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February/March

On 26 days after my last period in January I started spotting. On the 29th day I had my period due in February. Nothing unusual or painful. I bled for ¾ days. 3 days after my period I again started spotting. My mate advised me to do a pregnancy test just to rule it out. To my shock it was positive. I mean Id just had what I believed was a normal period.

I went to my doctors who sent the test of to the hospital by the time it came back I’d done 4 positives. The hospitals came back negative! I was then referred to the hospital that day (Friday) where they had a negative again. These people can be so rude; I walked away from there thinking I was bonkers. I had 3 internals done for swipes because the woman was prodding me like mad because she couldn’t find me cervix! I had blood taken also I went home that confused I went to buy clear blue digital to rule out it wasn’t the others that were just showing positive & so that night was my fifth P.

On Saturday I returned for an ultrasound & ended up having an internal ultrasound, the woman asked could I be earlier than I thought. Our thoughts were 6 weeks. Anyway nothing so went back up to the consultant. I insisted she did my test (I took my 2nd clear blue in) along with their own! She came back & told me their tests now showed ‘mild’ positive results & of course mine was positive.

The questions I left here with was if I’d m/c I’d of thought they would see that from the internals!

I was again brought back Sunday for a second blood test. The lady who took my blood was nasty (in polite terms) she blatantly said to me & my partner while we tried to find out more information on how the tests work ‘’don’t get your hopes up your more than likely having a m/c & we need to confirm it’’ OMG the day before I was told I was set to have the ultrasound to rule out eptopic! She was very insensitive it was unreal!

I was to get my test results by 3pm Monday – I got them at 6.30pm, these people are hopeless over 3 hours more felt like 3 days.

This is my first postive pregnancy (failed or not) so most of what she said baffled me but here goes.

My levels were 73 & dropped to 52 within the 2 days of blood tests. She has described this as ‘early failing pregnancy’ not only was it 6.30 but I was on the train taking me little sister home so was more frustrated that they didn’t have my results on time & I was sat on a train so couldn’t ask very much. They have now asked me to return on Monday if I test negative they let me go if I test positive they will take more bloods & go from there.

Like I say I didn’t get to ask questions because of where I was – I have now taken it as the worst & assume that it is not possible for my hormone levels to go down if I was having a normal pregnancy? I believe I would of only been around 3/4 weeks.

What I find more frustrating is my boobs. They were tender last week now every morning I get up they are worse. Is this normal? I imagined they would calm down not feel like 2 bricks. Not only the sore side but my nipples were fine in general now they feel like pins when touched.

I’m also wandering if my home tests would still show positive after an early early m/c – I’ve done one this morning because my bf thinks I’m putting it on. (The sore boobs) – Men!!

(This post is a copy from February/March)

13th March : 10.44AM

I'm still testing positive at home. I didn't really wish to go to the hospital today so done a home test hoping if it now shows negative I don't have to go to these people again but its still positive I’ve rang to speak to the woman who rang me last Monday & waiting on a call back. I want to know exactly what they want to do from a positive & why.

BF – Unbothered! Wanted to see the test I did this morning but couldn’t be bothered getting out of bed & then told me he didn’t particularly want to!! Makes me wander if I’d even consider going through this again when my local hospital & my boyfriend have been a total let down!

My GP is useless when he rang the early pregnancy unit last Friday he told them I wasn’t bleeding it was only on her calling me to arrange for Tuesday that she found out & told me my GP hadn’t done that & expressed it wasn’t urgent! I was fuming & considering changing my doctors.

(This post is a copy from the date above, my emotions were high & the situation was confusing for me & OH so excuse my hormonal state back then lol)

13th March : 19.57PM

Well at last I was in a part of the hospital I should have been in & the nurse dealing with me is lovely. The first time I’ve been able to really say that about any of the staffing there.

Well 2 negative – 2 milds – falling hormone levels. Said it all right! I did another home test this Am before deciding if to go & of course still positive so off I went.

