My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for 5 months and NOTHING. I'm 24, he is nearly 26, we're both healthy and very active and take care of ourselves.

I know that it takes the average couple 6-12 months, and maybe i'm jumping the gun a bit but I thought it would happen much quicker than this.

The reason i'm most upset and depressed is that everyone around me is pregnant except for me.

My sister who is nearly 30 and her husband who is 31 fell pregnant on their first try a few years ago. She is pregnant again on the second go, and try as I might I just cannot be happy for her. I know that sounds selfish, but they're older and haven't been trying half as long as us and BOOM, they're pregnant - its just not fair.

The thing that really annoys me is she is telling me to 'just relax' and it will happen - easy for her to say, all she has to do is look at her husband and she gets pregnant. I don't want to talk to her or my Mum (who I am normally very close to them both) right now because I know it will turn to baby talk, and right now I am crying just thinking about it. I know they're lucky for getting pregnant so easily and I know if they could wave a magic wand they would make me pregnant too, but I just can't feel happy for them...I am too upset.

My Sister In Law and her partner are in their mid 30's, they got pregnant straight away first go, and straight away second go (she is due anyday now) and if i'm not pregnant by the time the baby is due I just don't think I can go and see it.

Is what i'm feeling normal or am I being a self-centred selfish bitch? I know we haven't been trying for that long, but its really getting me down.

I saw a Dr when we first decided we wanted to get preg, had a full checkup, blood tests etc, i've been using OPK's and I ovulated last month but I don't think I tested long enough the other months, so I don't know if I did or not.

Its horrible feeling this way

You know what hun? It sounds just like me talking then .. lol.

I am 26 and my OH is 33 and we have been trying for 8 months. I have been using OPKs and charting and am not ovulating properly so went to the drs and they wont do anything yet so know exactly how you feel.

I dont think you are selfish at all .. I personally think that it is quite natural to feel that way. It doesnt mean you arent happy for them. Dont be so hard on yourself.

But I have now been told that I have to stop testing and stop charting and just "relax" and "dont think about it" etc and see what happens. So gonna try that for 6 months and then go back again.

I wish you all the luck in the world hun coz I do understand how you are feeling, as will a lot of people on this forum. I know its so hard but you just got to stick with it and Im sure it will happen for you.

Sending you loads of luck and baby dust

Thankyou so much Trinity.

I'm really glad I joined because I just don't know if what i'm feeling is normal??? I'm glad to hear that i'm not being selfish.

I too wish you to become pregnant very soon.

Thankyou for your support.

Sorry your feeling so down, i can sympathize with the feelings of frustration, I have been trying since Feb 06, i got pregnant last june but misscarried in july.

I have PCOS so i am not ovulating right at the mo, im lucky enough to have 3 children, but for some reason this time my body doesnt want to work.

Hope it happens for you soon.

xx

It always feels like everyone around you is pregnant when you start trying I can also sympathize with general how you feel.

Funny how easy you think it is before you start ... some people are very lucky never to experience the wait on trying & others aren't I guess its a bit of a raw deal well it can feel like it is.

I hate it sometimes when people tell me to relax, it will end in good news blah blah blah now it's generally not the girls who have supported me here but people in my life closer friends & family infact had one Aunt totally insensitive ask me why I want to bother its not all that How nice!

Theres a pretty good bunch of girls TTC'ing at the moment sadly most can sympathize with not conceiving easily/quickly at the moment so theres a understanding friendly bunch at hand Your not a selfish so an so just human

aaawww hunny it must be so hard for u everyone around conceiveing or giving birth xxxx everyone on bnb will help u if u need to talk

Hiya hun...

it's totally understandable how you feel right now and i can see why you are feeling this way, one of my closest friends is TTC and when i found out i was pg again i felt terrible!

Sometimes it happends for some straight away and other times not ... i think this sucks balls btw! ... and it can be hard, ppl who are Pg / get Pg when they know others are TTC find it hard to and they feel guilty!

Take it in your stride and im hoping it will happen for you (and all my other girls on here) ... Fingers crossed for a BFP for you and remember others are like you TTC, you will always find support,comfort and advice from us on here pregnant, TTC or otherwise.

Hope you pick up soon honey,

xxx

it is hard when it seems everyone around seems to be pregnant, or falls pregnant really quickly, but don't feel bad about the way you feel, your not being self centred.

Best thing to do is ditch the opks, and the charting - don't let it take over your life - i know its hard, but the more you worry and stress the less likely it is to happen. I concieved with my first with in 5 months, but now we are ttc no2 its just over a year, i was charting and opk'ing., but it was getting too much so i have ditched them and just 'going with the flow'
Are you taking follic acid, and decreasing the coffee... some people swear by asda cough medicine..??

Hi

Don't worry. As the others have all said, it's completely normal to feel this way although it makes you feel terribly guilty.

There's nothing worse than hearing the "just relax and it'll happen" mantra that people with children trot out. It's just not like that and sometimes it's hard to believe that it will ever happen.

The thing is to keep your chin up and allow yourself some self-pity and a bit of a blub every now and again to recharge your batteries for the next month and then get back into that saddle!

Don't lose hope. Good luck.

H

xx