Ohh honey I totally understand the rant, I'd feel the same way if my OH acted like that!

I don't know what to say really, I mean I'd suggest talking to him and asking if there was something bothering him and why he couldn't "perform" if it's obviously so important to you, but I can see you've already tried that! So I have no ideas

I'm angry on your behalf after reading this. I'd smack him if I were in Switzerland

awww Wendy, I am so sorry you feel so dejected and completely understand. A couple of months ago when I was O'ing, my OH seemed to be completely off sex... and when the arrived he was up for it... it used to drive me insane until one day I had it out with him and said "look, I'll do whatever it takes to help you, as I know it is difficult for you too... but I am not going through all this charting and temping etc. for you to turn your back when it is the right time to bd." he told me that he wants it more than anything, but he just couldn't help it, for some reason, when it was the right time, he felt tired and struggled to "get it up"... so I now try the direct method... 2 days before I think I am going to O... I tell him, right our "sexathon" starts tonight and we will do it every other night if it kills us... and I wont take no for an answer." Once I even practically forced him when he wasn't ready atall.. but once we started he got in the mood.

I don't think they mean to be difficult, I think they have a similar triggar to us that every now and then just switches them off.

Luckily, you haven't had any signs of o'ing yet, so you should catch it! I have seen so many people get pregnant through bd'ing once in the month... that once just happened to be at the right time.

Lots of and

So sorry hunny!!! Seems so difficult, ugh! maybe you should hide your cycle info from him? Not tell him when AF comes etc...so he can't do the math lol. if he wants it to "just happen" perhaps that's what's needed! Also not sure if you guys get intimate throughout the month, or only around Ovulation, but a man likes to feel wanted too and not just like 'he gets some when the woman feels like it'. Maybe switch things up a bit, add a bit of spice? maybe if you don't mention babies and TTC to him at all to him that could help? maybe he'll even bring it up himself!

Aww i just want to wish you the best of luck maybe he's just having a male PMS

Ah man, really feel for you honey. Some gals on here have amazingly supportive and excited OHs who love the idea of having a baby and fully participate in trying for one. Then there's others who don't seem that bothered. Like you, mine is in the latter category. I know my OH was sweet one night last month but overall, he doesn't seem AT ALL bothered about it; never ever talks about it; looks a bit put out when I pounce on him more than twice a week ... so I TOTALLY u'stand your frustrations. And it's funny ya know, cos I've said if I don't fall PG by the summer, I might give up for a bit and go travelling. Anyway, what I would say is give yaself time to calm down. I also feel you need to desperately talk to your OH and ask him if he's really as committed to this as he needs to be. If he says yes, then he needs to show it. He NEEDS to!!! I think u need to really hit it home with him so e understands and if he's still rubbish, then go for the travelling option, let him know you're looking into it and that should send a message. xxxx

AWWWWWWWWWWW hun you poor poor thing.

Even tho my other half wants a baby, I never ever, ever mention the word baby when we are "in the mood" shall we say! If I did he would get in a strop, I have to make sure I make it all about me and him!

I really hope that tonight is a better night for you my love xxxxxxxxxxxx

I am so sorry, honey!!!!! I really hope that things work out for you!

Aw girls, thanks so much for your posts! I can't tell you how much of a relief it is to be able to vent so openly to such sympathetic ears... or uh, eyes... you know what i mean
Wish I could post today that we had a big solve-everything talk and then great "make-up" sex afterward... but i can't. He got home late (played squash w/ a buddy) and had had a horrible day at the office apparently - he was knackered, totally. We ate Greek salad, he put on Ratatouille (cute movie!) and promptly (literally, took him like 3 mins) fell asleep... *sigh* I am pretty much numb at the moment, I didn't even bother to get stroppy... just shut the movie off, put on some soccer for background noise and read my book 'til the wash was done. Then woke him up and dragged him to bed, where he goes "cuddling and being together just isn't enough for you anymore, is it"...??!!??! What, did he turn into a woman overnight?!?!?! again WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I let it go.
Then he drove me to work this morning and 'assaulted' me in the car with 'what's your PROBLEM lately - I have it bad enough at work I don't need it at home too, blah di blah blah'...!?!??! I didn't bother to answer just gave him a looks-could-kill look. When we stopped in front of my office he said 'bye, have a nice day, love you' and I said "yeah, right" and then I exploded. Didn't yell, was quite calm actually, but I said if this is how he deals w/ problems at the office - by not talking about it and/or avoiding issues completely - then NO WONDER things aren't going well, and if he doesn't want a "poof" at home too then he should DO sth about it and are we EVER gonna talk about this bc right now we aren't a married couple, we are some kinda weird in between thing, two single people w/ a ring on their finger heading in seperate directions, etc etc etc...
Ok, so it wasnt' the right time, I know, and he didn't take it all that well... just kept saying "byyye"... But I felt better for bringing it up. We WILL talk about this, we HAVE TO and he knows it too.
Oh, and I haven't O'd yet! Temp 36.24 this morning... CM feels a bit wet though, so maybe today. Haven't given up totally, not 'til O is past... Have a soccer game tonight and he handball practice, but one never knows...
girls, and thank you again, so much!
x

I hope you guys can have a good talk about this soon.

I really hope that you can talk about it soon too. He needs to realise that if he wants a he has to work a little harder in certain departments for it to happen.

Good luck hunni and I realllly hope you catch your O!

I'll send you a bag of Doritos to share whilst you discuss things

Hi swiss good for u for standing ur ground. I too somex's have trouble with my oh...

His a gym fanatic n always busy so I have to amke an appointment with him so he doesnt make any other plans then the other day he said that men dont like regimental sex....Yet he wants a baby more than me.....

Then yesterday I rang him in the afternoon said dont make any plans ill be needing u later he was very happy about it even made a funny comment saying he wishes I would use him everyday....

He said he was watching footie so i said ok ill be up till 10.30pm (i pass out rather early these days)...

He rang at 9pm said he was on his way bak so i put the bath on for him got myself ready n used the pre-seed (sorry if its to much info)..Was ready for when he came in...told him the bath was ready...

He came in started asking about eastenders......not a turn on said dont worry about that come lay down.

Then he went in the living room n put footie on n started calling all his freinds....It got to 9.20am i said babe r u joining me...he said yeah ill be 5mins...15mins later i said babe whats happening im not ment to have this pre-seed too long before bd.....He said yeah 5mins......

then at 10pm.i wasnt happy i said r u coming or not cause if not i need to have a bath n wash this put....He said i told u id be in late from watching footie...Said yeah but u got in earlier n im waiting...he started getting an attitude so i said well its my main day today n if we dont get cracking it may not happen n we'll have to wait till nxt mth......

felt like saying his not the one worrying,buying the products,charting etc...

He said well im not doing it now n got rude.....I had a bath went to bed....
he came to bed at 12pm n we tried to bd but i was to annoyed so he went to sleep (typical) i couldnt so went n watched some porn (again sorry if tmi)
and tried again n luckly we did it......

my oh doesnt really say much about it just to relax which is hard with everything u have to do...But u have to communicate all the time.

Lets hope 2night aint so much trouble.....

Good luck to u
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