Trying To Conceive

butterflies · Aug 12th, 2008, 10:54 AM

Well considering the set up of the wedding, we had a wonderful time.
DH behaved impeccably, and has done since yesterday afternoon, i can see what he has done, and yes he has brushed it under the carpet, but he is trying so hard to smooth the ridges left from the other day, he's even taken today off work to spend with me, and although nothing has been said, his actions are speaking volumes!

We need to talk this through i know, and i can't let it slide forever, for my own sanity i need to talk with him, fully and properly.

butterflies · Aug 12th, 2008, 10:55 AM

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Originally Posted by shmoo75

Its because if they dont talk about it it will either go away or, be ok in the end!!!!! They just don't understand we need to know how they feel and, that they too want a baby just as much as we do! They just automatically think nothing could be wrong with them or us and it will happen when it happens!!! It is sooooooo true men are from mars and women are from venus!!!!!!! I am sorry that you are going through this with your OH maybe once this wedding is out of the way you can have a good heart to heart and clear the air tomorrow?

to you

Ohh you're so right, if he says to me one more time, "it'll happen soon" i'll freak!!!!!!!!!!

wishing4ababy · Aug 12th, 2008, 10:59 AM

get out of the house - go somewhere neutral - just you 2 and tell him everything hun. You will feel so much better once it is out there. thinking of you hun.

butterflies · Aug 12th, 2008, 10:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Schmelly

My heart went out to you wen I read your post.

I agree with the letter idea. I usually decide after I have written a letter if I actually want to give it or not. Sometimes just writing it is enough to clear your thoughts and help you decide what to do. Sometimes, though, there are things which need to be said, and things the men in our lives need to be made aware of.

As for the 'pot'............I decided to go into graphic detail with my DH about cervical smears, swabs, etc (and even exaggerated a bit

), just to make him realise that the tests women face can be far more unpleasant and invasive. He ended up squirming and pleading me to stop

It did the trick and he accepted that his effort was much easier (if a little embarrassing). Can't you offer to give him a helping hand?

Good luck whatever you decide. I really hope things start to improve soon.

Thanks sweetie, means alot.
I like the idea of explaining the tests that women have to under go. I cannot fully explain how much i hate blood tests, and i've had to have 3 now for ttc, and each time i've had to go to the hospital alone and get it done. The least he could do is have a "bit of fun" and do the do in his pot and wahey, its done.......not that simple i know.........maybe i should offer to help him!!!!

LauraAlicia · Aug 12th, 2008, 11:52 AM

Hello, i just wanted to write and say i know what it feels like and sympathise with you...i was trying for over a year and thought it would never happen and OH did a semen test (We still haven't got the results and im nearly 26 weeks pregnant) It seems like everyone you know is having babies and everywhere you go you see mothers pushing prams.

I hope you feel better soon...write him a letter and tell him that he needs to have the test done, the sooner the better.

I'll keep my fingers crossed for you

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