It's a terrible decision to have to make, isn't it? We are faced with the exact same situation. We have 6 little frosties. We feel so lucky that IVF worked first time and we have one of each. We have been truly blessed.

I guess things are a little different here (UK). We have 3 choices - dispose of them, donate them for research or donate them to another couple. Before the children were born we were pretty sure that we wanted to donate them to another couple (the other options are too difficult to bear) but now that we know these two little people its so difficult to imagine giving them away..... yet, we don't think we should try for more.

We don't think we want to go through IVF again. What if it didn't work this time and we were left feeling disappointed and bereft when in fact we should be thanking our lucky stars for the two children we do have? What if it does work and the balance of our family changes because we have two girls or two boys? How would I feel about being PG again or being PG with just one? A weird thing to say but unless you have multiples you probably won't get that point.

Could we bear to give away our children though? What happens if they hate us for giving them away or are really resentful? What happens if they have a bad life? How would I feel if they came to find us?

I know this doesn't help you at all, but I wanted you to know that you're not alone in having to make such a difficult decision.

if u cant financially afford another pregnancy (or for whatever other reasons), the best thing that u can give to someone is life- even if you are not taking care of the child. through adoption, at least you know that u are giving another couple the chance to have children of their own who are desperate for a child. but obviously it is your decision only, i hope u make the choice which is best for u x

I'm confused

I thought you conceived the triplets with clomid help?

I had to take clomid as part of the IVF procedure.

Hi Helen,

I know that there are other couples that are faced with this difficult decision. It's comforting to actually meet someone in this forum who is going through the same situation that I have, although, I wish no one had to go through this.

Unfortunately, the situation that we currently face is one of the setbacks of having to go through IVF. But I have no regrets, whatsoever. Like you, I feel very much blessed with my 3 boys.

More power to you and your family! I hope this is not the last time that we connect through this forum.

Truthfully, I don't think that I could offer a true, good answer, because it's not a situation that I've ever been in. The only situations that I've been in are TTC, early pregnancy and early miscarriage. I really want to say that it's a hard decision to make, I know what, if I was in that situation, that I would like to think what I would do, but being there is very different. Good luck whatever you decide.

Ahhhh

Does it play a big part of the LOs or mainly the IVF?

- Best of luck with yoru decision btw! Hard

x

Can I ask you about the Clomid and IVF thing? Hope that's ok.

Did you have to have a mega dose of it to get so many viable embryos or were you just dead lucky? I don't really know much about Clomid but doesn't a normal dose i.e. non-IVF give you maybe 2 eggs a month or something?

Hi Helen,

My memory is not as clear as it was before my pregnancy...(I was told it's a side effect of pregnancy? I think I'm just getting old-lol)

Anyway, I remember taking Clomid since I started the fertility treatment. I don't think I had a mega dose of it though. If my memory serves me right, my doctor extracted 11 eggs from me, 8 of them were fertilized successfully, 4 were inserted in my womb and I ended up with three wonderful boys...the rest is history!

BTW, I think I may have confused you about the options that I have reg my embryos. I do have the options of discarding them or donating them to science here in the US. I just don't consider any of those options as options for me at all. Just like you, I would not be able to bear the thought of it.