Hi gals! Once again, you didn't let me down... you're such a fantastic bunch! Reeeeaaalllly appreciate all your replies so far... they're helping me figure out how I want to approach TTC from here on in. I haven't quite decided yet, but with your stories, I'll be able to make a good decision that I feel comfortable with.
Again, sorry for my looong messages, but I want to thank each of ya w/ a personal response:
ktsl123: Your story is just one of many I keep hearing! (What an amazing grandma!!) Now... how does one go about planning for an "accident"??
I can't deny it any longer... it really does appear that stress (even a little of it) does present a HUGE obstacle to getting P. Our bodies depend so much on hormones to function properly and I'm sure stress must interrupt hormone production to some extent.
Appleseed: I love to hear that others share the same worries that I do. *PHEW!* So I'm not an obsessive wierdo! I'd feel so alone without BnB.... not to mention crazy and neurotic for doing stunts like the raising of the bum!
Yaya: ~sigh~ I sooo envy you gals who get an increased sex drive around Ov. My silly body makes me get randy when AF comes! How frickin' unhelpful is that???
That's partly why our BD sessions get so stressful for me... DH and I have to really work at getting me "hot and bothered".
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Originally Posted by yaya  If it doesn't happen like that I try not to get upset. There is always another chance the following cycle after all! The biggest thing for me is to try and change my mindset away from the idea that -- "it has to be this cycle". I found it was that frame of mind that was really getting to me and making me become quite desperate at times. |
What a GREAT quote, Yaya! I really love your mindset... I'm going to try to adopt it as my own until I get my
!
molly83: Yes! Loads of sex and have fun! I KNOW DH will like that! I mentioned above that I have a killer low sex drive except when AF is here so I think I have to start a new thread to address my low sex drive issues! Thanks for sharing that it only took one "shot"
to conceive your DD... hearing that helps me to let go of the drive to BD frequently. I'm starting to work out what kind of BDing I'm comfortable with...
tansey: your DF and my DH must secretly share TTC tips or something! They think so much alike! I remember the cycle that I let my DH take charge of the TTC decisions... and I read that your DF was also doing the same for you that cycle! Yes... once again, they are in sync... my DH definitely touts the power of enjoying the
!
Loo: How interesting! You and molly83 have both conceived quickly without going the "Mission Conception" route and now, of course, when you TRY to have another, it just doesn't take!
There is magic in just going with the flow. You're so right... the body is amazing... if I just stop overburdening it with my TTC anxiety, it just might have a better chance to do its thing.
Chris77: Aww, thanks for the dust and well wishes! I see that you're also TTC#1 so lots o'
to you on your TTC journey too!
Farie: I'm just one little month behind you. I've been considering giving in and getting some PreSeed as well (been holding out on getting it because it's sooo expensive) because I'm definitely lacking in the EWCM departrment. If the new relaxed approach doesn't work, then I'll definitely ask the doctor for her opinion on whether the lack of EWCM is an issue or not... and PreSeed just may be the answer!
Snowdrop: Aww, hun, it's nice to see you on this thread... I remember you were a kindred spirit in my last thread.
We'll have to go on this new "relaxed" journey together... it's not going to be easy to let go. I was and still am a huge "milestone maker"... I keep passing by these silly milestones I set up for myself then get all devastated (e.g. I'm still hanging on to "try to conceive with a 29 year old egg!") Last cycle I tore myself away from BnB and spent more time on other things like chores and home reno projects and also going out to socialize w/ friends and family and to enjoy the summer weather. It helped a lot to keep my mind off obsessing, especially during the TWW. This cycle, I'm going to lay off a bit on the home stuff and spend more time on taking care of myself: indulging in hobbies, more quiet time and regular exercise. We should try to keep in touch w/ each other as we go through this together!
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