Mynxie

why is it so emotionally and physically draining?

Don't get me wrong, I think that we've all been prepared for TTC for a few months, but some of us have tried for years. Some of us have had problems to contend with that they knew of, others didn't know of problems and discovered them along the way. Some of us have had life changing sacrifices to make, including physical ones and then there's all the torture of BFNs, of fate being a bitch and so forth.

It's such a hard road. I sincerely didn't think that it would be this hard, this emotionally draining, this heartbreaking or that I'd have to sacrifice so much.

Ok... a bit deep for this time at night....but....meh.

Alexas Mommy

Aw, I hope you get your soon!! I know it was frusterating ttc and it only took 3 months for me, I can only imagine what it would be like going three years... GOOD LUCK!

Chocoholic

I sometimes feel the same way. Especially when I think about all the undeserving people who quickly get pregnant and have many kids ...

It's hard...

Hope we all get our soon...

loopylew

ditto!!

porkpie1981

butterflies

I totally agree with u there, i never every imagined it would at times make me resent my friends. Some who have fallen pregnant since we've been TTC and all but one of those now has had their baby, it hurts me loads. DH tries to be calm about it so not to upset me more, but i know it breaks him.

Its a huge dent to the male pride and to be honest i feel less of a woman as each month passes by and i do sometimes feel less of a woman than my friends who are pregnant or now mummies.

I also totally see where you are coming from with the sacrifices thing. I'll be honest, i enjoy smoking, even though i know its bad for my health and i shouldn't enjoy it so.
I've always said i'd quit when i find out i'm pregnant, and i still stand by that, because its not just my body that i'd be messing with, and i couldn't continue to smoke whilst pregnant, not ever.
For now though, i don't feel ready to quit, possibly because no matter how irrational it is i feel i'll never fall pregnant!
Even my doctor said, although it is best to quit not just because TTC but because of my own health, he said that he wouldn't criticise me for smoking whilst TTC and although it can decrease the odd's, many many people fall pregnant whilst smoking. Ultimately its my decision and i would happily quit if i got my , but right now it feels too much for me to handle along with the stress of TTC.

I know theres alot of people that will frown at me for this, but tbh, it doesn't worry me, i know in my heart of hearts i'll do the very best for my baby and i don't need t justify my own actions really, i just wanted to join in and share my views.

to all xx

Mynxie

I totally agree that sometimes I feel less of a woman. What makes me feel like even less of a woman is irregular cycles, when I have a very long cycle. It's a very strange feeling, almost like jealousy when your TTC and other people get pregnant straight away or by accident. Very harsh to feel like that, because you have all the guilt of feeling like that too.

maz

TTC is extremely hard. I've been off the pill for nearly 4 years now and still nothing. It is heartbreaking when that horrible cow turns up each and every month. We are waiting for IVF now - I've been told that I'm normal and DH has good little swimmers. To a certain degree I think that is making it harder for us. If I'd been told that I had PCOS or endo or whatever, at least there would have been a reason for us not conceiving. For me, it's so much harder to deal with, when you've both been told that physically you are healthy. I really feel as though I'm letting DH down and each month when I get to two days before AF I can see his face dropping when I tell him my legs ache and I feel knackered - it's a surefire sign that is coming to visit.

So, I'm with you mynxie when you say ttc is emotionally draining and heartbreaking, and chocoholic, I know where you're coming from when you talk about those that are less deserving, but at the same time I'd never which this pressure, strain, and heartache on anybody.

Fingers crossed there's nobody left in ttc by the end of the summer - lets see 1st tri swamped with all of us instead...

xx

Mynxie

I wouldn't say that someone else is less deserving, I'm not the person to judge, but it does make me question things, thoughts, fate, beliefs and so forth. On a personal note, I've made a sacrifice that no one should have to make on a TTC journey and sometimes I feel sour that I'm not a mum to a living child. I dunno, TTC is stating to take it's toll and it's hard.

Rumpskin

We have only been really seriously trying since my m/c for a few cycles now and it is physically draining.

I wish you all the luck in the world darling x