Erm my water test is how she came back to me & said ‘in your face positive’ think she was as stumped as me although before the test was even done she said I should of been down to 0 & a should not of been testing positive anyway after last weeks results! I’m still in a bit of shock.

I’ve had my bloods taken again & I get the results tomorrow. Wow there’s obviously no doubt somehow my hormone levels have gone up it’s just what to & why now!

My BF questioned if they could have had the results wrong (last week) & to our surprise although she didn’t say if this applied to us or even say it didn’t she told us for a full 24 hrs last week the lab that does these tests stopped testing all bloods for that 24 hours – Apparently the results were not correct. An example was one girl having a healthy pregnancy but because of her blood count results they nearly checked her over for eptopic. Poor girl though – She’d of been told her count wasn’t going as it should but they were. How bad is that. Made me more aware of that hospital!

14th March : 17.16PM

I’m going bonkers !!!

My levels were at 73 last Friday – 52 last Sunday. I then have all the above …. I’ve had my counts back that now sit at 153.

The nurse is now more confused than yesterday. She was looking out for ectopic although she was still baffled by the water results in the first place now she’s more baffled. Within a week from my last count of 52 (even though that’s like HOW) I have tripled. She’s told me within 7 days I would double if I was ectopic an now how I went down then up is still beyond her but she’s never seen a triple in an ectopic herself – always double or slightly below.

I now officially want to just crawl into bed & cry!

Can anyone share any experience on this I’m going CRAZY

15th March : 07.46AM

I have searched google for hours finding nothing on my situation! Then again how can I get answers when the people who should know don't.

No scan - I asked her yesterday she says I need a blood count of 1200 - So that now makes me wander why ther other beepers in the other part of the hospital where I was origanally being seen last weekend gave me 3 internals (well 3 in one go because she couldn't find my cervix ) & 1 internal ultrasound.

Today should bring some answers. I'm at the hospital & through the doors with the nurse at 8.30am She will get my count back this afternoon.

15th March : 20.28PM

Count today was 163.

Ectopic .... She told me to rest up in my own home & be there first thing tomorrow. If I'd of gone in tonight they would only of kept me in to watch me & still not scan me until tomorrow. Internal & some thing beginning with L!

Very confused, scared & angry that it's now obvious my blood drops were a amoung their bodge jobs! Yet the doctors told the nurse to not test me until next week after Mondays count & she refused to leave me that long. Good job she did I'm assuming.

I'm very worried/scared. I've no idea what happens. How this effects my conceiving in the future. How long I'm in hospital for. Nothing

15th March : 22.21PM

In reply to one of the girls

Your right about the internals - They killed me emotionally last week & now it seems worse with the results & the way this has been dealt with in whole.

I've got to a point of pure ANGER now & there’s no way if I can I'm prepared to let this be dropped. I have read the sooner the ectopic is caught the better chance I have of keeping my tube So what does over a week mean & the fact a doctor advised my nurse to leave it another week.

My hospital isn't even close to me & has costed us a complete fortune this last 2 weeks so it rules out having the option for another hospital; I have to admit I am in no way comfortable going tomorrow.

Just in the middle of washing/ironing an packing myself a small night bag

17th March : 20.14PM

Scary, painful stuff!!

I am home surprisingly. Well very surprised they let me come home but I think they figured I’d be better resting at home than trashing up & down the corridors for some air an the odd sneaky smoke. Lol

Last night must have been one of the scariest times I have ever remembered being in. I was in tears most of the evening fed up of the poking & prodding at me. I am not the easiest person to get blood out of - It was a complete nightmare never mind the emotional effect it was having on me.

I went into theatre at 10.30pm for a laparoscopy. They had permission to remove the ectopic & the tube the ectopic was on if it was damaged/appeared damaged but in no way had permission to remove both if they felt there was a problem with both until I was aware there was problem. They also had permission to do an e-vac/flush which they now do instead of D&C.

