xxxjacquixxx

Ok, I feel really really pissed off now

Im not sure if I am over reacting but I feel really miffed at this....

I wrote in my jounal last week how last week when I was m/c I found out my bestest mate in the whole wide worlds daughter was pg. She is 17 and she is like a little sister to me...Ive known her since she was 7 and I do love her to bits. Anyways it was an 'accident' and she took the morning after pill but it didnt work. She has booked in for a termination via tablets next week and that was that. Anyway to be honest i did find it a bit hard to have her around for obvious reasons but have seen her a few times this week and discussed things with her etc and I felt ok about it.

Anyway she was admitted to hospital last night with bad cramps and it has come back this morning that she is suspected ectopic and is going down to surgery in the morning. She is 6 weeks or so along and they are confident all will ok.

My best friend called this afternoon to tell me the news and she says to me
'You want to thank yourself lucky, jac....at least yours wasnt as bad as ******' I was actually quite speechless!!!

I mean, am I over re-acting? But should I really think myself lucky?
Ok, I didnt have an ectopic, but I bloody well wanted my baby!!! Fuck, I dont consider myself to be 'lucky' at all!! Gosh, I must have been 'lucky' twice then hey!

I really do feel for her daughter, but she didnt bloody well want the baby, no way on this earth was she going to keep it, I mean shes been to alton towers, been drinking, and using slendertone since she found out.....

Oh some one pls tell me i'm being irrational and selfish! I can take it!

Sorry, rant over

Snowball

I dont think you should think yourself lucky hun. You lost your baby, that's hardly lucky.

Nothing hurts more than losing a baby you want so much. Ignore your friend, she obviously is lucky enough to have no idea what it's like to lose a baby.

I hope you're ok hun

miel

Jacquix...i don't know what to say ...how can someone compare somebody else pain with a other someone pain?
how rude!!!!
very very sorry my love!!!

xxxjacquixxx

I dont think she meant it to be horrible, I think it probably just come out wrong, but I just think it was an insensitive thing to say...

She has actually suffered an m/c about 9/10 years ago just before her youngest d/d was born and she really wanted that baby too......maybe she cant remember, or is she just concerned for her daughter....

Maybe I shouldnt take things to heart at the moment...

If she says it again though, I'll burst I know I will.

Younglutonmum

Awww hun, just want to send you massive

xxxxxxxxxx

shalagirl

Gosh Jacqui - ur friend has been very thoughless in what she said to you and ur not over re-acting u should be cross and annoyed. No one is lucky to suffer a loss no matter how better or worse it seems compared to someone's situation. Ur friend is prob abit wound up about her daughter (not that is an excuse) and wasn't thinking clearly what she said to you. U have ur own pain and grief at the minute and if ur friend and her daughter are going through some tough times they should maybe give u space and respect that its a sensitive time for you also.

xxxjacquixxx

Thanks girls

I'm not sure she is thinking straight at the minute as she is going through some tough times with her son at the moment, then she helped me through my loss now this, but there was another incident on monday as we had arranged for her to take me for my scan at the hospital to confirm my m/c and she picked her daughter up from her b/f's on the way to mine, she had intentions of bringin her with us as she needed to pick up the referral letter for her termination from her doc on the way back!

I mean I did lose it then, I was not happy for her daughter to come along and watch me greive for my LO and she was still pg with a child she did not want and made no secret of not wanting it, I mean WTF.?

My OH went mad when I told him and now this.........I love my mate, shes been there through everything and her daughter but I feel so hurt by these things and I'm scared I am going to resent her daughter now.

Lazy Leo

Oh dear god, what a thoughtless thing to say. In your friend's defence she has had to deal with the shock of finding out her 17 year old is pregnant and and then go through the fear of a potentially life threatening ectopic.

But to say you were 'lucky' is just insensitive and tactless - I know I was lucky in that my m/c was physically pretty pain free and early to boot, but it still felt like my world had collapsed.

I hope in time when your friend is over her shock and fear and your anger has subsided you can tell her how insensitive it was and she will give you a genuine apology which you can accept and that you don't fall out about it xx

Lu28

Oh hon I'm sorry, how insensitive. You're not overreacting at all my darling

porkpie1981

people dont think