owo

Well the title says it all really.
You probably already know that DH and I are TTC after mc in May which has made me even more determined to have a LO.
I am lucky and have quite clear ovulation signs. OV pain and EWCM combined.
I started getting a little EWCM on Wednesday last week on CD9 a little early but after MC who knows what my cycles will do, so we dtd on Thursday evening, Saturday and Sunday(TMI warning) I was on top so worried that not enough stayed up there, but it was that or nothing as DH was knackered. Then Monday CD14 i had a ton of EWCM so knew that then was the time, however we were both knackered and didn't dtd then, so we said we would definetely dtd last night to cover our basis, after all yesterday was CD16 and surely we're running out of time for this month. We got home from work and it was not so DH who suggested that we should last night after dinner, fine however after dinner all he was interested in was his PS3 and said i was making it too clinical this time and there was no fun and spotinaety(sp) in dtd. I obviously got the right hump and told him that he didn't seem to be serious about wanting a baby and stormed out at 10pm last night and went driving round the coutrylanes for about an hour and a half to vent off steam. Why are men like this? I have read stories on here about other men and thought "I'm so lucky because my DH is sweet and caring and wants a baby as much as me", now I've realised they're all the same. Realistically my sane side knows how much he wants to be a Daddy, but why don't men get that there is only a few days a month when we can get pregnant and we have to dtd then or not at all.
Sorry for the long rant, just needed to vent.
Thanks for listening.
xx

tink

they are funny creatures!but it is hard not to end up with it turning into something very clinical rather than fun!and then psychologically you get the opposite effect!but it does look as tho you may have covered some of you fertile days,dont forget them little swimmers can survive in there for a few days!so how long are your cycles usually?

aflight84

You know what - men can be real idiots some times. There's you trying to keep a level head dealing with all these emotions and all they wanna do is cling on to being a kid playing games - tell him he can play all the games he wants when his son or daughter is here to play with him hehe

I do hate the word "trying" though it really takes the fun out of it! I would just say we're not being careful! BD when you want to not when your cycle tells you you should. can stay alive a lot longer than we think so i'm sure if you BD when you think is about right he will be non the wiser!

Nicnac

It's good advice from the girls, but I know how you feel. I don't think there's a single journal where one of us hasn't ranted about our OH and their lack of enthusiasm/timing/commitment etc.

With mine, he was the same, thought it should be more natural, after all women have been getting PG for centuries. What they don't realise, is that we ladies have been up to the planning/the sneakiness/the organisation for centuries too.

It's good to have a rant at us girls, because we know how you feel. And for me it often saves a full blown argument with OH at home!!!

I found that when I stopped reminding him about fertile days/cycles/signs etc and just jumped on him when I knew it was the best time it all went a bit smoother. And if you don't get it that time, there's always the following morning etc.

Sorry for a long one back at you. Welcome to rant anytime

Lots of luck and

owo

Thanks girls.
The thing is i don't really know how long my cycle is because i was on BCP for 10 years, stopped taking it in March, got before first AF then MC in May and had first AF after 6 weeks on the 1st of July. I always remember being regular before i was on BCP but can't remember whether it was 28 or 30 day cycle and of course that is probably now thrown out by my hormones being all over the place because of MC. Hence why i'm just going by OV pain and EWCM. This is what we went by last time and i got pregnant straight away.
I really hoped that the same would happen again this time. BD all over the time i have OV pain and EWCM and bingo, but i doubt we have dtd enough. I know that swimmers can last a few days but i like to be sure.
I probably made the mistake in telling DH that this was my fertile time this time, last time it was over Easter and we just dtd all the time and he never knew it was my fertile time. I think this is where i have gone wrong, i told him so now he feels pressured. I don't think i'll make that mistake again!!

please08

My OH wants it every day so I'm a small bit lucky there, but then the days I'm not ovulating I'm like I'm tired he's then like come on the more we have the more chances of us having a baby then I'll reply back oh I'm not ov right now so there's no hope of it but I always end up getting on my back after a few smooth moves from him TMI hahaha

owo

Enjoy it while it lasts

Monkeh

It's always the same... they don't want to do it when we're fertile, and when it's past O days, they're all 'but we're trying to make a baby!!' Argh. We can't win.



Just don't tell him next time. I think just jumping him without him knowing you're OVing is the way forward!

owo

I definetely think your right. Silly me for thinking that he might be interested to know when OV was. I forgot that men are simple creatures and i just complicated matters. Won't make that mistake again.
chatting about this is really helping. Hopefully i'll go home from work tonight and won't bite his head off and say something I'll regret. DH left early for work today so haven't spoken to him this morning(let him stew all day )

please08

Tis been like this for years now lol, know each other since we're 12 obviously not bd'g since then like think these MACCA tablets are kicking in even more, got them for fertility reasons but think they're having the opposite effect on my OH