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Old Oct 28th, 2008, 12:24 PM   #1
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didn't get my BFP


Well, I tried testing yesterday morning and all I got was pretty much immediately ...

Am getting fed up of it to be honest, there I was sneaking tests around my mum's house so she didn't see and get overly excited or anything. The only thing is I'm on something like cd41 now, which is driving me mad

I don't think Chris is too bothered either, because he just keeps on that if it happens it happens, he doesn't seem to want to actively try anymore, well over a week now since we so I have probably missed my chance for this cycle


 
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Old Oct 28th, 2008, 12:45 PM   #2
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That's such an awful feeling. I hate the waiting & getting your hopes up just to get a . I hate it so much.

My mom and husband are both so excited and so anxious. I'm sorry your OH is giving up...if it makes you feel any better, it sucks to have him hoping and hoping only to get negatives. When AF came this month my OH was more upset than I was. I know he didn't mean to make me feel bad, but it made me feel like a failure.

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Old Oct 28th, 2008, 12:58 PM   #3
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The test while I did at mum's I got all excited about because I thought I saw a line as the dye was going across, and then all of sudden I clicked in that the line should be vertical not horizontal. And I have never been more gutted than I felt then

But that feeling of thinking I'd got a was even more intense than what I felt the first time Chris kissed me.

Why is it that the highs are so high and the lows so low??? I never thought I would feel this way


 
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Old Oct 28th, 2008, 13:12 PM   #4
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Im sorry, I know how your feeling sick of I had a mmc in April and got caught 1st month but now 7 months later still it feels like a will never happen dont it?

Im sure it will happen soon for us before we know it. I should have been due 6th Nov so feeling quite crappy altogether.

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Old Oct 28th, 2008, 13:15 PM   #5
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The test while I did at mum's I got all excited about because I thought I saw a line as the dye was going across, and then all of sudden I clicked in that the line should be vertical not horizontal. And I have never been more gutted than I felt then

But that feeling of thinking I'd got a was even more intense than what I felt the first time Chris kissed me.

Why is it that the highs are so high and the lows so low??? I never thought I would feel this way
Ugh, me either. When we started TTC it was mostly him. I was terrified, and kind of wanted to wait. What I remember SAYING was that it might take a while, so why not start trying. But when AF came, I realized that I didn't actually THINK that it would be hard. I figured unprotected sex=baby. You spend so long trying NOT to get pregnant that you figure getting pregnant is easy. I never thought I'd be one of these charting, message-board-posting, abbreviation-using, TTCers. And after the s this last cycle, I was devastated. I'm trying really hard to be upbeat now. I think it's easy now, because I can't do anything yet. Once the 2ww comes I'll be a disaster again. This time I'll wait longer to take the test, though...as torturous as it is to wait, it's worse to get the and wonder "was it just too early or is it really a negative?" every second of the day. So sorry.


 
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Old Oct 28th, 2008, 13:17 PM   #6
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I should have been due 6th Nov so feeling quite crappy altogether.
Oh, that's got to be hard. As hard as it is to get s every month, getting that and then losing it would just be so much harder. I'm so sorry.


 
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Old Oct 28th, 2008, 13:24 PM   #7
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I feel so selfish on here when I see what some of the other women are going through and I think to myself, "gosh they really do deserve sticky bean so much more than I do". Me and Chris have only been trying for a few months really, though I'd been hoping for about 6 months that he would come round to the idea lol

You see, I'm a big girl and I've never been particularly regular, so this may be for me one of my very long cycles for all I know. When I told Mum and it got back to Dad that I was trying all they could say to me was "well you'll need to lose some of your belly and start eating healthy"!

I think it's the twinges in my belly, the sickness and heartburn that are getting to me too. Because, I think, well maybe this is my and when I test, all I get is the And I'm embarassed to admit that I am soooo jealous of my friend, she got pregnant a year and a half ago now, without even trying, and she really didn't want her baby at first, and now she has this gorgeous little girl (who I'm god mother to) who she didn't want in the first place and it tears me up inside thinking, well why can't I be like that? Why can't I have the one thing that I want more than anything else at the moment?



 
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Old Oct 28th, 2008, 13:28 PM   #8
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I think we all know how you're feeling and it is hard. We just have to keep trying. Good luck girls!


 
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Old Oct 28th, 2008, 13:36 PM   #9
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Dont feel bad we all want a baby and understand how we all feel and even though I lost mine at 11weeks it dont make getting a harder for me we all want it so bad, we will all make it. Sooner or later we will all be on together moaning about our stretch marks and fat ankles


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Old Oct 28th, 2008, 13:40 PM   #10
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I feel so selfish on here when I see what some of the other women are going through and I think to myself, "gosh they really do deserve sticky bean so much more than I do". Me and Chris have only been trying for a few months really, though I'd been hoping for about 6 months that he would come round to the idea lol

You see, I'm a big girl and I've never been particularly regular, so this may be for me one of my very long cycles for all I know. When I told Mum and it got back to Dad that I was trying all they could say to me was "well you'll need to lose some of your belly and start eating healthy"!

I think it's the twinges in my belly, the sickness and heartburn that are getting to me too. Because, I think, well maybe this is my and when I test, all I get is the And I'm embarassed to admit that I am soooo jealous of my friend, she got pregnant a year and a half ago now, without even trying, and she really didn't want her baby at first, and now she has this gorgeous little girl (who I'm god mother to) who she didn't want in the first place and it tears me up inside thinking, well why can't I be like that? Why can't I have the one thing that I want more than anything else at the moment?

I know what you mean on so many levels. My little brother's friend, who is 14 years old, just got her and she's devastated. My friend from childhood got accidentally pregnant 3 times with her husband. My best friend has had unprotected sex twice and both resulted in pregnancy (SERIOUSLY!) and she's had abortions with both of them. My mom was using birth control and got pregnant with me. She had unprotected sex ONCE and got pregnant with my brother. WHAT THE HECK!?!? Why isn't it that easy for me!?!?

But then again...we've been trying a few months, which is NOTHING compared to some people.

Last cycle I had SO many signs I thought I was pregnant for sure. The broke my heart.

And I could definitely stand to lose some weight, which no one has brought up to me (thank goodness--they'd regret it if they did!) but I know. I was just thinking...I'm going to try to focus a little bit more on losing some weight and getting me healthier this month, and see if that works. Can't hurt. And it worked for my mom's friend, who had been having SUCH a hard time getting pregnant (ovulation issues, husband's reversed vasectomy, etc, etc...trying for over 2 years). She just took a couple months to focus on her...getting healthier, eating better, exercising, relaxing and all of a sudden, .

So...let's try to focus on US and know that it can only help our chances AND help our future children to have healthier mommies!


 
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