CloudyDay

Hi gals,

I think I'm in my TWW as of today... need several more days of higher temps to confirm. Just a bit o' background for those who don't know me:

• TTC #1
• I'm still 29... DH turned 30 last month
• Never had a before
• Began charting month or two before TTC
• Haven't had any tests done on myself or DH

As I enter my 7th TWW in my TTC journey, I'm finding my hope really being tested again. Seriously, I'm beginning to think that something must be wrong w/ either me or DH. It's getting very nerve wracking. I know the stats (e.g. 25% chance of conceiving each cycle) but, c'mon... what are the chances that a couple who charts and times BD really well cannot get P after 7 months of very focussed, careful, orchestrated TTC?? To add to my doubts, I've been reading Toni Weschler's wonderful book Taking Charge of Your Fertility

My main worries:

• Weschler strongly suggests that a couple who've TTC carefully with charting should not have to wait a whole year before getting some professional help. Weschler feels that 4-6 months of charting and TTC is long enough.
• Weschler also notes that fertile CM is crucial for getting P... I've had a lack of CM in general and near-absent EWCM... could that be it too??
• I've also been looking at my luteal phase patterns and seeing that they've been relatively long the last two cycles (13 days)... could I actually be conceiving but not able to maintain the pregnancy??
• Since a day or two ago, I began getting smelly vaginal secretions then got a sharp pain in my lower abdomen in the evening... oh no... an infection??

I REALLY wanted to conceive my baby "naturally" but it's just not working. I'm thinking I should try some of the "home remedies" such as taking Robitussin to increase my EWCM, eating yogurt w/ acidophilus to make my vaginal environment more sperm-friendly and to prevent infections, asking the doctor re: my progesterone levels in my luteal phase. ARGH... so many worries! I'll be going to the doctor today w/ DH to get a referral for a sperm test. That will help put one worry to rest OR get us on the road to correcting any spermy issues.

If any of you ladies out there can spare a bit o' time to share your success stories after long TTC journeys, PLEASE DO... I need some hope right now.


To my journal buds: See! Told ya I couldn't totally leave BnB!

miel

i have the weslcher book as well ...but as i mentioned just met a doctor in my shop yesterday...and he told me something very interesting on the top of all the main Factor that i have to put together to get pg...the sperm count of your husband is very important but some month it may have more and some month he may have less ( because of being tired or sick what ever ) doesn't mean is count is bad...
honey it's just a matter of time and timing ...i know it take long and it's hard but one month all the main factors will be here for us and we will get the BFP

miel

oh and in my journal i put the formula he gave me for my BD session...

CloudyDay

Aw Miel... you are like a cozy warm sweater to me... so comforting. Love ya! I did read that post in your journal yesterday (I was lurking). The gentleman was certainly sure of himself... I really hope your encounter w/ him becomes a story you'll tell your child one day of how she/he was conceived. Miel... do you really think everything's okay w/ me and DH and that it will just happen w/ time? I haven't gotten any tests done so I feel so in the dark and paranoid... I'm the kind of person who needs to know and understand what's happening, know what to expect, etc. or I get anxious and paranoid.

Greta

Yes chin up.. you're both young and I'm sure the key is just being patient and to keep going. I know one woman who cried every time she got her AF for a year and then not long afterwards she got pg and now has two children. Another friend of mine got pg after about 14 months. It was exactly the weeknd of her ov but the other times had been close to to that too. WHo knows what is going on in there? It's all a mystery really and needs some faith. Good luck. x

miel

most of my friends did fall pregnant after TTc for 10 month...so i like to believe we are more in the norm that having a problem since every single medical help tell us it can take 12 months...i am choosing to believe that as we are not on the 12 months mark yet sweetie...

i think what it's hard it's we want it now , we want it so bad that the time that it take make us worried and it should not , we should take this time as something special knowing when we are PG thing will never be the sane , this time is important we are acknowledging that we want to be mother that we are ready ...we are patient , we are waiting... it will make us even better mother as we will know what being patient mean and when we have hard time with baby will know how to handle it because we handle and truly live the ttc journey so we will be patient with our mother journey as well and will be good at it.

CloudyDay

Greta and Miel: thanks so much for sharing those stories about your friends. It's not something I've been able to ask my friends/family who've gotten P and all of the ones who I've heard about are gals who got P right away. So it's really helpful to hear your stories.

Greta: Chin's up... a bit! I just need to hear some more success stories before I can fully regain my faith. I love how you see it... "Who knows what is going on in there?" It really IS all a mystery, isn't it?

Miel, you said it very well: I want this so badly that the journey is filled with so much worry. But I know that at the end of it I will most certainly come out a much better mother - I will truly understand and know how precious and miraculous a baby is.

Hopefully more gals will post their success stories... then I can begin to regain a sense of faith that will keep me going for as long as it takes to get my .

gals!

passengerrach

keep goin hun it took me 9 months

CurlySue

Just one thing I noticed. You said your luteal phase was 'long' at 13 days. 14 to 16 days is the average and the normal so your luteal phase is fine.

They also say that the average it takes a couple to conceive is 8 - 12 months so you're not quite there yet, thankfully.

Every expert has a different set of rules but, you are not quite at the worrying stage, yet. Those who conceive in their first few months are, imo, the lucky ones, not the benchmark. When it hits 12 months, then you start thinking there might be a problem. After all, it's only something like 50 50 for those who get pregnant before 6 months is up.

Good luck

Snowdrop

Hi CloudyDay,

I hope you don't mind me gatecrashing, because I'm afraid I can't reply because I've TTC'd more than 6 months and got a BFP.

What I would like to say is thank you for posting the thread, I've been feeling very similar myself and have taken comfort from the responses you've had.

I've been TTC#1 just a month longer than you, since December 07, but we have a few years on you (me 37 DH 41). I've read the same book, which although was quite an insight, has added to my doubts.

Just wanted to say thank you really.

x