me and my OH are ttc atm and i have been thinking all along that it would be best for our children (not got any yet.....but we intend to have a few lol) if they wer breast or bottle fed??
i was breast so i would say it would be better....BUT my OH doesnt want to bf! i know its a bit early to be even thinking about this but i was just wondering wot everyones intentions are?? "forward-slash" wot ever anyone has done in the past with thier previous bundles of joy??
just have to add i cant wait!!!! and it i a possible (wich is good on hogmany) but we arent going to test atm because we dont want the bad news (or the "delay of good news") but i'm keeping my fingers crossed....
Think it is a very individual thing. I breastfed all my 3 and loved it. OH can be involved in winding, cuddles, bathing, and changing! Good luck on ttc in 2008
I don't really see a problem with either BFing or not. One of my SILs was able to and the other not. Both sets of kids have turned out fine.
I personally want to BF for at least a few months, but if I can't, then I can't. (That's what happened to the one SIL). i also don't want to have the kids munching on me once they have teeth! But we'll see. It's a very personal decision, but I think either is fine. Though I don't agree with letting the baby wean themselves...that leads to kids walking up to Mommy and opening the shirt to BF...I have a friend that's doing that and I find it disturbing to see a toddler walking up to Mommy and asking for milk...but that's only MO.
I want to breast feed if i can i just believe that is natrual so wont bother me being in public but i know it can bother other people. i agree with Dakini about the weening i watched a program where this mum had an 8 yr old and was still breast feeding i felt very uncoftable watching it. but i think its a very personal decision x
In terms of health benefits etc, finances then breastfeeding has been shown to be the best but it is a personal decision. Some women are unable to physically or emotionally whilst others just don't like the thought. All I ever advise is that if you are undecided at least try it, the colostrum is so good for them, and it is miles easier to switch from boob to bottle then the other way round.
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Though I don't agree with letting the baby wean themselves...that leads to kids walking up to Mommy and opening the shirt to BF...I have a friend that's doing that and I find it disturbing to see a toddler walking up to Mommy and asking for milk...but that's only MO.
hmm maybe someoine should have had a word with my toddler as she didn't fit into that behaviour pattern. In fact I know a lot of extended nursing mums and never seen their children go over and undo the shirt or top. I have heard them ask if they can have milk (big deal there) and if they are told no not yet they just accept it. So extended nursing does not always lead onto the behaviour you describe.
The world ave for weaning is 4 years (the 8 year old was an extreme hence why channel 4 got all excited to show what "weirdos" are out there) but there are many proven benefits for a child that chooses to nurse past their first and even second birthday, both emotionally and physically. If it makes you uncomfortable then don't do it but please don't look down at those mothers who choose to do so. Breastfeeding my toddler was a very rewarding experience for me. And as for its wrong when they can ask for it, what do you think they are asking for when they are crying as babies? My daughter used to ask for booby, queitly and I would feed her if I was able to. Sadly my pregnancy meant my milk dried up and she self weaned, and I am very proud of her for doing so. She decided when she was ready and it suited us both. I hate the fact that it is more acceptable for me to feed my toddler milk from another animal then milk that is made just for her but I hope that people just accept that mums choose to do what they feel is best for their baby.
hmm maybe someoine should have had a word with my toddler as she didn't fit into that behaviour pattern. In fact I know a lot of extended nursing mums and never seen their children go over and undo the shirt or top. I have heard them ask if they can have milk (big deal there) and if they are told no not yet they just accept it. So extended nursing does not always lead onto the behaviour you describe.
The world ave for weaning is 4 years (the 8 year old was an extreme hence why channel 4 got all excited to show what "weirdos" are out there) but there are many proven benefits for a child that chooses to nurse past their first and even second birthday, both emotionally and physically. If it makes you uncomfortable then don't do it but please don't look down at those mothers who choose to do so. Breastfeeding my toddler was a very rewarding experience for me. And as for its wrong when they can ask for it, what do you think they are asking for when they are crying as babies? My daughter used to ask for booby, queitly and I would feed her if I was able to. Sadly my pregnancy meant my milk dried up and she self weaned, and I am very proud of her for doing so. She decided when she was ready and it suited us both. I hate the fact that it is more acceptable for me to feed my toddler milk from another animal then milk that is made just for her but I hope that people just accept that mums choose to do what they feel is best for their baby.
I am not saying extended bf will always lead to "interesting" behaviour, but I have seen toddlers walk up to their mothers and just start opening their shirts! it may be the extreme, but I have seen it a few times, as well as toddlers loudly asking for booby or milk and seen the mother get embarrassed.
If someone wants to bf for a long time, that's their decision, and if you can, that's great. I have just seen some behaviour that disturbs me. It's not going to be my personal decision to bf until baby is 1 as I also have to go back to work, but if you want to, that's your decision.
It's a very personal decision, and no one should influence you one way or another. I agree, you should at least try for the first month or so as the...whatever it is, can't spell it...is very beneficial. But if you can't, or don't want to, that's okay too. Everyone is different and I've just seen too many people let it get out of hand (in terms of toddler asking at inappropriate times and not taking no for an answer) from more than one mother and child. I wasn't suggesting it's wrong, just I personally don't agree with the behaviour I have seen.
Didn't offend me, and I'm not offended by anyone's opinion, just hope I didn't offend anyone with mine. (I have been known to do that in the past....oops.)
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it may be the extreme, but I have seen it a few times, as well as toddlers loudly asking for booby or milk and seen the mother get embarrassed. 
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