Have u become bitter yet?

FEDup1981 · Nov 14th, 2008, 12:35 PM

Months ago, when i was first started on the forum, just a few months into TTC i never understood why the LTTTC'ers were bitter (in my words, i dont want to upset anyone) but since my bad news 2 weeks ago, ive becoming so p*ssed off with the whole process, those who have normal cycles, and those who get BFP's without even trying.

I know people dont realise what theyre doing, but it does hurt.

Have u become bitter and resentful too?

I just want to add that i dont mean anyone in particular, just life itself! So i hope i dont upset anyone xx

Yearning · Nov 14th, 2008, 12:48 PM

Oh yes...been there and got the T-Shirt...I have felt both bitter and resentful...and on the odd occasion I sometimes still do. However I do try to curb it, others have told me that it is a selfish attitude to adopt, but it's so hard not too, when you have been TTC for over 7 long, unbearable years!

I do understand Sweetie and I think that it is a perfectly natural and reasonable way to feel, some just let it become all consuming and that is very negative indeed...

Always..Yearning.x

moomoo · Nov 14th, 2008, 12:49 PM

i can understand a bit, i find myself feeling very bitter after my m/c..although i now havent been ttcing for long, i can completely understand the bitterness. It must be so much worse when ttc number 1 too

Yearning · Nov 14th, 2008, 12:58 PM

Here's a PRIME example and it has only just happened!

I was gazing at the Pampers advert, the one where it sing's 'Happy Birthday' to all the babies that are being born around the world..it's also to do with sponsership/immunisation.

My son (nearly 13) looks at me and says 'that advert makes you jealous doesn't it?'.

Is it that bloody obvious!

Am I that transparant?

Now I'm starting...

Always..Yearning.x

FEDup1981 · Nov 14th, 2008, 13:09 PM

Im glad im not the only one. Im sure it will pass. My emotions are usually all over the place, and i go through phases. This must be my bitter resentful phase!
I know it isnt healthy, but sometimes we need to have a rant.

Thank you all x

Vestirse · Nov 14th, 2008, 13:10 PM

I have to admit I think I was bitter before I started... I had a premonition that it would take awhile and well, no surprises for me. I try to be happy for everyone though. No one is getting pregnant to rub it in my face!

kaygeebee · Nov 14th, 2008, 13:27 PM

I am genuinely happy when it happens for others, but I do feel terribly jealous too. Same as Vestirse, I thought it would take a while.... and it looks like I'm right. I've not even ben trying that long, and sometimes it seems like everyone else is pregnant or has children.....

SianMA · Nov 14th, 2008, 13:45 PM

I always find my feelings towards other peoples good mood depends on how I'm feeling - if I've had bad news or a BFN or my chart is looking like I'm never going to ov then I feel bitter and sad and really jealous of everyone else's BFP/ good news.

As long as we don't get stuck in that moment of bitterness I think it's totally ok and natural to feel that way at times, after all we're all aiming for the same end result. I'm just glad I can come here and tell people that I feel that way without feeling like an awful person.

FEDup1981 · Nov 14th, 2008, 13:50 PM

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Originally Posted by SianMA

I'm just glad I can come here and tell people that I feel that way without feeling like an awful person.

Yes i feel that way too.

Normally im very happy for people, and always congratulate people on their BFP, happy news, and im usually lurking around the pregnancy forums. Its just this last week or 2, ive become so fed up of saying congrats to everyone else. I just feel a bit selfish at the moment. Id be happy with having the

come to stay for a few days, never mind a BFP!

Ilove · Nov 14th, 2008, 14:19 PM

I feel bad and a bit" Gawd arent people so thoughtless?" and "its not fair" when I see them say things like "Ive been trying for AGES, its been 4 long months!" or "Finally got my BFP after long long trying" (and it turns out to have been 6 months) I know they dont mean it though, and I also realise there are people whove been ACTIVELY trying far, far longer than we have, so I do try not to let it take over

The worst is when you meet people who seem to hate being parents, yell in their kids faces and generally abuse them, and are popping them out like theres no tomorrow...I just think if only I had that chance...just one. Any gender, any little personality...if only it was me

