hubby not as on board as i thought..he wants a bfn

[doc123]

Feeling very sad and unsupported to day by by hubby.. we are kind of wttc but my cycle is a bit buggered and i think i might have ovulated this cycle (havent told him about it as he would have freaked out) but we naughty bd-d all the same..

Went out for dinner monday and i told him i was feeling funny like when i was preggo before- tingly boobs, feel pregnant for no good reason and new symptoms abdo cramping and feeling heavy, all of which are really unusual for me in my cycle. He guessed i thought i might be pregnant-but its too early to test really. I think i'm about 7 dpo-ish although dont know exactly..

Last night he said he wanted me to get a bfn this cycle as it isnt what we had planned (starting to try in august/sept-which isnt even that far away) and just said we should wait for a year instead...He seemed genuinely positively happy at the thought of me not being pregnant and putting it off...

I asked what he would think if it was a bfp.. he said he doesnt know....

I'm stressed at the thought of bfp but would be delighted. I told him i might feel a bit sad if it was a bfn especially as i've loads of symptoms and kind of hope it might be a bfp. He just laughed saying i was being silly!!!

Sorry to rant a bit.. its a beautiful day and everything feels positive towards a bfp this month and i couldnt be happier if it is.. but hubby clearly doesnt think the same!!! Feeling very sad...and a bit let down...

[baby.love]

Oh hun, Hopefully if you do get that he will feel differently. I think sometimes men are just scared of change. I hope it all works out for the best

[tansey]

Oh no, it's not good when you're both singing from different hymn sheets!
When i got pg, first month of trying, DF was mega shocked (he thought it would take ages!) but when i had MC he realised how much he wanted a baby too and is an angel now. So if it is a BFN he might realise that he does want it as much as you and be disappointed. If it is a BFP he'll get used to it, especially when he sees a scan or hears his baby's heartbeat! xx

[porkpie1981]

when i told my oh i felt pregger he nearly died and started all this " we where no suppose dto be ttc till september". I was ranging as i said " u also had sex with me when u knew i was on the pill". Well as u know i got my and alls fine now. I think they just get scared

[Suzanne]

Oh swetie no wonder your feeling so let down! August/September is nearly here what does a month make in the big scheme of things? I hope you do get what your heart desires and he comes round to your way of thinking real soon

[doc123]

Thanks guys!!! Have texted him to tell him exactly how i feel!!!

[Sambatiki]

Doc - Im sorry OH isn't being supportive. Esp as I know how much you want this. Men do get scared like everyone has said. Let him know how disappointed you are about having to wait.

Best of luck, hope that you get your this month. Then you won't have to worry about it.

MWAH

[doc123]

Thanks Samba..

Just spoken to him and i think he just doesnt want me to be disappointed if it is a bfn and doesnt want me to go through what i went through with the mcs again and hes majorly scared..

Got fingers crossed for both of us this month... your symptoms sound highly promising for bfp this month... when can you test hun???

[Newbie77]

Oh Doc, hopefully like the other girls say it is just change that scares him. One month shouldn't make any difference he maybe is just worried you will build your hope up too high and doesn't want to see you hurt again.

Good luck sorting things out, sure he will be on board if it is a BFP and he gets used to it....x.

[Sambatiki]

Doc - I tested this morning but Im not worried. There's always next month. I can't blame OH being worried about MC again, its only natural and because he loves you so much. Maybe play the TTC down a little and try to be a little more light hearted about it with him.... then rant away in here. I know when the time comes and I get my I'll be scared shitless until I see a pic of a healthy baby.

Best of luck hun