Hello -

I am new here, clearly. I am 30 years old, in perfect health with no history of any gynocological issues. I have been on BCP since I was 16, but off for over 6 month now. We have been TTC for 4 months now. I was very happy to find a forum because I feel like I am going nuts. I am pretty sure we have been unssuccessful because I am so stressed out about getting pg. The TWW kills me every month. I have never paid so much attention to each abdominal or bb ache waiting for a sign that I am pregnant. My period has always been very predictable thanks to BCPs. Since I have gone off my cycle has bee anywhere from 21 to 35 days. My last AF started on 11/14 OV was around 12/1ish and we have been bding like clockwork. This has become very routine and is causing an uncomfortable gap with me and DH. As for right now, I do not feel PG, but I my nipples have been a little tender - one more so than the other. weird? Just looking for some empathy and some other people's signed to make the TWW any easier.

First and foremost, welcome hon. This forum is the best forum I have found on the net, it's very welcoming and helpful. There's a range of gals on here from 18 year olds to 30 year olds (like you and me, check out my journal for more info :-) to older. Scarily enough, the teens seem to be the most clued up! Anyway, what I wanna say to you is medically, stress does not stop you getting PG. I mean, tribal women in Africa who have to walk miles to get water still fall PG so don't let that worry you! We all get obsessed and worried. But I try to make it as pleasant as possible; an exciting waiting game and try not to toture myself. This forum helps with that! Second, 4 months isn't so bad so have hope honey. Try to enjoy it for now and onyl start worrying in a few months. Good luck, am here if you need to chat. x

Thank you both! It is so good to talk with someone about this. It is nice to know that I am not alone in going crazy! Great suggestions too! I am really hoping to have a good xmas present for the grandparents to be, but somehow I am just not feeling it...

If not a Christmas present, maybe a nice way to start out the new year...that's how I am looking at it.

Glad we could be of some help. I know it's hard. Heck, i said I'd just go with the flow for the first 6 months or so and I broke down in my first cycle! I bought the thermometer because it was driving me crazy not knowing when the was going to show up after so long on BCP...but I like the fact that I can monitor that I appear to O'ing...temp spikes seem to confirm that...and when AF is on her way. And I realized that even if I wasn't temping I'd be tracking when I should O based on the calendar and all that, so this just gives me more information and I feel I am more in control, even though I'm not!

Anyway, a little off what I was trying to say...I know it can be hard. But if it's not fun, what's the point? Again, IMHO only. And trust me, seeing my SILs with their kids makes me realize that the stress of ttc will seem nice when you're trying to contend with kids and work and all of that... And I totally understand wanting to have a nice surprise present for the grandparents...heck, if I am pg now my due date would be a little over a week from my DH's birthday and as a lot of first babies are late...it'd be nice to be able to say "Sorry, it's a little late/early, but here's your birthday gift'...but if it doesn't happen I can have the same dream for early November which is our anniversary of when we starting going out and when we got married....just pipe dreams at this point, but nice ones.

Wow, I get off topic easy, don't I? Maybe I just like to talk about myself... Sorry. It can be hard, just hang in there. Hang out here and vent all your frustrations. I have seen both my SILs go through so much to get their kids, so I just keep telling myself 3 months isn't all that long and it will happen when it's supposed to happen.

Again, glad to help! Hope to hear about your BFP soon!

I know - is it crazy to think about all of these dates? I work in the ski industry and I am REALLY busy in Oct & Nov, so we were trying to start early and avoid the rush for my careers sake... but as with kids, I am starting to realize they never pay much attention to your schedule anyway

I am hoping for a Libra or Scorpio - because I dont typically do very well with Leos... that could be trouble.

I don't want it to sound like it is ruling my life - as things are rolling along just fine... Just creating extra anxiety. Tired of paying such close attention to every little ache or pain - I am much better at ignoring them

It does sound like we lead parallel lives though - my DH and I met in college and have been together for over 10 years - married for over 5, but both of our birthdays and anniversary all fall between 10/15 and 11/2 So whats adding one more to the family, right?

Thanks for listening!

hey, not a problem! That's what we're all here for!

And it will happen when the time is right.

Hi, I'm Poppy!

Me and DH have been ttc since September. I got pregnant in November, but sadly miscarried at 5 weeks. I am taking a break until my cycle regulates itself and then will be back to the craziness of ttc and will no doubt over analyse things.

Strangely, last month I didn't think I was pregnant until the Friday (three days before AF was due) when I suddenly got heaps of symptoms (sore boobs and nipples, felt nauseous) and thought, 'what if?' When I tested, I was both surprised and not surprised, if you know what I mean. So, I suppose I will know what 'signs' to look out for when I start to ttc again.

I have also just turned 30 in the last couple of months and really, really want to be pregnant soon!!! The 2ww is really frustrating and lasts soooo long.

How are you holding up? Where are you in your cycle at the moment?

Good luck, I hope you get your BFP soon!

Well, my cycle has been kind of crazy - I have been like clockwork for so long, but in the last 3 months I have has a 21 day, 28 day and then last month a 35 day which really messed with my head. It is interesting to hear your symptoms did not show up for a while - I guess it gives me hope. I have never been one to get many symptoms from menstruation etc... I think my next AF should be here around the 15th or so. I hate having to go back to the store to buy more PG tests. Last month I even went to the clinic to do their test because I was so late! But nothing...

I am so sad to hear that you miscarried - that had to be very hard.Did your Doc tell you to wait after the miscarriage? Had you ever had any GYN issues before? Good luck to you, my friend!!!

WELCOME TO THE MADNESS!!!

It took me and my husband 8 months to get pregnant with this kiddo! I had been on BCP for a year or so, the Depo shot before that. In all honesty, the way you're feeling right now is how MOST of us feel during TTC. It suddenly rules your every day! It's maddening! I had a tough time with it, feeling like it wasn't going to happen. Our sexlife became obsessively routine and it was greatly affecting us as well.

Finally, hubby put his foot down. Told me no more charting or doing OPKs! I had to laugh at him- he said just because I was getting positive OPKs didn't mean I was ovulating then, and it just made sense to have sex all month! LOL! Well, first month doing it his way, and we got our BFP! I finally stopped freaking out about my cycle and tracking it and everything, and we had sex for FUN again, lol!

I think every TTCer's greatest downfall is that it's sooo hard to NOT let it rule your life!!! And it's so heartbreaking when you only see one line on that test, or AF comes screaming in! Try not to make it such a chore as hubby will greatly start dreading TTC because of it, and relax! A total joke right? LOL Have a drink and do IT just because you can- you never know when that eggy will come sneaking in! GOOD LUCK!!! I wish you the best, and can't wait to see your BFP soon too!