I think its only natural after its been a while

Nov 14th, 2008, 12:35 PM	#1
FEDup1981 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: UK Posts: 11,734	Have u become bitter yet? Months ago, when i was first started on the forum, just a few months into TTC i never understood why the LTTTC'ers were bitter (in my words, i dont want to upset anyone) but since my bad news 2 weeks ago, ive becoming so p*ssed off with the whole process, those who have normal cycles, and those who get BFP's without even trying. I know people dont realise what theyre doing, but it does hurt. Have u become bitter and resentful too? I just want to add that i dont mean anyone in particular, just life itself! So i hope i dont upset anyone xx

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Nov 14th, 2008, 12:48 PM	#2
Yearning Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Essex Posts: 142	Oh yes...been there and got the T-Shirt...I have felt both bitter and resentful...and on the odd occasion I sometimes still do. However I do try to curb it, others have told me that it is a selfish attitude to adopt, but it's so hard not too, when you have been TTC for over 7 long, unbearable years! I do understand Sweetie and I think that it is a perfectly natural and reasonable way to feel, some just let it become all consuming and that is very negative indeed... Always..Yearning.x

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Nov 14th, 2008, 12:49 PM	#3
moomoo Other BnB Addict Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Somerset - Oooh arrrr! Posts: 5,782	i can understand a bit, i find myself feeling very bitter after my m/c..although i now havent been ttcing for long, i can completely understand the bitterness. It must be so much worse when ttc number 1 too

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Nov 14th, 2008, 12:58 PM	#4
Yearning Trying to conceive (TTC) Active BnB Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Essex Posts: 142	Here's a PRIME example and it has only just happened! I was gazing at the Pampers advert, the one where it sing's 'Happy Birthday' to all the babies that are being born around the world..it's also to do with sponsership/immunisation. My son (nearly 13) looks at me and says 'that advert makes you jealous doesn't it?'. Is it that bloody obvious! Am I that transparant? Now I'm starting... Always..Yearning.x

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Nov 14th, 2008, 13:09 PM	#5
FEDup1981 Mum (Mom) BnB Elite Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: UK Posts: 11,734	Im glad im not the only one. Im sure it will pass. My emotions are usually all over the place, and i go through phases. This must be my bitter resentful phase! I know it isnt healthy, but sometimes we need to have a rant. Thank you all x

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Nov 14th, 2008, 13:10 PM	#6
Vestirse Mum (Mom) BnB Addict Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Nerdville - Silicon Valley Posts: 5,588	I have to admit I think I was bitter before I started... I had a premonition that it would take awhile and well, no surprises for me. I try to be happy for everyone though. No one is getting pregnant to rub it in my face!

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Nov 14th, 2008, 13:27 PM	#7
kaygeebee Pregnant (Expecting) Chat Happy BnB Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: WALES, UK Posts: 1,083	I am genuinely happy when it happens for others, but I do feel terribly jealous too. Same as Vestirse, I thought it would take a while.... and it looks like I'm right. I've not even ben trying that long, and sometimes it seems like everyone else is pregnant or has children.....

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Nov 14th, 2008, 13:45 PM	#8
SianMA Pregnant (Expecting) Active BnB Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: North Wales, UK Posts: 658	I always find my feelings towards other peoples good mood depends on how I'm feeling - if I've had bad news or a BFN or my chart is looking like I'm never going to ov then I feel bitter and sad and really jealous of everyone else's BFP/ good news. As long as we don't get stuck in that moment of bitterness I think it's totally ok and natural to feel that way at times, after all we're all aiming for the same end result. I'm just glad I can come here and tell people that I feel that way without feeling like an awful person.

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Nov 14th, 2008, 14:19 PM	#10
Ilove Trying to conceive (TTC) Inactive Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Cotswolds UK Posts: 1,205	I feel bad and a bit" Gawd arent people so thoughtless?" and "its not fair" when I see them say things like "Ive been trying for AGES, its been 4 long months!" or "Finally got my BFP after long long trying" (and it turns out to have been 6 months) I know they dont mean it though, and I also realise there are people whove been ACTIVELY trying far, far longer than we have, so I do try not to let it take over The worst is when you meet people who seem to hate being parents, yell in their kids faces and generally abuse them, and are popping them out like theres no tomorrow...I just think if only I had that chance...just one. Any gender, any little personality...if only it was me I think its only natural after its been a while

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