Welcome Shumie!!!! Looks like you and I are both TTC #4!!!!

Hi there,

I am 30+ , well actually to make you all feel either better or aghast, I am 45!

Please can I come and play here, as you all seem to be well in the swing of things. A little about myself I think would be a good idea: I will be 46 next May and have spent my life so far, traveling and building up a career and meeting 3 x time wasting boyfriends. I have just got married last September to my best friend and soul mate (cliche I know, but it's true) and am the happiest I have EVER been in a relationship. Husband has 2 boys from a previous marriage who live with their Mum and come to visit every now and then and, after much soul searching and research, we have decided to try to 'make one of our own'.

We are both very fit people and really into our sport and my doctor and practice nurse can't see any reason why I shouldn't go all out to try. So, the plan so far has been to come off my POP last Oct 31 and I got my 1st AF without the pill on 26 November. It has been recommended to me to let my system get back to normal and take a folic acid supplement for 3 months and then off we go.

If I am honest, I want to go for it THIS MONTH and have already checked my fertile time etc., you know the way you do!! Oh and the date the baby would be born, oh and the Chinese website that can predict whether it will be a boy or a girl. Enough, enough. I'm stopping all that right now.

The temptation to just go for it is unbelievable, but joining this website has taught me a valuable lesson in that it is NOT that easy to conceive and it's important not to count chickens before they're hatched.

My heart goes out to all of you who have been trying for so long and sincerely wish you good luck with your ttc. Let's hope we can share some wonderful stories in the not so far off future.

Hi Tishimouse,

welcome to the site, sounds like your raring to go and I hope that you have a good result. I'm 35 and ttc for the first time fir about 1 year now. You are right, it dosent happen straight away, well not for everyone anyways! Take care and good luck to you!

Hello again,

Wow, look at the title change! I'm touched and very grateful that you want to make me feel at home.

I'm looking forward to chatting on here.

Welcome! I'm sure you'll enjoy it here, everyone's great.

Hi

I'm 34 (rapidly approaching 35!) and am married to Mark. We have a beautiful 3 year daughter (unplanned pregnancy). We have been TTC #2 since March this year with no joy. We did conceive in July but miscarried in September. No joy since then with the last two cycles.

I am beginning to get very depressed with TTC. Age is not on my side and unless we have any luck early next year I think we will resign ourselves to the fact that it was just not meant to be.

There is no point speaking to our GP because they will obviously advise nothing is wrong because of previous (successful & unsuccessful) pregnancies and to "keep trying". I don't think we have got the strength or energy to keep trying and deal with the disappointment each month for much longer.

Would love to hear how others in similar situations cope.

Look forward to chatting with you all soon x

Hello Lou,

Firstly, welcome to you (I'm new too and just getting to know a few people on the forums).

I'm not in the same position as you, but in a way, wish I was. Now, that came as a surprise to you I bet. The reason I say that and I hope this make you feel better about your situation, is because you are, in my opinion, still very young.

I wish I was 35 and ttc. I'm 45 and ttc baby #1 and will be 46 next May 2008. It's only my first month trying, so I haven't experienced the anguish and heartache that you have, but I do empathise with you as it cannot be easy and heaven knows, there may be similar experience ahead for me. When I throw in the towel, it will have to be forever and will mean no children at all for me.

I'm telling you this in the hope that you will somehow get the strength to carry on trying with a refreshed outlook. I've only started studying how conception actually takes place (you know what I mean all the info on ovulation, CD's, OPK's etc) and boy is it complicated. No matter how much I read, it seems to all boil down to one thing ... TIMING! If your timing is off, that's that months chance down the swanny. And even if your timing is right, there is only a 20-25% chance of the sperm meeting the egg. It's enough to mash any sane persons brain.

My heart goes out to you in relation to your MC. What a terrible experience and so difficult to put into perspective. The only positive thing I can think of here is that you know it's possible for you both to conceive. So, please take heart honey and keep trying in a relaxed and loving way. Share your experiences here and read other people's stories as there is always someone like yourself, whatever the experience is.

Here is my sincerest wish of wonderful baby dust for you and your loved one. Best of luck

By the way, I've been sharing this website I found with everyone http://www.sisterzeus.com/basics.htm - Let me know what you think.

OH WOW! AFTER WRITING ALL THE ABOVE, I HAVE JUST READ IN ANOTHER THREAD THAT YOU ARE PREGNANT!!! I'M DELIGHTED FOR YOU, CONGRATULATIONS LOU.

Hello to you all.

I am 39 years old and currently 10 weeks pregnant. I will be 40 when this baby is born if all goes to plan.

I have had 9 miscarriages in the past and lost our darling daughter who was stillborn at 25 weeks on 6th January 2006.

I have a 19 year old son.

Hi ElliesMum, so sorry about everything and really hoping all goes well for you this time.

Hi to all

I am new but posted a couple of times, didn't see this wonderful group.

I am 37 1/2 (the half makes a difference!!), not really been ttc, only for the last few cycles. I had a ms in March, a blighted ovum which was hard, when I found out I was pregnant, it was only 2 weeks to enjoy it before it all went belly up. Disappointing and upsetting doesn't even come close. Anyway, had a werid cycle this last month, I actually came on on the 28th day which has only happened years ago when I was on the pill, the reason going on the pill was to regulate my periods as I could go anything from 6 - 8 weeks! Very annoying.

Anyway this last period was weird, very short but still normal, I'm never really heavy except for one day, and this time just one day but only 3 days in total, but this time I had no symptoms before hand, no cramps, no pains, no sore bbs, very strange and it only really lasted 3 days. NOW I have sore bbs, nips are fine, slight headaches, (slight dizziness last week but not this week) and all yesterday very bad pains around my left kidney area. Oh it was bad. Fine today though. Don't really expect bfp, although always hoping. It was around this time last year I got pregnant although I didn't find out till I was 7 weeks.

So that's me, not much to tell really, hoping and praying that I can become a mum, I hope and pray we all can.

xx

Hello

I'm new to this bit and could use any support thats here!

I am 39 and have been ttc since April 07. But there is a little more to it than that.

I have 2 daughters 21 & 19, my husband has son and a daughter 16 & 17. In June last year we had a mmc and 2 weeks later we concieved Jacob. Jacob was born sleeping at 37 weeks on March 21 this year, terribly tangled in a very long umbilical cord.

We have been trying to dull the ache ever since. Although in the past things have always happened quickly now they arent and the panic has set in. I have seen a vile consultant who made me lose all hope but we sought a 2nd opinion and the new consultant is wonderful, she understands my panic and has precribed clomid. AF has arrived although early which is very odd, and still very light but today is cd1, so I start the drugs tomorrow.

I'd like to stay if you'll have me

Kate
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