I came out of theatre around 2am – My poor boyfriend waited until I came out worried daft. I vaguely remember him being there after I came from the recovery room. Apparantly whist they took me back into my room my OH was telling the nurse it is the quietest he'd seen me to which I replied "I can see still hear you, you know"

The outcome is they removed what could possibly of been my ectopic or a growing cyst. Madness! Defo a cyst! They have also done the evac. My worst fear was my tubes & thankfully at this time they appear normal/undamaged & I did not need open surgery. They carried on with the evac procedure. What I have now been informed is the removal will now be tested which can take upto 8 weeks. If what they removed is not the ectopic then they fear that my ectopic was too small & still within the tube or my pregnancy was somewhere is my body & the evac may not of resolved the problem as they don’t know where it is.

I had a blood count this AM & I’ve return next Friday for another if my bloods are static still or rising in anyway I’ll be readmitted to go back into theatre!

I’m very glad they have let me come home to rest in my own bed & my boyfriend has been a complete STAR. hes set the TV up for me. A side table with any bits I may need & the laptop on the side for when I want to pop online

18th March : 09.33AM

In reply to one of the girls

Up until the day we knew I'd be admitted for theatre my boyfriend was like yours. Some men really have no clue thats its the physical side of things as well as the emotional. Its took me a while to make him see this. But I know all you crave is a flinch of emotion from him.

20th March : 22.17PM

I am now at the point of head ****ed!

All I know is I walked away from the hospital on Friday after being in theatre understanding that what was removed could well be a cyst only it takes 8 weeks to test so a weeks blood count was needed. The reason for this is because my blood results were static last week & it is highly possible at this time the ectopic is too small to be seen.

Ok now going back a bit I was told if this was not ectopic although they were pretty certain & if in the case they were unable to see detect the ectopic I will be brought back for more tests (as explained above) but also they wanted to give me what they now call an evac/flush out (jesus it sounds like a vax hoover but its now in place of the D&Cs) because if no ectopic was found at that time it was possible it could not be seen or I had a failing pregnancy that had not left the womb.

When I got out as above I’ve to have levels done but they found NO signs of pregnancy at all but they still carried on with the evac/flush out. I assumed this was only done if tissues were found. ‘The visible pregnancy had not left the womb’. So no sign yet they still continued?!

Now I know that I was not as far as my doctor sent me there for & I’m fully aware pregnancy is not always visible anyway until 4/6 weeks depending on the woman.

Ok I’m really sorry for my going on I really need to bash my keyboard if anything.

Here are my 48 hr levels from last week before being admitted & taken to theatre.

Monday – 158
Wednesday – 163
This is now assumed ectopic. Slow rising, which is classed as static.

Thursday admitted – Taken to theatre, suspected ectopic removed, evac/Flush procedure done.

I had my blood taken for levels on the Friday afternoon to compare to the ones I should have taken at the end of this week.

Fridays levels were 249!

OMFG!!! Now I know they exspect:

A rise of around double in 48 hrs for normal pregnancy
A static low rising count for suspected ectopic
A falling count for a failing pregnancy!

Now although they say 48 hrs I know that it depends on the woman an may double or be close between 48-72 hours. Ectopic stands at static although may be double on a 7 day count. A normal pregnancy also has the rise of around 66% within 48 hrs not also resulting in double results.

So I have used a HCG monitor thing on line. My result on my last 2 levels within 2 days means my counts are doubling within 73 hrs.

I am SOOOO angry! I have been fobbed off until tomorrow as they wish to speak to my surgeon. I can only see the worst in this an all I have to say is with that much of a rising I know its not a failing & from anything I have been told an read that is NO ectopic result.

I have read that some women although the % is very low can have very slow rising low counts.

I can only at this point see what it appears to be an although the thought of be readmitted scared the **** out of me somebody better pray that I have had an unusual high rise an the ectopic was too small to be seen because I swear down if what I am thinking rings true somebody’s head is going role BIG time for this. Sorry for being so blunt but I feel sick with even the thought.

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