Scared to try again..,..

Kylie75 · Jan 21st, 2012, 04:31 AM

I lost my twin girls at 25 weeks in august 2011, they were conceived through ivf.

We have 1 egg left from that cycle as there was 3 and 2 were put on giving me the twins.

I want to have our egg put in as it's part of my girls but I'm terrified.. I'm scared of it not thawing right and not being put in, I'm scared of it no implanting and if it does scared of miscarriage or even worse premature birth again.

Im scared of people will think... I feel a failure.... I couldn't carry my girls full term as a result they died... Is it too soon, should I wait? When did you start trying? Thank you...

auntylolo · Jan 21st, 2012, 07:31 AM

Hun, I'm so sorry for you

The last thing you need to be worrying about is what other people are thinking, you have alot of emotional and physical healing to do, so focus on that. As for when to try again, it's up to you but it sounds to me like you're not ready yet. And please remember, it wasn't your fault. I hope you can make the right decision for you

SleepyBaby · Jan 21st, 2012, 07:31 AM

Im sorry for your loss, and can understand fully why your scared

do not.. never.. let other peoples thoughts about you unnerve or upset you. Either other people understand or they dont, if they dont they have never been where you are, they have not walked in your shoes and there opinions mean nothing.

When your doctor gives you the go ahead to try again it should be safe, do it when you are ready, when you have the strength to do it again you will, its taken me three years to realise that because a really bad thing happened before i shouldn't let it effect how my future will look, i lost my last little baby and that little one will be with me forever, but i am going to try again, i am going to get pregnant and it is going to work.

history is history, tomorrow is a mystery!

Jan 21st, 2012, 04:31 AM	#1
Kylie75 Mum (Mom) New BnB member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Herts, uk Posts: 4	Scared to try again..,.. I lost my twin girls at 25 weeks in august 2011, they were conceived through ivf. We have 1 egg left from that cycle as there was 3 and 2 were put on giving me the twins. I want to have our egg put in as it's part of my girls but I'm terrified.. I'm scared of it not thawing right and not being put in, I'm scared of it no implanting and if it does scared of miscarriage or even worse premature birth again. Im scared of people will think... I feel a failure.... I couldn't carry my girls full term as a result they died... Is it too soon, should I wait? When did you start trying? Thank you...

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Jan 21st, 2012, 07:31 AM	#2
auntylolo Other Active BnB Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Durham, England Posts: 420	Hun, I'm so sorry for you The last thing you need to be worrying about is what other people are thinking, you have alot of emotional and physical healing to do, so focus on that. As for when to try again, it's up to you but it sounds to me like you're not ready yet. And please remember, it wasn't your fault. I hope you can make the right decision for you

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Jan 21st, 2012, 07:31 AM	#3
SleepyBaby Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Posts: 139	Im sorry for your loss, and can understand fully why your scared do not.. never.. let other peoples thoughts about you unnerve or upset you. Either other people understand or they dont, if they dont they have never been where you are, they have not walked in your shoes and there opinions mean nothing. When your doctor gives you the go ahead to try again it should be safe, do it when you are ready, when you have the strength to do it again you will, its taken me three years to realise that because a really bad thing happened before i shouldn't let it effect how my future will look, i lost my last little baby and that little one will be with me forever, but i am going to try again, i am going to get pregnant and it is going to work. history is history, tomorrow is a mystery!

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