier baby so far and Sam is a stress head so no doubt Sam will get his own back lol

bek74 · Feb 9th, 2010, 20:59 PM

This is one of my concerns. Having had 3 singleton pregnancies I know how much is involved in attending to just one baby and giving that little bub all the love and attention I can give.
I am worried I won't be able to give them both exactly what they need, like I was able to give to my singletons and that scares me a little. However the excitement at the moment is taking over.
I have excepted that I am only one person and all I can do is my best. I do have older children and I know when they are home they will help out as much as possible, so that is good.

Laura2919 · Feb 11th, 2010, 06:44 AM

Oh Vicky that must be so hard! Poor you! I was very lucky and both my babies came home at the same time, Jaycee was only one day behind Chloe in terms of growth and learning to feed!
I think you shouldnt feel guilty your doing what is best for both boys and at least you have them both together.

Jaycee was admitted to hospital in December for RSV and Bronchilolitus and Chloe werent allowed up so I spent 3 days away from her because we were transferred to a hospital 45mins away and then after the 3rd day my partner and I swapped and then Jaycee came home that evening. It was really hard. x

mamalove · Feb 12th, 2010, 05:36 AM

I don't feel sorry for my twin girls,but i do for my daughter. Ok,she had my full attention,i was always there for her and we enjoyed our time together,but twins have each other,they will always be close and have that special bond between them,and i worry if she'll always feel left out.

Feb 9th, 2010, 05:30 AM	#1
Laura2919 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 14,111	Do you feel sorry Do you feel sorry for your babies sometimes?? I do because as a singleton you get mummy to yourself, all her attention, all her love and all her time but as a twin you have to share.. I have a really good baby in Chloe and a highly strung baby in Jaycee lol! Chloe will be very happy to sit down and eat whilst Jaycee has mummy cuddles. I share my time out as much as I can between them but she is such a good girl Chloe that sometimes I cant help but feel a bit sorry for her. Jaycee is so funny though and she does do most of the entertaining, Chloe will laugh at her all day long!! x

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Feb 9th, 2010, 06:01 AM	#2
Lindyloo Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Suffolk Posts: 590	The girls sounds so lovely I cant really answer your question because I have 2 singletons and now preg with twins so did it the other way round but I have 3 years between my oldest and 2nd and whilst I loved every minute with him as a singleton baby and toddler he is such a better and more rounded child for having a sibling because of sharing toys and time etc. Neither of them can wait until their brother(s)/sister(s) are here.

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Feb 9th, 2010, 13:23 PM	#3
vineyard Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Boise Idaho Posts: 2,379	I often feel guilty for giving one more attention that the other. But, it doesn't matter who I'm spending time with, I always feel bad for the other.

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Feb 9th, 2010, 14:19 PM	#4
_Vicky_ Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: May 2009 Location: Derbyshire - UK Posts: 5,928	well I am just finding the mothers guilt thing out. Fynn has been in special care and Sam has been home and it was hell on earth trying to spread my attention out. Poor little Sam has been dragged to the hospital every day and not had regular routines or feeds - he even got nappy rash as we must have not changed his nappy regularly due to being at hospital/ on route and he was sitting in a dirth nappy which I feel awful for. Fynn is by far the easier baby so far and Sam is a stress head so no doubt Sam will get his own back lol

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Feb 9th, 2010, 20:59 PM	#5
bek74 Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Brisbane Queensland Australia Posts: 3,656	This is one of my concerns. Having had 3 singleton pregnancies I know how much is involved in attending to just one baby and giving that little bub all the love and attention I can give. I am worried I won't be able to give them both exactly what they need, like I was able to give to my singletons and that scares me a little. However the excitement at the moment is taking over. I have excepted that I am only one person and all I can do is my best. I do have older children and I know when they are home they will help out as much as possible, so that is good.

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Feb 11th, 2010, 06:44 AM	#6
Laura2919 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 14,111	Oh Vicky that must be so hard! Poor you! I was very lucky and both my babies came home at the same time, Jaycee was only one day behind Chloe in terms of growth and learning to feed! I think you shouldnt feel guilty your doing what is best for both boys and at least you have them both together. Jaycee was admitted to hospital in December for RSV and Bronchilolitus and Chloe werent allowed up so I spent 3 days away from her because we were transferred to a hospital 45mins away and then after the 3rd day my partner and I swapped and then Jaycee came home that evening. It was really hard. x

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Feb 12th, 2010, 05:36 AM	#7
mamalove Mum (Mom) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: uk Posts: 1,369	I don't feel sorry for my twin girls,but i do for my daughter. Ok,she had my full attention,i was always there for her and we enjoyed our time together,but twins have each other,they will always be close and have that special bond between them,and i worry if she'll always feel left out.

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