Omi

Im in the same dilemma as above. I had a mc in feb and have since gotten enganged. Oh's parents want to chip in for the wedding and oh says we're gonna have to tell them in case we do get pg as its gonna be a bit of a shock, lol!

I told 2 people i was pg and and about 3 people knew before that, that we were trying, mainly my mum and a couple of friends who are also ttc. Since the mc we have told a few more people..well, its a bit obvious now aint it,lol!

Apart from that its on a need to know basis really. people who have similar issues i usually tell, even if strangers as its nice to share and not feel like a freak if its taking some time, i mean!

I had a difficult time with the 'no drinking' as im never one to say no to a drink so was practically a recluse while pg (obviously i was gonna tell when 12 weeks..alas never got that far, but thats the plan in the future as well.)

I drank mineral water or tonic water with slice of lime- fake g&t or vodka & t, lol! Otherwise, we told a few lies like 'on medication'..lol!! Its funny having to turn all sneaky..like 'no, its ok, ill get myself a drink'!! Lol!! I will say this much..stay out of your local (i.e. regular pub/bar) if you can cause thats were i had to tell the lies, as everyone knows me there!!!

Good luck everyone!!

kaygeebee

We have told both sets of parents - as we would want their support, but no-one else until this weekend.

I close friend asked if we were trying, and I told her we were 'not preventing' but that I wasn't putting my life on hold and would 'see wht happens'. Of course that's a lie - I'm bloody obsessed - but I felt less like a crazy person.

Thing is - I'm crap at lying!!

JayleighAnn

my mum and brother know, two of my close friends and my mums close friend,but that's it we didn't feel like we should tell many people

Reedy

I have only told one friend & thats bcus she is also TTC so its nice to have someone to go through it with, which is also why i love this site so much x
We havent told anyone else not even our parents bcus when we do get pg we want it to be a suprise x

stargazer

We haven't told anyone either! Like others have said, its not really anyone elses business! We just dont want people asking all the time coz we dont want any added pressure. We just want to take our time, have 'fun' and see what happens.

SianMA

I just can't bear the though of telling the parent we're TTC or that I had an mc. Our lives would become one big round of them asking if we're pg ever time I'm ill or look a bit pale or don't have a drink!!

When I was pg the thought of getting our family together adn totally suprising them was so exciting. I think that made up my mind we're keeping quiet until 13 weeks.

Had to tell my manager though as my work can be quite dangerous, but then he needed to know about my mc too. I'm lucky he's a new dad and a really sympthetic guy so he's been great. That did make me feel kind of mean that he knew before my own parents but that was to make sure my baby was safe.